Welcome to another class of the Relationship School! It is a slight cold night out on the porch as we write this. The evening mist has descended like a carpet over the landscape.

Amidst the chilly winds in the outer world, we hope to contribute to your internal heat in this class.

With extra warm love,

What is it really that makes us do what we do?

How is it that we often know what we should do or want to do, but do not do that or do the opposite?

How is it that we can hold on to the habits which we know are not good for us, such as smoking, overeating, watching programs on TV that are not beneficial for us in the long run?

We humans tend to focus on what we can do to minimize pain in our life and maximize the pleasure in our life. We seek to satisfy needs in ourselves that can be conscious or unconscious.

What are the needs that we want to satisfy and that hurts so much when they are not to satisfied?

We can say that we humans have six needs. The four first and most fundamental are the certainty (also called comfort or security), uncertainty (variety), significance (being unique) and connection/love (to be in relationship with others).

The next two needs are to grow as a person and to contribute to a wider context, such as the society we live in or the world around us. The latter two, we can only satisfy when the four basic ones are satisfied to enough extent. Therefore below, we will first start with the four basic needs.

We humans prioritize these needs different, especially the first four needs, and this can lead to both development and to serious conflicts. To understand each other's prioritization of these needs is important.

Even more vital for the ability to be the conductor of your own life, is the understanding of your own prioritizing of those needs.

Article: Why do we do as we do?

An article filled with a rich content is what we deliver today. The subject is of course our six needs and how they affect our lives in different ways. Read and ponder for a powerful way to increase your understanding of your own behavior and the behavior of others. The article can be found via the link below as usual. If you can not click on the link, you can also copy and paste it into your favourite browser.


As always, you can also download the text so that you can print it or read it in the comfort of your own computer.


'One of the oldest human needs is having someone to wonder where you are, when you don't come home at night.'

(Margaret Mead)

Training Tip!

A training that we have both participated in is called "Date with Destiny". It is a training that goes deeper into the six different needs that are described in the article of this, and that is a part of Anthony Robbins Mastery University. The training also contains a day that is devoted to the relationship between masculinity and femininity.

Anthony Robbins is an American who is known to have helped many people change their lives. If you have not already made the acquaintance of Tony, his website is at www.tonyrobbins.com and his books can be find at most retailers such as amazon.com.

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