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Embracing Diversity In Your Partner – Christiane Pelmas  – SC 3

IN THIS EPISODE, you will learn:

Why and how partnerships matter and what they require
What ingredients are needed to truly tend to your partnership
How to work through bad habits by utilizing community for support and healing
The signs of health in partnership and “right” relationship
How to milk your intimate partner for the biggest medicine
The core of erotic intelligence how to break the homogeneity of sexuality
What’s next after deep connection, emotional intimacy and vulnerability

This episode’s guest, Christiane Pelmas, MSW, CSB, is a psychotherapist, educator and guide in private practice for more than two decades. She is a Somatic Sex Educator working with couples and individuals in traditional and non-traditional hands-on settings. She is the founder of the pioneering work of ReWilding and the co-founder and principle facilitator for The Magnificent Lover Course for Men.

For more information, visit and CONNECT with Christiane Pelmas:

http://www.therewilding.com/

http://www.magnificentlover.com/

What Is the Point Of Marriage If So Many People Get Divorced?  – SC 2

We continue to lay the foundational context for a rockin’ marriage. Will you be a smart couple or a dumb couple?

IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn:

REAL-LIFE applications to your intimate partnerships that actually work
How to get results in the midst of challenge and struggle
What the point of marriage is. If you don’t get this you’re screwed.
The fallacy of the “romantic notion of love”
About the optimal environment for child growth and brain development
How to get away from the chronic stress model of marriage
About the ins and outs of the “relationship cycle”
The connection between relationship and business success

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The 3 Types Of Marriages

Most couples don’t know why they continue to struggle over time or even what the source of their problems are…

Yet, one of the most common and detrimental misfires a couple has right from the start is not having the proper framework.

There are perhaps thousands of different “types” of marriages out there, and most rely on frameworks that are bankrupt.

But there’s only one framework (seriously, only one) that will give you long-term, mutually empowered marriage success.

And before we dive into that bulletproof framework, you need to understand three of the most common types of marriages people are in.

Knowing which camp you are in will help determine if you will succeed, frustrate, or fail.

This is key advice for newlyweds or folks about to get married. This information is also designed to educate married couples, helping you determine if you are going to go deeper, stay just “roommates” over time, or part ways in a painful divorce, and you may as well if you don’t choose wisely.

Another way to look at the 3 types of (more…)

The Main Goal Of A High-Functioning Marriage

Why did you get married? Or if you are not married, why bother? What is the point? (I asked this on facebook recently and got about 200 responses that were all over the place) Does it really matter? These are all very important questions I asked myself when I publicly stated over and over, “I’ll never get married, ever.” If most businesses are set up to maximize profits while serving an ever-greater number of people, what then is the goal of a marriage? We can answer this important question using the business metaphor. Notice how the business example has two components, serving self (profits), and serving other (solving a problem the consumer needs). So, let’s build on that. For most people the goal of marriage is to be happy. While I understand that, it’s an impossible

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How to Create Healthy Expectations In A Marriage

When is it okay to have expectations in your marriage? What is an example of an expectation I can have without setting my spouse up for a resentment?

I remember when I first met my wife, I “expected” her to be a climber/skier, like me. This led to a lot of fights and a lot of suffering. She felt judged. I felt resentful.

Most of us do this to some degree, that is, until we get clear on our realistic and honorable expectations and let go of the rest.

Here’s a few short comments on the subject along with what NOT (more…)

4 Things to Do if Your Marriage is Stuck, Flat, or Drifting

I see it all the time: Married couples who are withering away, married after many years but are simply pals, buddies, roommates. A long-term partnership gone stale. Newlyweds who get stuck in the weeds (wounds) after the honeymoon wears off and have no tools to move forward. New parents, who after a few years of marriage, begin to drift due to the demands of children. An affair, after kids, a stagnating connection, and the absence of sex. And, on and on…

It’s all normal and understandable.

But folks, it doesn’t have to stay like this. Marriage and parenting are designed to get at the deepest of (more…)