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The Class You Never Got In School – SC 54

One of the most fundamental skills we need to navigate life’s challenges is not formally taught to us. We learn through the school of hard knocks and most of us get some pretty big scars. These scars don’t heal unless you use the very best methods to become stronger. Join me here as I invite you into something very special. Something that could impact us well beyond our life.

SHOWNOTES

The flawed thinking behind simply wanting a great relationship. [3:00]
What could have benefited Jayson had he taken a relationship class as a kid. [4:00]
How wanting to be liked is impacting children’s integrity with themselves. [5:45]
Jayson’s puts his stake in the ground. [9:15]
The big flaw in the current school system. [11:00]
Jayson’s bold invitation. [12:30]

HELPFUL LINKS

Marriage After Kids, Are You Doomed? – SC 52

Does having children ruin your marriage? The stats are against most of you who get married and choose children. But why is this, and what can you and your spouse do about it? Find out this and so much more as Jayson & Ellen use their own story as another example of what’s possible during the hardest of times.

SHOWNOTES

A powerful definition of a mature person. [2:20]
The gloomy article on parenting that got Ellen and Jayson fired up. [6:15]
The negative view of marriage. [7:50]
How women are impacted after having a baby. [9:20]
The defining moment that Ellen remembers, but Jayson blocked out. [11:30]
The biggest factor that will impact your overall happiness in life [17:30]
What Ellen said to Jayson that hit him in the gut like a truck and woke him up big time. [21:45]
Ellen shares what Jayson does consistently that helps her show up more fully in their marriage and their family. [24:45]
An important perspective that can help you deliver your truth more effectively. [28:00]

HELPFUL LINKS

How To Deal With Value Differences – SC 49

In this episode, a listener asks about making your partner wrong and how to deal with them when you have very differing values. It’s a common challenge that some couples “wake up” to after being together a few years. And, it’s super tricky if you have kids and need to find common ground.

SHOWNOTES

The difference between making a partner wrong to avoid intimacy and doing it because of different values? [1:37]
How to parent when your parenting values are different? [3:40]
What you must learn about your partner before you decide to spend your life together. [5:10]

HELPFUL LINKS

Boundaries – Relationship Tool With Lisa Dion – SC 40

Boundaries are by far one of the most important tools in intimate relationships. How much do you struggle to say no says a lot about how much you value yourself. You must get boundaries if you want to go the distance in a relationship.

SHOWNOTES

The huge breakthrough insight about boundaries that Lisa shared with Jayson [5:13]
The four things our brain is always scanning for to determine there is a threat or challenge [7:24]
What is Lisa’s definition of a boundary? [13:20]
Jayson and Lisa demonstrate how to set a boundary [16:33]
The big fear we all carry in ourselves [20:05]
The weakness many of us have in receiving a boundary request [22:02]
What are the most common feedback signs our body tells us? [25:50]
The three types of boundaries [30:56]
Jayson issues a boundary challenge [43:04]

HELPFUL LINKS

http://lisa-dion.com
http://synergeticplaytherapy.com
Monogamy and The Smart Couple Facebook Group (and report how your boundary challenge went!)

[bctt tweet=”A boundary is the point at which I can no longer be myself or I’m about to lose myself. – Lisa Dion”]

PODCAST GUEST

Lisa Dion has provided consultation and counseling to children, adults, couples and businesses for over 15 years. Her training and understanding of how the mind and a person’s biology drives human behavior allows her to offer clients a unique perspective and understanding on how to maximize their potential and develop a greater appreciation for themselves and the people in their lives. Lisa is the only person in the world holding combined certifications as a Senior Certified Demartini Method Facilitator^® and a Registered Play Therapy Supervisor. Lisa’s cutting edge approach gifts her the ability to meet the needs of Fortune 500 Leaders and out of control 3 year-olds, all in the same day. Lisa is dedicated to awakening certainty, presence and purpose in her clients. Visit her website here: http://lisa-dion.com/

3 Ways To Inspire Love Over Time – Adam Gilad – SC 29

This episode was a lot of fun. Former dedicated David Deida student Adam Gilad brings some excellent advice during this dialogue. We cover fatherhood, dating, marriage, and why Adam couldn’t do relationship early on and what he “figured out” along the way. He also shares his most recent wedding vows and so much more. I think you’re in for a treat here.

SHOWNOTES:

What lead Adam to teach about relationship? [3:55]

[In the world of online dating,] learn what women are saying..and what men are saying.

A personal share from Jayson: re-writing marriage vows [12:30]
The #1 thing that made Adam ready for deep relationship [13:40]
Adam shares his “one vow to rule them all” [15:55]
Reframe: the idea of marriage as “hard work” [18:10]
Playing the infinite game of love [25:10]
Why do people hold back on asking for what they need/want in relationship? [25:10]
The difference between finding and inspiring love [29:25]
The 3 ways to inspire love [33:20]
Adam’s answer to inspired marriages [43:15]
Adam brings a vulnerable share [44:55]
Jayson and Adam swap stories of being a father [47:40]

[bctt tweet=”I don’t believe in finding love…I believe in inspiring love, inspiring a partner.”]

BONUS: Listen to Adam’s vulnerable share about a serious battle with shame in the jungle with ayahuasca here http://www.jaysongaddis.com/cocktalk/. You’ll need to sign up, and look out for an email.

HELPFUL LINKS:

The Happy Couple Academy

Stephen Curry

The Enneagram

Finite Infinite Games by James P. Carse

John Gottman – The Love Lab

10 Agreements

ABOUT:

A prolific author, speaker, screenwriter, film producer, mentor and coach, Adam Gilad lives to spark his readers, clients and audiences into creating a robust, daring and fearless life of love, adventure and nurturance. An Emmy Nominated Executive Producer, Adam’s award-winning films have appeared on USANetworks, Lifetime and TNT. He has authored over 20 television shows and teaches dating, intimacy and deep eros. Adam has authored countless audio trainings and written several books, specializing in learning the “language” of the other gender, cultivating a dance of the sexes rather than a “battle,” the play of sexual polarity as well as a determined fearlessness in self-awareness, self-evolution, global responsibility, compassion and forgiveness.

For more on Adam, visit his site here.

Staying In A Dead Marriage For The Kids – SC 27

This is a pretty charged issue. On the one hand, some people really believe divorce is one of the major culprits to kid’s problems. On the other hand, newer research suggests that kids are fine coming from divorced families, and in fact may even be more resilient and capable of handling life’s challenges. If you really think divorce is going to mess up your kids, think again…Listen in, then weigh in with a comment below.

SHOWNOTES:

The erroneous assumption that comes along with divorce statistics [3:00]

Do you want to show your children how to be a human being, navigating the ups and downs of life? Do you want to be transparent about that journey? Or do you want to hide out and pretend like you know what you’re doing and teach that to your kids?