Jayson, Author at The Relationship School®

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How to Create Healthy Expectations In A Marriage

When is it okay to have expectations in your marriage? What is an example of an expectation I can have without setting my spouse up for a resentment?

I remember when I first met my wife, I “expected” her to be a climber/skier, like me. This led to a lot of fights and a lot of suffering. She felt judged. I felt resentful.

Most of us do this to some degree, that is, until we get clear on our realistic and honorable expectations and let go of the rest.

Here’s a few short comments on the subject along with what NOT (more…)

4 Things to Do if Your Marriage is Stuck, Flat, or Drifting

I see it all the time: Married couples who are withering away, married after many years but are simply pals, buddies, roommates. A long-term partnership gone stale. Newlyweds who get stuck in the weeds (wounds) after the honeymoon wears off and have no tools to move forward. New parents, who after a few years of marriage, begin to drift due to the demands of children. An affair, after kids, a stagnating connection, and the absence of sex. And, on and on…

It’s all normal and understandable.

But folks, it doesn’t have to stay like this. Marriage and parenting are designed to get at the deepest of (more…)