DPIR is the Only Curriculum to Teach YOU How to Have Lasting, Powerful and Supportive Relationships with your Partner, Your Family, Your Friends and Your Colleagues, For Life

In 9 months from today, you can have unparalleled breakthroughs in your relationships where you will no longer feel stuck, disempowered and not seen. This rite of passage will take you through pleasure and pain and intense ups and downs, but you’re going to transform the way you relate to others, and it’s going to last a lifetime.

Stop struggling in your relationships. Learn how to create powerful, dynamic and supportive relationships, FOR GOOD

After more than 10 years as a psychotherapist, I got fed up with the same patterns… if you’ve gone to therapy before, I’m sure you’ve seen them…

A couple would come into my office after weeks of waiting for an appointment to discuss a relationship problem they were experiencing. I would spend the next 60 minutes helping them see what is causing their pain and try to help them address it, but it rarely worked.

You see, I had limited ability to follow up with the couples to ensure they did the work necessary… but more than that, the couples were rarely all-in and committed to improving the way they relate to others. They just wanted a quick fix to a systemic, life-long roadblock.

Frustrating.

I would regularly come home from the office and complain to my wife Ellen that I just wasn’t making a difference.

Then, I decided something had to change.

If I was going to actualize the DECADES of training I received at the foot of my mentors like Dawn Larsen (my first therapist), Duey Freeman and Duane Mullner (master gestalt therapists), Reggie Ray (Vajrayana Buddhist teacher), Alberto (Columbian shaman), Dr. John Demartini (Polymath human behavior specialist), Dr. Gabor Mate (MD, author and integrative badass), Stan Tatkin (couples therapist and author), and countless others, I knew I had to create a course… I knew I needed to build THE COURSE to solve the same problems I saw day-in and day-out… for good.

For months, I locked myself in my home office and started piecing together a curriculum that would help people become interpersonally intelligent relational leaders.

Then, in the Spring of 2016, I offered enrollment into the class that I called:

Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships (DPIR)

The Certification Program

DPIR is the course I needed when I was early in my partnership with Ellen. Fraught with my own shit, I wasn’t on track to build a lasting partnership, then marriage, and I decided to change that.

I’m excited to offer you this limited time opportunity to join DPIR so you can become an expert in Interpersonal Intelligence™, relating to others, and being seen and understood by the most important people in your life.

Before we talk about what’s inside DPIR, I want to ask you to envision your life…

Let’s talk about YOU.

Reflecting on the relationships in your life, how do you think you’re doing?

Honestly. 

How is your relationship with your partner, if you have one? Do you feel safe and secure, seen and understood, supported and loved on a daily basis? Do they have your back completely? Do you have theirs?

If you are single, do you really like yourself and your past relationship results?

How do you relate to your friends? Do you have at least three friends who are your confidants with whom you can talk to about anything and they are there to support you, not judge you or try to fix you, and who are also willing to challenge you to be better?

Does your relationship with your parents, siblings and possibly children reflect your ideals in relationship? Are you fully satisfied with how your relationships look? Do you have clear boundaries? Or are you laying your values and projections all over them hoping they will conform to your way of living life?

Finally, how is your relationship with yourself? Can you honestly look in the mirror and deeply appreciate the person staring back at you?

My guess is… you’ve got some room for growth.

Maybe your partnership feels like they’re always one foot out the door. If you’re dating or married, you might feel like you’re simply roommates and not in an intimate relationship. Sex aside, you don’t feel like they have your best interest in mind. They’re not committed to your relationship — they’re simply committed to their own needs and desires.

Or perhaps your relationship with your friends is subpar. You have dozens of “friends” but when you really think about it, you feel alone and not one of these so-called friends actually knows the real you. They just know the mask you put on. You might be afraid that if they knew the real you, that they’d leave..

And with your family… maybe you’re like so many Relationship School® students who have relationships with their parents that are mired with drama, obligation, and resentment. You might have some baggage from your childhood that has led you astray from your parents and you might be unknowingly bringing that into other relationships.

How about your relationship with yourself? How is your self-worth? Do you even like who you are? Be honest… It’s painful to reflect, but let’s get a real pulse for where you are right now…

Something here hurts, right? You’ve tapped into some pain and hopefully some ownership of that pain.

Listen, we all have our stuff. We all have our past, our scars and our painful experiences.

But they’re not your fault. You’re not alone in feeling this way.

With the 2020 Coronavirus and all of the challenges it has brought, you might feel more scared, alone, and disconnected.

With “social distancing” many of us have isolated, or we feel trapped with people that drive us crazy.

At some point you might feel like shit, and if you are normal, instead of reaching for an awesome partner or friend in your time of need that will actually be there for you, you fill that sadness and despair with buying crap you don’t need, you stare at your screen, or binge on Netflix. Consumerism tells us that we need another new gadget to ease our pain, but we buy yet another thing only to feel more disconnected and alone, again.

Omph…

Now, I want you to think about hitting the snooze button on your issues a little longer.

And let’s pretend it’s 9 months from now.

Imagine you’re waking up on that day with your current path in life. What is that morning going to look like?

Odds are, you’re going to have the same exact relationship with yourself, with your partner, and with your friends and parents.

What I want to do is offer you another route. An alternative future for you and your life.

What if, instead of waking up with an intimate relationship that wasn’t intimate, friendships that weren’t deep, and family members that walked all over you or kept you in your childhood role… your relationships were completely transformed? What if you finally took a stand for yourself and became a relational leader?

That is what this course is all about. 

DPIR Professional Certification Program is the only curriculum that will produce lasting, lifelong changes in the ways you relate to people in your life

This is your chance to get the relationship training you need to level-up from a hopeful, wandering lost soul to a courageous, committed love warrior who demands to be seen and treated in an empowering way.

Here’s what Julie G. said about her experience with DPIR:

The Interpersonal Intelligence™ skills you will learn are not just taught in an academic way with scientific support. DPIR students get to learn and practice these skills every week over the 9-month course with optional practice partners so these skills become part of their natural behavior.

As you can see, DPIR isn’t just a few tricks and tips or a handful of therapy sessions…

DPIR will take you DEEPER into yourself so you can relate to others in a skillful way, and so you can enjoy more love, more connection, and more money

You might be thinking “Wait… more money?!” Hell yes.

In the DPIR course, you’ll have an experience similar to Susan’s:

And when you speak up more at work, you become a relational leader that others follow.

You are walking around with more value. You demand excellence. People notice. You now have the opportunity to grow in your profession. Not only that, but as you increase your own self-worth, people find you more attractive.

Think about it. Do you want to be in a relationship with someone that can hang in there and work through conflict because they are standing up for themselves, or be with someone who blames and cowers away and hides in shame and embarrassment?

In other words, do you want to be a relational leader or a relational follower who is doing the same old childhood pattern? Which one is more attractive?

That’s not all. Check this out. 

You might even be ready to switch career paths and become a Relationship Coach, helping others, working from home, and doing deeply meaningful work. 

Are you destined to become a Relationship Coach?

A number of DPIR graduates have stepped so strongly into being a relational leader that they have gone on to take the Relationship Coach training (RCT). They fell in love with the support they received at DPIR and are building their life to pay it forward.

DPIR is actually part of the RCT program, so if you’ve ever considered becoming a Relationship Coach, this investment will get you started!

DPIR is a great way to not only get your shit figured out, but to also see if serving others as a Relationship Coach is your mission.

Experts Support Our Mission and YOU

The training in Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships has attracted the support of life-long advocates of healthy and safe relationships.

Here’s what our Ambassadors are saying about DPIR:

“I mean, none of us learned this stuff in school. We didn’t learn how to learn and we didn’t learn how to do relationships. Those are the two things that should be taught in schools.”

DR. STAN TATKIN
Ambassador – The Relationship School®

Alright, here’s a doozy for you… back in 1938, scientists began studying the health of 268 Harvard sophomores. This study lasted for 80 years, which constitutes the longest study of happiness with any group of people, ever.

THEIR RESULTS WERE ASTOUNDING…

But what do we do every day?

We wake up, brush our teeth, then head to work in order to “make us happy.”

We come home, greet our partner, roommate, or cat, then get lost in a hobby, Netflix or other work.

But we’re not working on our relationships.

Very few of us have the understanding of what the curriculum should be for improving relationships.

I just searched Amazon for “Relationship Advice” and 30,000 books are written on the subject.

 Let me tell you a little secret… they’re mostly garbage!

There are only a few books worth reading, and if you read them in the wrong order, you’re going to set yourself up for long-term frustration. You’ll learn tools that depend on a foundation you haven’t learned.

Why? Because those books lack partner practice. Those books lack Interpersonal Intelligence™. Those books don’t come with an experienced Relationship Teacher who will help you work through your issues with effective homework assignments that actually change things.

I know this because I tried to read a few books and change. For years, I read and studied. It didn’t work. In fact, in my 3 year, $60,000 graduate program on counseling and psychology, not one class was offered on relationships or on how to work through conflict. WTF?

That’s why I created DPIR – so you can earn your way to personal empowerment and fulfillment faster. 

DPIR is your opportunity to get a Master’s Degree in Interpersonal Intelligence™ and relating to others without wasting your time with unproven theories, short-sighted approaches or archaic, debunked processes.

Knowing that the Harvard study found that relationships and community lead to long-term happiness, are you willing to invest in yourself to demand the relationships you deserve?

Having a powerful intimate relationship, friendships and community is your birthright. Are you going to claim it?

Let’s talk about the price. It’s the biggest objection I hear to DPIR, and it’s a good objection.

$6,000 $1,997 isn’t cheap.

But if you’ve ever been in therapy, you know that the good therapists are never in-network and you have to pay out of pocket. That’ll run you upwards of $200/hour, with an average of 4-6 sessions a month. Over the course of 9 months, you’ll have spent over $10,000… but what will you have to show for it?

Maybe some relief here and there? 

Do you want 12 therapy sessions or a curriculum that will completely change how you do relationships forever? 

In my experience as a former psychotherapist and Relationship Coach, you might feel more clear about why you’re triggered in a certain situation, and you might even feel relief. But will you have lasting resolution and a framework to ensure the problem never happens again?

As therapist and neuroscientist Dr. Rick Hanson says, “Therapy is good at activation, but not installation.” 

Look, therapy can be awesome. But if you don’t learn a framework and practice with new tools consistently, you’ll keep repeating the same patterns over and over. 

If you haven’t been to therapy because of the social stigma around it, or maybe because your partner won’t attend, or even because you don’t think it’s necessary for you, you’re still walking around with baggage. Trust me.

In your friendships, in the way you relate to your parents, siblings and children, you’re not being seen for who you really are. And, you might not be seeing others for who they are because you’ve gotten lazy.

And that’s got to be a drag, huh?

To exist in the world as someone who is inauthentic and disempowered is a huge bummer.

It’s exhausting to parade around as someone else all day just so you can feel liked. In fact, one of the biggest hidden reasons people feel the “blahs” or depressed is because they are trying to be someone they’re not.

About a year from now, you’ll be 12 months older than you are today. If you join DPIR right now and commit to yourself, you’ll not only be older, but you’ll be wiser. You’ll have a deep understanding of who you are, what you need, how you relate to others, and how to create community.

You will be THE person at the party who knows how to work through interpersonal differences and conflicts (because you did the work and learned Interpersonal Intelligence™).

You’ll feel more fulfilled, mature, and empowered. You’ll probably sleep better, too.

Are you ready to commit?

Harville Hendrix, the founder of the Imago Method, said this about relationships:

Jayson
Founder, Relationship School®