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Revolutionary Sex for Men with Alex Allman – SC 43

In this juicy episode I talk with Alex Allman about men, orgasms and sex. Giving her an orgasm isn’t what you think. Alex helps us get more honest and more present with our sex lives and how crucial it is to have other men in your life to bust your balls when you need it. While this episode is for the men, if you are a woman, I know you’ll appreciate how our guest is trying to help the men dance with you in the bedroom.

SHOWNOTES

How Alex’s childhood impacted his view of masculinity [5:50]
The two types of change [11:10]
Why being beautiful and successful early on makes change harder [12:45]
What happened when Alex was 39 that forever woke him up. [17:55]
Why only loving your partner for their positive traits will make you disappointed. [23:30]
The most important thing for a man to get that is so simple yet so complicated. [32:15]
How the “doting husband” can be sexually repulsive. [34:15]
What to do when you have erection troubles in the bedroom. [43:00]

HELPFUL LINKS

[bctt tweet=”What gives a women an orgasm and what makes you great in bed aren’t the same thing. – Alex Allman”]

Guest Bio

Alex Allman is the author of the best selling Revolutionary Sex programs for enhancing sexual pleasure, creating deeper intimacy and communication, and deepening sexual confidence. Since 1993 he has been studying and refining his heart-centered theories on sexuality and relationships. Through his writing, lectures, videos, and public appearances, he has helped tens of thousands of men, women, and couples achieve greater confidence, intimacy, relationship health, and love. Website: AlexAllman.life

The Definition of True Love – SC 42

Love. This word is one of the most commonly misunderstood words in the English language. In this podcast I give my definition of what true love really is. Here I cover the 3 stages of love in a relationship. Before age 30, I never got past stage 1. I think by looking at your own experience you too, will see that it’s time to update your definition of love.

SHOWNOTES

The difference between love and infatuation. [3:30]
The truth about love songs on the radio. [5:45]
What are the three stages of love? [6:37]
The huge gifts and power in a long-term relationship. [10:50]
Two action steps to get started today [12:40]

HELPFUL LINKS

[bctt tweet=”True love is challenge and support. – Jayson Gaddis”]

Boundaries – Relationship Tool With Lisa Dion – SC 40

Boundaries are by far one of the most important tools in intimate relationships. How much do you struggle to say no says a lot about how much you value yourself. You must get boundaries if you want to go the distance in a relationship.

SHOWNOTES

The huge breakthrough insight about boundaries that Lisa shared with Jayson [5:13]
The four things our brain is always scanning for to determine there is a threat or challenge [7:24]
What is Lisa’s definition of a boundary? [13:20]
Jayson and Lisa demonstrate how to set a boundary [16:33]
The big fear we all carry in ourselves [20:05]
The weakness many of us have in receiving a boundary request [22:02]
What are the most common feedback signs our body tells us? [25:50]
The three types of boundaries [30:56]
Jayson issues a boundary challenge [43:04]

HELPFUL LINKS

http://lisa-dion.com
http://synergeticplaytherapy.com
Monogamy and The Smart Couple Facebook Group (and report how your boundary challenge went!)

[bctt tweet=”A boundary is the point at which I can no longer be myself or I’m about to lose myself. – Lisa Dion”]

PODCAST GUEST

Lisa Dion has provided consultation and counseling to children, adults, couples and businesses for over 15 years. Her training and understanding of how the mind and a person’s biology drives human behavior allows her to offer clients a unique perspective and understanding on how to maximize their potential and develop a greater appreciation for themselves and the people in their lives. Lisa is the only person in the world holding combined certifications as a Senior Certified Demartini Method Facilitator^® and a Registered Play Therapy Supervisor. Lisa’s cutting edge approach gifts her the ability to meet the needs of Fortune 500 Leaders and out of control 3 year-olds, all in the same day. Lisa is dedicated to awakening certainty, presence and purpose in her clients. Visit her website here: http://lisa-dion.com/

How Circling Can Deepen Your Relationships – Decker Cunov – SC 38

In this podcast, I interview Decker Cunov, a leader who has deeply impacted how I show up personally and professionally. For over 10 years, he’s been one of the pioneers in a fast-growing transformational practice known as “Circling.” As usual Decker packs a punch in his own funky style. Pay special attention to our dynamic near the end.

SHOWNOTES

Why does Decker care about relationships so much? [4:17]
What was it like growing up as a sensitive kid. [7:15]
What IS “circling”? [11:36]
How circling is and isn’t like meditation. [15:05]
Why does circling matter in relationships. [15:58]
A quick way to play “intersubjective tennis” with your partner. [31:34]
Decker breaks down the steps of circling. [23:35]
What’s it like to “feel another person” in circling. [29:32]
Some of the traps of circling. [33:15]
Decker starts circling Jayson [43:36]
Jayson’s big aha from circling [50:10]
What Decker’s son said that blew him away [52:33]
The one thing that Decker said that personally impacted Jayson [57:01]

HELPFUL LINKS

Sentence Stem To Practice With Your Partner
Partner A: “What I notice as I’m with you is…”
Partner B: “Hearing that, I’m noticing…”
(Repeat and alternate)

[bctt tweet=”Circling practice is not a replacement for meditation, but for a lot of people, it’s a great start. – Decker Cunov”]

PODCAST GUEST

Decker Cunov is President at Integral Center in Boulder, CO, a company committed to inspiring people towards more fulfilling relationships. He’s spent the last decade working successfully with everyone from soldiers to teenagers, from the clinically dysfunctional to doctors & lawyers, from a mechanic in Wisconsin to top level executives in Silicon Valley, helping them reach unprecedented levels of success in relationship in organic and profound ways. More info: The Integral Center

3 Ways To Inspire Love Over Time – Adam Gilad – SC 29

This episode was a lot of fun. Former dedicated David Deida student Adam Gilad brings some excellent advice during this dialogue. We cover fatherhood, dating, marriage, and why Adam couldn’t do relationship early on and what he “figured out” along the way. He also shares his most recent wedding vows and so much more. I think you’re in for a treat here.

SHOWNOTES:

What lead Adam to teach about relationship? [3:55]

[In the world of online dating,] learn what women are saying..and what men are saying.

A personal share from Jayson: re-writing marriage vows [12:30]
The #1 thing that made Adam ready for deep relationship [13:40]
Adam shares his “one vow to rule them all” [15:55]
Reframe: the idea of marriage as “hard work” [18:10]
Playing the infinite game of love [25:10]
Why do people hold back on asking for what they need/want in relationship? [25:10]
The difference between finding and inspiring love [29:25]
The 3 ways to inspire love [33:20]
Adam’s answer to inspired marriages [43:15]
Adam brings a vulnerable share [44:55]
Jayson and Adam swap stories of being a father [47:40]

[bctt tweet=”I don’t believe in finding love…I believe in inspiring love, inspiring a partner.”]

BONUS: Listen to Adam’s vulnerable share about a serious battle with shame in the jungle with ayahuasca here http://www.jaysongaddis.com/cocktalk/. You’ll need to sign up, and look out for an email.

HELPFUL LINKS:

The Happy Couple Academy

Stephen Curry

The Enneagram

Finite Infinite Games by James P. Carse

John Gottman – The Love Lab

10 Agreements

ABOUT:

A prolific author, speaker, screenwriter, film producer, mentor and coach, Adam Gilad lives to spark his readers, clients and audiences into creating a robust, daring and fearless life of love, adventure and nurturance. An Emmy Nominated Executive Producer, Adam’s award-winning films have appeared on USANetworks, Lifetime and TNT. He has authored over 20 television shows and teaches dating, intimacy and deep eros. Adam has authored countless audio trainings and written several books, specializing in learning the “language” of the other gender, cultivating a dance of the sexes rather than a “battle,” the play of sexual polarity as well as a determined fearlessness in self-awareness, self-evolution, global responsibility, compassion and forgiveness.

For more on Adam, visit his site here.

How To Find A Great Marriage Counselor & Other Edgy Relationship Questions – SC 28

In this 2nd installment of AMAR (Ask Me Anything about Relationships) I dive into your burning questions and it gets a little intense in there! Thanks for bringing it everyone!

SHOWNOTES:

There’s a lot of great questions in here including: