Evolutionary Love – SC 166 – Andrew Harvey

Evolutionary Love – SC 166 – Andrew Harvey

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Do you ever wonder if your relationship pain is guiding you deeper into whatever you need to heal yourself? What kind of relationship do you have with God? With reality? In this fun interview, Andrew Harvey explores how you can create evolutionary love that is much bigger than the “you” you know yourself to be. Hang on for a wild ride as Andrew takes you into a sacred outlook on how relationships work and how they can serve your soul’s calling.

Here are a few of the highlights:

SHOWNOTES

  • Andrew’s definition of true love [10:00]
  • Why is love hard? [11:00]
  • 3 ways to build and cultivate true love [13:00]
  • ‘The shadow’ and an exercise in shadow-work [20:00]
  • Taking responsibility for disowned parts of yourself [27:00]
  • Advice about purpose for when you’re feeling lost in life [28:00]
  • The role of suffering on a spiritual path [37:00]
  • A quote by Rumi [39:00]
  • What is the most important thing people need to learn in relationship? [41:00]

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Andrew Harvey is the Founder Director of the Institute of Sacred Activism, an international organization that invites concerned people to take up the challenge of our contemporary global crises by becoming inspired and effective agents of change. Sacred activism is a form of compassion-in-action that is born of a fusion of deep spiritual passion with wise radical action in the world. The large-scale practice of Sacred Activism can become an essential force for preserving and healing the planet and its inhabitants.
Andrew Harvey has taught at Oxford and Cornell University, as well as at various colleges and spiritual centers throughout the world. He has written over 30 books. www.andrewharvey.net

Loyalty in Gay Relationships – SC 164 – Jean Malpas

Loyalty in Gay Relationships – SC 164 – Jean Malpas

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Loyalty is essential in a long-term partnership. Is loyalty different for gay couples? What honest conversations and boundaries are you both talking about? In this episode my guest Jean Malpas has some excellent tips for addressing these concerns and for giving your partner the benefit of the doubt.

Here are a few of the highlights:

SHOWNOTES

  • Understanding cisgender and transgender [2:00]
  • At what age do people start to identify with their gender? [4:00]
  • An issue that comes up for any couple, gay or straight [8:00]
  • What’s ok and what’s not ok in an open relationship? [11:00]
  • What is the one essential factor in a successful relationship? [14:00]
  • Is there a difference between gay & straight couple relationships? [15:00]
  • Being mindful about areas of shame in relationship [21:00]
  • What is “minority stress”? [22:00]
  • Advice for couples who are struggling in relationship [33:00]

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GUEST BIO

Jean Malpas, LMHC, LMFT is the Director of the Gender & Family Project at the Ackerman Institute for the Family, Director of International Training, and psychotherapist in private practice in New York City. He has presented on issues of gender, sexuality, couple and family therapy in the US and internationally. His work on gender and sexual diversity appears in numerous professional publications and is featured on media outlets including National Geographic’s “Gender Revolution: A Journey with Katie Couric,” MSNBC’s “All In With Chris Hayes,” Frontline’s “Growing Up Trans,” The New York Time, New York Magazine, The Atlantic, The Guardian and Vogue.

Will Porn Ruin My Relationship? – SC 163

Will Porn Ruin My Relationship? – SC 163

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QUESTION: How okay do I have to be with my partner consuming pornographic images for pleasuring himself? What’s the place for porn in a growth and development oriented long term relationship?

I don’t actually feel okay with that at all regarding the fact that we don’t have a very active sex life. I know thoughts and fantasies are free and I should maybe not be mingling in that private area of his life. But it does hurt me deeply when I know he’s in the next room doing his thing while I am in mine sometimes longing for intimacy with him. It’s hard for us to find a routine with intimacy, because we don’t share a bed room. We sleep in different rooms, because of different rhythms, snoring and on account of me being a light sleeper.

But, how much porn use is okay, normal, do I have to be okay with? What’s the place for porn in a growth and development oriented long term relationship? I feel cheated upon,The fascination is with the pictures, not anymore with me, although I know I am attractive. He says my nagging turns him off, but my nagging is often about his checking out… Do I have to get okay with it? I find being loving and supportive and gentle with him extremely hard and my heart hardens because of what he does. Although he says, he loves me and the porn doesn’t mean anything and is just a quick inspiration. Very frustrating….

SHOWNOTES

  • What’s porn’s place in a relationship? [2:00]
  • How porn can negatively affect a relationship [5:00]
  • Porn is not the bad guy [7:00]
  • Porn, like any compulsion, can be a wedge between two people [10:00]
  • Ramifications of porn [12:00]

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The Purpose of Marriage and the Truth About Soulmates – Arielle Ford – SC 162

The Purpose of Marriage and the Truth About Soulmates – Arielle Ford – SC 162

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Arielle Ford explores the ups and downs of marriage, what to do with a new age nice guy, and how to rekindle the spark after stuckness. This week’s guest got married at age 44, and realized she sucked at listening and didn’t know anything about partnership. And now she teaches people all over the world the about the power of attraction, soul mates, and love.

Here are a few of the highlights:

SHOWNOTES

  • Talking vs communicating [6:00]
  • The purpose of marriage [8:00]
  • Shocking facts about divorce [12:00]
  • Women: How to fill up your oxytocin tanks [17:00]
  • Men: How to rebuild testosterone [18:00]
  • Do both partners need to be into growth and development? [21:00]
  • Stepping back into your feminine after being in work-mode [27:00]
  • How to have a difficult conversation in a positive way [33:00]
  • How to lighten the mood when you’re triggered [38:00]

 

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Arielle Ford has spent the past 30 years living and
promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is
the author of the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE
SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of
Attraction. Her book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate
offers a groundbreaking shift in perception showing couples how to have a deeper and more fulfilling relationship. Her latest book is Inkspirations: Love by Design: Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your Soulamtethe world’s first transformational coloring book.
Arielle has been called “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love.” She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends.