This episode is key for millennials who are about to get married. Too many people skip this conversation prior to marriage.
IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn:
How to tell the difference between honesty and reckless honesty.
The three criteria of honest communication
How to offer honesty without being critical.
One question to ask before saying anything ‘honest’
How honest communication without shaming can move your relationship forward
Learning to receive feedback well
The 4 conversations every unmarried couple needs to have (16:45)
How to create space for honest feedback
Dealing with arguments and conflict in an effective way
Knowing when and when not to seek professional help
How to have the ‘money’ conversation, especially for young people
Keeping things fresh and alive for the long-term
The importance of being friends with other couples
About Jay Jay is a relationship coach on a mission to help unmarried, millennial couples learn how to better communicate and compromise, so they can feel not just ready, but prepared in their commitment to each another. When he’s not coaching his clients, he’s curating and hosting cool date night events for couples. He’s also the host of the popular A New Approach To Us: Couples Workshops and Couples Game Nights in New York City.
You can find Jay below and be sure to grab a copy of his ebook “4 Conversations Every Unmarried Couple Needs To Have [If You’re Serious About Your Relationship]”
When I was 20 or so I cheated on my girlfriend. When I was 32 or so I had an emotional affair. In this episode I share more about what I learned about myself during those and then I discuss why so many affairs happen and what you can do about it.
IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn:
how to deal with your emotions
how to move past an affair quickly
how strong people take the path of personal development and growth after an affair
why it’s important to look in the mirror
how to recognize the “victim” mentality and re-empower yourself
how fear plays a crucial role in causing an affair
why coming back into your heart is essential to preventing an affair
effective methods for dealing with affairs
For more information, visit and CONNECT with resources mentioned in this episode:
To see your partner as a sacred mirror and sanctuary for the growing your greatest actualized self
The true characteristics of a long-term partnership
How your partnership is the optimal container for complete transformation of yourself into the highest possible version imaginable
How to fall in love and why this is more important than being married
How to take radical responsibility for being loved in every moment of your life
How to actually get your needs/wants met in a partnership
How to know if conflict in your relationship is driving you toward or away from more magnificence
There’s a ton in this episode so dive in and go slow. You will also want to check out Annie’s blog post “Should I stay or Should I Go?” And, Here’s a great question from Annie to ask yourself if you are trying to decide to stay or leave:
Is the person I’m being called to become by what my partner’s asking me to become (if you take on the growth-development framework), will you become a more extraordinary version of yourself? If who they are asking you to become is a constricted, small, tight version of you, then this is probably not the person you want to be with.
However, if you identify as the smaller version of you, then, you are going to hear your partner’s feedback as criticism and blame and might make them wrong in the process. So, pay attention to these finer points. Here are two tweetable quotes from Annie. Just cut and paste on FB or Twitter.
[bctt tweet=”Falling in love is not safe to your status quo self. – Annie Lalla”]
[bctt tweet=”Relationship is designed to emancipate your from the smallest version of yourself. – Annie Lalla”]
About Annie:Annie Lalla has spent her life studying the labyrinthine world of emotions–mapping the complexities of communication & subtleties of relationships. A philosopher, speaker and a thought leader, Annie is known as the “Cartographer of Love”. With an Honors Science Degree, major in Human Biology & Philosophy (minor in Buddhism), her studies include integrative psychology, evolutionary science, neurochemistry, therapeutic sexuality & systems dynamics. Alongside explorations in mystic poetry, classic literature & metaphoric narrative are professional certifications in NLP, Coaching & Hypnosis. All these realms converge in her unique Relationship Coaching practice. There, she helps individuals attract, create and foster extraordinary connections that maximize freedom and minimize shame.Specializing in love, sex & conflict resolution, Annie teaches her signature method: ‘The Art of Fighting’. She sees conflict as a crucial part of intimacy development. ”Arguments are opportunities to understand your partner better, when handled with maturity & skill they can be used to bring you closer instead of farther apart.”www.annielalla.com
