So this is what needs to happen for me to experience, for example, health. An example of a common regulatory framework for experience the value of health could for example be that I need to exercise at least 4 times a week and for at least 45 minutes each time, at the same time I need to eat food that is healthy, nutritious and rich in vitamins that has been cooked with care and love.

In addition I need to feel relaxed and calm, meaning not stressed out, every day and I have to fill my head with thoughts about nature and well being.

Mission impossible - almost

It is quite clear that the simultaneous fulfillment of these rules is quite possible, but very tough, in this case to look back at a week where I exercised 4 times 45 minutes and each day have been eating healthy food cooked with love, while I never felt me stressed out and always had healthy thoughts in my head.

The last may sound absurd, but it is often in such ways we have created the programming of our nervous system, often unconsciously. That all this must happen simultaneously and continously all the time for me to really experience my value.

Another example

Another example we have encountered is if I value wealth, to feel rich. What needs to happen for me to feel rich? Here, I may also have a convoluted set of rules on, for example, be completely debt free, have several million in a Swiss bank account, to buy what I want and whenever I want and never think a concerned thought related to money.

Markus: When I first came into contact with this perspective, that we have rules for what needs to happen for us to experience our values, I realized (with some well directed help) that I had a jungle to get through before I allowed myself to experience my top values in life.

It was almost inhumanly difficult. I changed out much of values on the top of my list of values so it is difficult to give examples of how the rules changed for a specific value, but the new values that I put on top of my list, I made the rules for that were much easier to achieve.

It seemed almost a bit ridiculous, and at first my achiever side who likes to be faced with difficult problems protested a little against the simplicity of it all. The difference afterwards, however, was significant in how relaxed I feel and how easy it is to feel a satisfaction in life.

So this is what needs to happen for me to experience, for example, health. An example of a common regulatory framework for experience the value of health could for example be that I need to exercise at least 4 times a week and for at least 45 minutes each time, at the same time I need to eat food that is healthy, nutritious and rich in vitamins that has been cooked with care and love.

In addition I need to feel relaxed and calm, meaning not stressed out, every day and I have to fill my head with thoughts about nature and well being.

Mission impossible - almost

It is quite clear that the simultaneous fulfillment of these rules is quite possible, but very tough, in this case to look back at a week where I exercised 4 times 45 minutes and each day have been eating healthy food cooked with love, while I never felt me stressed out and always had healthy thoughts in my head.

The last may sound absurd, but it is often in such ways we have created the programming of our nervous system, often unconsciously. That all this must happen simultaneously and continously all the time for me to really experience my value.

Another example

Another example we have encountered is if I value wealth, to feel rich. What needs to happen for me to feel rich? Here, I may also have a convoluted set of rules on, for example, be completely debt free, have several million in a Swiss bank account, to buy what I want and whenever I want and never think a concerned thought related to money.

Markus: When I first came into contact with this perspective, that we have rules for what needs to happen for us to experience our values, I realized (with some well directed help) that I had a jungle to get through before I allowed myself to experience my top values in life.

It was almost inhumanly difficult. I changed out much of values on the top of my list of values so it is difficult to give examples of how the rules changed for a specific value, but the new values that I put on top of my list, I made the rules for that were much easier to achieve.

It seemed almost a bit ridiculous, and at first my achiever side who likes to be faced with difficult problems protested a little against the simplicity of it all. The difference afterwards, however, was significant in how relaxed I feel and how easy it is to feel a satisfaction in life.


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