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Keys To Mastering Relationships & Life With Dr. John Demartini – SC 60

Did I interview Yoda or just world renowned human behavior specialist Dr. John Demartini? Okay, buckle your seat belt for this one and be prepared to have some of your paradigms twisted and your feathers ruffled. I could have grilled this guy for hours, but I kept it to one hour to respect his time. Be sure to listen to this one twice and take notes. From no one being committed to you, to the fact that everyone is dishonest, I’m sure this episode will confront and serve you in many helpful ways. Enjoy!

SHOWNOTES

The one statement Dr. Demartini said that rocked Jayson’s world. [7:45]
How infatuation is an insight to ourselves. [10:30]
Dr. Demartini’s relationship status? [11:30]
Do long-distance relationships work? [12:30]
How to be true to yourself in relationships. [15:45]
Dr. Demartini’s date with a 95 year-old lady. [23:00]
How our values powerfully influence our lives. [24:45]
What about when two partners have opposite values? [27:00]
What’s the link between health, stress and values? [32:30]
What happens if we run from challenge? [35:00]
How to deal with someone who is lying to you. [43:15]
What about sexual polarity and passion in relationships? [45:15]
Is quantum entanglement a real phenomenon? [49:00]
Why do we tend to attract partners who mimic our parents? [55:45]
If you’ve been hurt in a relationship, do you need to heal through relationship? [58:30]

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GUEST BIO

Dr. John Demartini is a world renowned specialist in human behavior, a researcher, author and global educator. He has developed a series of solutions applicable across all markets, sectors and age groups. His education curriculum ranges from corporate empowerment programs, financial empowerment strategies, self-development programs, relationship solutions and social transformation programs. His teachings start at the core of the issue, addressing the human factor and range out to a multitude of powerful tools that have proven the test of time. He has studied over 29000 books across all the defined academic disciplines and has synthesized the wisdom of the ages which he shares on stage in over 60 countries. His presentations whether keynotes, seminars or workshops, leave clients with insights into their behavior and keys to their empowerment.

Dr. Demartini has addressed public and professional audiences up to 11000 people at a time across the world and shared the stage with some of the world’s most influential people such as Sir Richard Branson, Stephen Covey, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Donald Trump and many more. From the thousands of testimonials he receives annually, Dr Demartini’s work changes people’s lives forever.

How To Create Healthy Expectations In Your Relationship – SC 59

There are two kinds of expectations in a long-term relationship. Knowing the difference can help you sink or swim in your partnership. See if you can get honest about your expectations of yourself and your partner in this episode.

SHOWNOTES

The two kinds of expectations [5:45]
Why laying a trip on someone doesn’t work in a partnership [9:30]
Why trying to force someone to change never works. [11:45]
Monogamy as an example of how to set an expectation. [13:45]
Jayson’s challenge to the listener. [17:15]

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How Do I Know When It’s Too Hard? – SC 57

Relationships get hard. But how do you know when hard is too freakin’ hard? And, what do you do about it? In this episode my wife and I explore a very common complaint about long-term relationships, especially after the initial honeymoon phase wears off. Are you making your relationship hard or are you making it easy? Believe it or not, you are in the driver’s seat on this.

SHOWNOTES

How do you know when your relationship is too hard? [5:30]
The decision Jayson made that was crucial to his relationship. [15:00]
Does Ellen ever feel that motherhood is too hard? [17:00]
The perspective that matters most in a relationship [18:45]
How to work through conflict in a relationship? [20:15]
What about working through conflict on your own, without your partner or community? [22:30]
Why it’s not wise to “pick your battles”? [26:45]
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100% Responsibility Vs When To Leave The Relationship & Other Relationship Questions – SC 56

Your relationship questions are answered in this episode. We cover a lot of ground. One theme is how to deal with “value” differences in an intimate relationship. This one is really good because it can tear a relationship apart trying to fit each other into your respective boxes of how you prefer they be.

SHOWNOTES

How long to wait for your partner to blend your families and get married? [7:15]
How can partners adapt in a relationship when one partner has a chronic illness? [11:45]
Why do men lie? [14:00]
What’s the reason our relationship improves when my man hangs out with this guy friends? [17:30]
How to tell your guy about erectile dysfunction without making it worse? [20:00]
What skills are best to use when you’re highly triggered and avoid an argument? [21:45]
How to keep childhood issues from breaking up your relationship? [23:45]
How do you know when to take 100% responsibility and when to leave a partner who is not willing to do the work? [26:00]
What if your ex is creating challenges for me to blend families with my new partner? [30:00]
When you have different values, what’s the best way to deal with that? [33:30]
Does it make sense to avoid dating men whose taxi light isn’t on, like Miranda said in Sex & The City?
What about when partners have opposite views on how to handle money in a relationship? [40:45]
Long-distance relationships: how do I get my man to show me that he’s emotionally ready to commit? [42:45]
What should a woman do with her kids when their dad just walks out? [44:15]
How to deal with a man who is emotionally unavailable? [46:45]
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The Purpose Of Relationship Pain – SC 55

Relationship pain has a very clear purpose. If you are hip to it, you’ll thrive in relationships. If you are uneducated here, you’ll run away and play the victim. Direct and to the point, I suggest a very important daily practice for you to strengthen your mindset about long-term partnership. Pain hurts indeed. And, what if pain was your ally in disguise?

SHOWNOTES

Your only two choices you have about your relationship pain [4:30]
What is one of the harshest versions of relational pain [6:00]
The first thing to NOT do when in relationship pain. [11:00]
The good news about pain and stress [15:45]
What happens when you just bounce from relationship to relationship. [17:00]
The link between your emotional pain and your numbing habits. [21:45]
What makes someone really unattractive. [25:00]

Relationship Pain Daily Practice

I have two choices with my relationship pain:

1. Use it to make me weaker by whining, complaining, and blaming others (or myself).
2. Use it to make me stronger by seeing it as my ally to master the lesson it’s bringing me.

It’s 100% of the time up to me to choose.

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The Class You Never Got In School – SC 54

One of the most fundamental skills we need to navigate life’s challenges is not formally taught to us. We learn through the school of hard knocks and most of us get some pretty big scars. These scars don’t heal unless you use the very best methods to become stronger. Join me here as I invite you into something very special. Something that could impact us well beyond our life.

SHOWNOTES

The flawed thinking behind simply wanting a great relationship. [3:00]
What could have benefited Jayson had he taken a relationship class as a kid. [4:00]
How wanting to be liked is impacting children’s integrity with themselves. [5:45]
Jayson’s puts his stake in the ground. [9:15]
The big flaw in the current school system. [11:00]
Jayson’s bold invitation. [12:30]

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