In this episode, we tackle spirituality and relationships with soulshaping mentor Jeff Brown. Jeff has a great knack for calling BS on the spiritual movement and instead offering grounded, practical, embodied suggestions and pathways to continue to deepen into our wholeness. This one may get uncomfortable depending on where you fall in this conversation. It is my wish that you feel challenged and grow from it.
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What is Soulshaping? [12:40]
What are the most common human struggles that Jeff sees in his work? [14:00]
Why most people meditate and so “solo spirituality” over relationships. [16:30]
Jeff’s personal definition of spirituality [18:00]
How are some teachings distorting the ideas of spirituality and emotions? [19:30]
What can men do to grow spiritually? [24:00]
The lesson Jeff learned from selling windows door-to-door. [27:00]
How can women help men awaken? [29:30]
How do Jeff and partner navigate conflict in their relationship? [32:45]
Jeff gives his opinion on polyamory. [38:00]
What are Jeff’s preferred practices for personal growth? [39:45]
A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of 5 popular books- Soulshaping: A Journey of Self-Creation, Ascending with Both Feet on the Ground, Love it Forward, An Uncommon Bond, & Spiritual Graffiti. He is the producer and key journeyer in the award-winning spiritual documentary, Karmageddon, which also stars Ram Dass & Seane Corn. He is also the owner of Enrealment Press and an online school, Soulshaping Institute. A very popular presence in social media, Jeff lives in Toronto with his partner, poet Susan Frybort.
You’ve been a with a friend or partner who rambles on right? And, you check out or stop listening, but you let them talk right? We’ve all been there. Well, in this episode, we discuss how important it is to interrupt them and take command of the conversation. Wait, Am I suggesting you get aggressive? No way. I’m asking that you show your “care” for them by listening in an entirely different way.
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What is “captive audience”? [7:30]
Who is responsible when someone talks too much in an interaction? [10:30]
What is active listening? [12:15]
The gift that you might be giving the “over-talker”. [14:00]
Jayson gives some examples on how to interrupt. [15:30]
Jayson shares a personal story of a dude that talked WAY too much and what Jayson did about it. [21:30]
Feeling disconnected is a common experience in long-term relationships. The question is how to get reconnected? Well, first you’ll want to start to identify the ways in which you disconnect and locate the source. After some self-inquiry there, you can learn how to reconnect to you, and your partner. Listen to this one to learn how.
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Should you expect that your marriage will last forever? [4:00]
Do you need to love yourself first before you get into a relationship? [5:30]
The 10 signs that you’re disconnected from yourself. [9:30]
Do men change? Can they overcome their blocks? Of course. But sometimes, they need a little permission or a nudge from another man. I’m always thrilled to meet men who help other men come out of their conditioning. This week, I interview Connor Beaton, who is doing just that through his ManTalks events. Check it out.
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What is ManTalks? [9:00]
The rock bottom that Connor experienced that caused him to shift his life. [10:30]
The two options that Connor chose between. [18:00]
How traditional masculinity is a pitfall for many men. [22:00]
What does Connor see as the main challenge for men in relationships? [24:30]
The unique role of women and personal growth. [26:00]
Some the things that make men’s work not as accessible to most men. [28:00]
Do you want more connection while your partner wants more space? One of the most common issues in a partnership is the distancer/pursuer dynamic. In the second of our two-part series, Ellen and I help the distancers understand and deal with your pursuing partner.
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What does it mean to the distancer with a pursuer partner? [7:00]
Is the pursuer really being needy when they want attention from a distancer? [10:00]
The link between a pursuer and their childhood relationship with their caregiver. [12:30]
A better way to ask for space. [15:00]
Why the pursuer can be an MVP in a long-term relationship. [19:30]
A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of 5 popular books- Soulshaping: A Journey of Self-Creation, Ascending with Both Feet on the Ground, Love it Forward, An Uncommon Bond, & Spiritual Graffiti. He is the producer and key journeyer in the award-winning spiritual documentary, Karmageddon, which also stars Ram Dass & Seane Corn. He is also the owner of Enrealment Press and an online school, Soulshaping Institute. A very popular presence in social media, Jeff lives in Toronto with his partner, poet Susan Frybort.
