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For Men Who Suck At Listening – SC 30

Do you know how to listen to an emotional woman? Yikes!

This one’s for the men out there (and yes, some women are not great listeners as well, I get that). If you’re anything like me you know it can be hard to listen to your woman. It’s probably in your best interest to sharpen your listening skills in a way that opens her up and softens her. How do you do that?

In 3 simple steps, which I outline in the podcast. I talk about what it means to FRACK your woman, and why you want to avoid it. Also I share 3 words to tell your woman so that she feels validated. Finally, I bring in a great rule of thumb I share with my wife when it comes to listening and understanding her. You’ll want to hear this one, as it was a game-changer for our whole relationship. Make sure to leave a comment or any questions you have below!

[bctt tweet=”You’re uncomfortable with your woman’s emotions because you’re uncomfortable with your own.”]

If you want to get her to calm down, or open up to you, download this:

Cheat Sheet: Less Drama

3 Ways To Inspire Love Over Time – Adam Gilad – SC 29

This episode was a lot of fun. Former dedicated David Deida student Adam Gilad brings some excellent advice during this dialogue. We cover fatherhood, dating, marriage, and why Adam couldn’t do relationship early on and what he “figured out” along the way. He also shares his most recent wedding vows and so much more. I think you’re in for a treat here.

SHOWNOTES:

What lead Adam to teach about relationship? [3:55]

[In the world of online dating,] learn what women are saying..and what men are saying.

A personal share from Jayson: re-writing marriage vows [12:30]
The #1 thing that made Adam ready for deep relationship [13:40]
Adam shares his “one vow to rule them all” [15:55]
Reframe: the idea of marriage as “hard work” [18:10]
Playing the infinite game of love [25:10]
Why do people hold back on asking for what they need/want in relationship? [25:10]
The difference between finding and inspiring love [29:25]
The 3 ways to inspire love [33:20]
Adam’s answer to inspired marriages [43:15]
Adam brings a vulnerable share [44:55]
Jayson and Adam swap stories of being a father [47:40]

[bctt tweet=”I don’t believe in finding love…I believe in inspiring love, inspiring a partner.”]

BONUS: Listen to Adam’s vulnerable share about a serious battle with shame in the jungle with ayahuasca here http://www.jaysongaddis.com/cocktalk/. You’ll need to sign up, and look out for an email.

HELPFUL LINKS:

The Happy Couple Academy

Stephen Curry

The Enneagram

Finite Infinite Games by James P. Carse

John Gottman – The Love Lab

10 Agreements

ABOUT:

A prolific author, speaker, screenwriter, film producer, mentor and coach, Adam Gilad lives to spark his readers, clients and audiences into creating a robust, daring and fearless life of love, adventure and nurturance. An Emmy Nominated Executive Producer, Adam’s award-winning films have appeared on USANetworks, Lifetime and TNT. He has authored over 20 television shows and teaches dating, intimacy and deep eros. Adam has authored countless audio trainings and written several books, specializing in learning the “language” of the other gender, cultivating a dance of the sexes rather than a “battle,” the play of sexual polarity as well as a determined fearlessness in self-awareness, self-evolution, global responsibility, compassion and forgiveness.

For more on Adam, visit his site here.

How To Find A Great Marriage Counselor & Other Edgy Relationship Questions – SC 28

In this 2nd installment of AMAR (Ask Me Anything about Relationships) I dive into your burning questions and it gets a little intense in there! Thanks for bringing it everyone!

SHOWNOTES:

There’s a lot of great questions in here including:

How to relate to someone who’s depressed [5:30]
How to find a great marriage counselor [17:45]
How to get over years of resentments [26:35]
What to do if someone is passive aggressive with you [34:25]

And more!

[bctt tweet=”We don’t tend to attract a new type of person until we have shifted internally somehow.”]

Marriage success, over time, isn’t about Band-Aids. It’s about building a foundation from the ground up that’s badass and indestructible.

HELPFUL LINKS:

Co-dependency Podcast Episode

The 1 Proven Method To Reach Your Emotionally Unavailable Partner

Clearing Resentments

Book: Wired For Love

Blog Post: For Guys That Say To Their Girlfriends “You Deserve Better Than Me”

To get your own questions answered on future Q&A podcast episodes, record a question here, or send an email to [email protected].

Staying In A Dead Marriage For The Kids – SC 27

This is a pretty charged issue. On the one hand, some people really believe divorce is one of the major culprits to kid’s problems. On the other hand, newer research suggests that kids are fine coming from divorced families, and in fact may even be more resilient and capable of handling life’s challenges. If you really think divorce is going to mess up your kids, think again…Listen in, then weigh in with a comment below.

SHOWNOTES:

The erroneous assumption that comes along with divorce statistics [3:00]

Do you want to show your children how to be a human being, navigating the ups and downs of life? Do you want to be transparent about that journey? Or do you want to hide out and pretend like you know what you’re doing and teach that to your kids?

What is the real issue here? [8:10]
The problem with divorce/marriage research [11:45]

[bctt tweet=”Kids who struggle relationally come from families who struggle relationally.”]

What I suggest you do if you are in a dead marriage [15:15]
Relationship tools to use if you want to avoid divorce [17:20]

HELPFUL LINKS:

Marriage Success Map

10 Agreements of an Indestructible Marriage

Articles:

Is Divorce Bad For Children?

Children Divorce Statistics

Staying In A Dead Marriage For The Kids

The 2 Types Of Co-Dependency & Why You Need Both – SC 26

Co-dependency gets a bad rap in most circles. I used to shame it as well. Yet, as I’ve matured, I’ve come to see that there is a lot of value to be found in co-dependency, yet it’s important to know the difference between the more neurotic kind and the wisdom kind. In this episode I go into what co-dependency is, where it comes from, and how we can relate to it with grace and honesty in our long-term relationships.

SHOWNOTES:

How does Jayson define co-dependency? [1:30]
Our two fundamental drives as human beings [3:40]

[bctt tweet=”Co-dependency is a necessary and required part of long-term partnership.”]

The dance of authentic co-dependency [12:00]
What’s cool about the drive to be authentic… [17:00]

HELPFUL LINKS:

10 Agreements of an Indestructible Marriage

Codependency In Marriage

“I Love You, But I’m Not In Love With You” -SC 25

“I love you, but I’m not in love with you…” Maybe you’ve heard this one before, or even said it yourself to someone you were breaking up with? I know I have in past relationships. If you’ve used this statement, or been on the receiving end of it, you need to listen to this podcast. There’s much more to the story. Find out by listening in…

SHOWNOTES: