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An Integrative Course for Singles and Couples on How to Create a Strong & Secure partnership

On Demand Video Workshop, Course Syllabus & Downloadable Resources

$597 (Value $1500)

This class is designed to get to the bottom of your communication breakdowns by helping you understand what happens when two people partner and how to work through your core challenges as a team.

This class integrates attachment science and theory, developmental psychology, interpersonal neurobiology, neuroscience, interpersonal intelligence, and present centered relationship coaching to help you understand and build secure relationships for life.

This is an excellent class for single or partnered people looking for a serious upgrade to their partnership or future partnership.

Inside this training, there will be eight video lectures, reading, journaling, and an integration/action plan for your next steps.

Enroll in this class to find out why it is so essential that you create and maintain an indestructible level of security in your most important relationships.

Okay, are you ready to take matters into your own hands and transform this?

If so, get Relationship Security now!


  • Insecure vs. Secure Attachment
  • How to work with an avoidant partner
  • How to work with an anxious partner
  • Three behaviors that promote relationship security
  • Four pillars to secure attachment
  • The most important agreement that enables security


Single or partnered
Stuck in communication breakdowns
Having trouble getting on the same page and moving forward as a team
Experiencing a partner who is distant and are unsure what to do
Experiencing a partner who is anxious and uncertain what to do
Motivated to grow and develop yourself relationally


  • Module 1 – Context – What is Relationship Security: Attachment Science and Theory (18 min & 52 sec)
  • Module 2– Attachment Styles (1 hr & 13 sec)
  • Module 3–  Understanding Our Nervous System in Relationships (44 min & 16 sec)
  • Module 4– A Partnership Is Like a HOME (16 min & 37 sec)
  • Module 5– How To Get Back To a Good Place – The Conflict Repair Cycle (40 min & 42 sec)
  • Module 6– More on Building Security (37 min & 7 sec)
  • Module 7–  Ellen & Jayson’s story and how they stay secure and strong no matter what (25 min & 28 sec)
  • Module 8– Integration and next steps (18 min & 27 sec)

Relationship Security

For a limited time, get it for a special price! $597!


Your course lives on our student portal. You’ll get a unique login to access all of your materials once you register for the course.

The cool part? If you own any of our other programs, you will use the same login credentials to access this course and have all of your programs in one place!


There are few things more valuable than having a community where you can get support while you work through a program. That’s what The Relationship Security community is for! We’ll be popping in the Facebook Group to respond personally to your comments and questions as you go through the course.

Meet Your Workshop Leaders!

About Ellen Boeder

Ellen Boeder, MA, LPC is a psychotherapist and coach for couples in Boulder, Colorado, who has been interested in how relationships actually work for as long as she can remember. Studying with innovative researchers and cutting edge practitioners in the field of psychology, relationships, and also yoga, for over 20 years has helped her integrate her approach to working with people in a sensitive, straightforward, deeply informed and embodied way. The most high level training she does is usually at home with her husband and two young children, as she finds her way through the real, raw, and beautiful experience of being deeply intertwined with others. Ellen is also a faculty member for The Relationship School®, is a long time yoga practitioner, and writes a blog that incorporates her studies in psychology with her life experience as a mother, called Rearranged by Motherhood.

About Jayson Gaddis

Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and “personal trainer for relationships”, is a global leader on interpersonal conflict and connection. He got tired of complaining that street-level relationship skills are not taught in school, so he founded The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping individuals, couples and teams work out their differences in order to have indestructible relationships. He is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching® and the Getting To Zero Method™. He’s been married to his amazing wife since 2007 and has two beautiful kids. They live in Boulder, Colorado. When he doesn’t live and breathe this relationship stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him.

“Jayson is an outstanding human and incredible visionary in the relationship space. I love what he’s doing with the relationship school. He and his wife Ellen live, breathe, and walk what they teach. They are the real deal.”

Stan Tatkin

Founder of the PACT Training Institute and the developer of PACT—A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy

“Jayson Gaddis is a next-generation leader in the relationship space.”

Terri Cole

New York-based licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, and founder of Terri Cole’s Real Love Revolution™️ & Terri Cole’s Boundary Bootcamp™️

Frequently Asked Questions

When will I get Relationship Security?

Once you enroll, you will receive an email with credentials for immediate access.

How long will I have access to the course?

Lifetime Access

How does it work?

Once you enroll in this course, you’ll get access to the TRS student portal. You will get downloadable PDFs for each class, MP3s, and other info to keep you on track.

You can listen to the lessons whenever you like, doing dishes, on a walk or run, or whatever suits you and rewind as many times as you like.

How long does it take to complete the course?

The course is self-guided, and you can complete it at your own pace.

Is there homework?

Yes, each class has a downloadable PDF with homework, reflection, ownership, and action steps.

Do you offer a payment plan?

Yes. We have two options: you can pay in full $597 or 8 weekly installments of $75

100% Money Back Guarantee

Because we are fully committed to helping you change your relationship and your life, we want to offer you this 100% money-back guarantee. After you participate and complete the entire course, including every class and homework assignment, and still don’t feel that we’ve delivered on our promise, we will happily refund 100% of your money. You must apply the education in this course to your life and your relationships. We know that if you do, you’ll get results. We take the learning environment seriously and maintain a high standard of truth, integrity, encouragement, and inspired action-oriented learning.

Full Terms and Conditions 

When requested within 14 days of the initial purchase, we will refund 100% of the initial purchase cost subject to the following terms and conditions.

You must complete the entire course and prove that you have completed a minimum of 30% of the required course exercises