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Use The Power Of Community To Improve Your Marriage – SC 51

Do you have any friends in your life that lovingly challenge you? If not, you’re missing out on big growth that could help your primary partnership.

SHOWNOTES

Why loneliness can literally kill you. [2:30]
The trap of only relying on your partner for support. [7:02]
How you can speed up the learning in your relationship. [9:45]
A great way to kill your sex life with your partner. [11:00]
When it might be a good time to get new friends. [12:30]
The first person who told Jayson he was full of shit (and why he loved it) [15:45]
How to skillfully use judgment to help your friends [17:30]
How to show up more powerfully when visiting your family. [20:55]
Jayson’s invitation. [27:10]

HELPFUL LINKS

How & Why My Wife And I Chose Marriage – SC 50

In this episode, I bring on my better half, my wife to rock it out with me. We had fun exploring the early stages of our relationship and what had us “choose” each other. There are some funny and not so funny shares in this one. I’m grateful Ellen is joining us here and here’s to more to come from the two of us.

SHOWNOTES

How did Jayson and Ellen first meet? [9:07]
What you must learn about your partner before you decide to spend your life together. [14:30]
What had Ellen ask Jayson out? [15:05]
Shitty advice Jayson got from a therapist and an astrologer. [18:45]
How did Jayson overcome his “grass is always greener” pattern? [24:40]
One of Jayson’s best accomplishments of his life. [28:00]
The simple yet powerful distinction that Ellen did that allowed Jayson to choose to commit. [30:15]
How do you know if your partner is “The One”? [33:45]
A huge thing that must happen before you should even consider marriage. [35:00]
Jayson’s challenge to the listener, both for those in a relationship and single. [43:15]
Leave your comment in Monogamy and The Smart Couple Facebook Group

HELPFUL LINKS

The Definition of True Love – SC 42

Love. This word is one of the most commonly misunderstood words in the English language. In this podcast I give my definition of what true love really is. Here I cover the 3 stages of love in a relationship. Before age 30, I never got past stage 1. I think by looking at your own experience you too, will see that it’s time to update your definition of love.

SHOWNOTES

The difference between love and infatuation. [3:30]
The truth about love songs on the radio. [5:45]
What are the three stages of love? [6:37]
The huge gifts and power in a long-term relationship. [10:50]
Two action steps to get started today [12:40]

HELPFUL LINKS

[bctt tweet=”True love is challenge and support. – Jayson Gaddis”]

Boundaries – Relationship Tool With Lisa Dion – SC 40

Boundaries are by far one of the most important tools in intimate relationships. How much do you struggle to say no says a lot about how much you value yourself. You must get boundaries if you want to go the distance in a relationship.

SHOWNOTES

The huge breakthrough insight about boundaries that Lisa shared with Jayson [5:13]
The four things our brain is always scanning for to determine there is a threat or challenge [7:24]
What is Lisa’s definition of a boundary? [13:20]
Jayson and Lisa demonstrate how to set a boundary [16:33]
The big fear we all carry in ourselves [20:05]
The weakness many of us have in receiving a boundary request [22:02]
What are the most common feedback signs our body tells us? [25:50]
The three types of boundaries [30:56]
Jayson issues a boundary challenge [43:04]

HELPFUL LINKS

http://lisa-dion.com
http://synergeticplaytherapy.com
Monogamy and The Smart Couple Facebook Group (and report how your boundary challenge went!)

[bctt tweet=”A boundary is the point at which I can no longer be myself or I’m about to lose myself. – Lisa Dion”]

PODCAST GUEST

Lisa Dion has provided consultation and counseling to children, adults, couples and businesses for over 15 years. Her training and understanding of how the mind and a person’s biology drives human behavior allows her to offer clients a unique perspective and understanding on how to maximize their potential and develop a greater appreciation for themselves and the people in their lives. Lisa is the only person in the world holding combined certifications as a Senior Certified Demartini Method Facilitator^® and a Registered Play Therapy Supervisor. Lisa’s cutting edge approach gifts her the ability to meet the needs of Fortune 500 Leaders and out of control 3 year-olds, all in the same day. Lisa is dedicated to awakening certainty, presence and purpose in her clients. Visit her website here: http://lisa-dion.com/

How Circling Can Deepen Your Relationships – Decker Cunov – SC 38

In this podcast, I interview Decker Cunov, a leader who has deeply impacted how I show up personally and professionally. For over 10 years, he’s been one of the pioneers in a fast-growing transformational practice known as “Circling.” As usual Decker packs a punch in his own funky style. Pay special attention to our dynamic near the end.

SHOWNOTES

Why does Decker care about relationships so much? [4:17]
What was it like growing up as a sensitive kid. [7:15]
What IS “circling”? [11:36]
How circling is and isn’t like meditation. [15:05]
Why does circling matter in relationships. [15:58]
A quick way to play “intersubjective tennis” with your partner. [31:34]
Decker breaks down the steps of circling. [23:35]
What’s it like to “feel another person” in circling. [29:32]
Some of the traps of circling. [33:15]
Decker starts circling Jayson [43:36]
Jayson’s big aha from circling [50:10]
What Decker’s son said that blew him away [52:33]
The one thing that Decker said that personally impacted Jayson [57:01]

HELPFUL LINKS

Sentence Stem To Practice With Your Partner
Partner A: “What I notice as I’m with you is…”
Partner B: “Hearing that, I’m noticing…”
(Repeat and alternate)

[bctt tweet=”Circling practice is not a replacement for meditation, but for a lot of people, it’s a great start. – Decker Cunov”]

PODCAST GUEST

Decker Cunov is President at Integral Center in Boulder, CO, a company committed to inspiring people towards more fulfilling relationships. He’s spent the last decade working successfully with everyone from soldiers to teenagers, from the clinically dysfunctional to doctors & lawyers, from a mechanic in Wisconsin to top level executives in Silicon Valley, helping them reach unprecedented levels of success in relationship in organic and profound ways. More info: The Integral Center

How To Find A Great Marriage Counselor & Other Edgy Relationship Questions – SC 28

In this 2nd installment of AMAR (Ask Me Anything about Relationships) I dive into your burning questions and it gets a little intense in there! Thanks for bringing it everyone!

SHOWNOTES:

There’s a lot of great questions in here including: