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The Relationship School is Helping Veterans

Did you know that, according to the American Psychological Association, nearly 25% of service members returning from Operation Enduring Freedom and Operation Iraqi Freedom have reported symptoms of PTSD? And did you know that most veterans come home and their marriages and relationships fall apart?

Warren McKee was one such veteran who lost his family, became addicted to drugs, and ….Warren’s life fell apart. More on Warren’s story here.

But then in 2016 Warren signed up for The Relationship School and his life completely transformed.

Now, Warren is a Certified Level 1 Relationship Coach that’s taking the tools he’s learned at The Relationship School to teach veterans in Austin, TX how to communicate with their partners.

“I’m providing some street-level tools from The Relationship School to people who may find it challenging, or even impossible, to communicate to their partners.”

Along with the help of a therapist, Warren is providing tools to veterans and their partners to show them how to better communicate with individuals that suffer from PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).

If you think it’s hard to communicate with your partner, try attempting to do so while having flashbacks of war or being triggered by certain tones in someone’s voice. Damn!

Yet, Warren claims these veterans are learning how to tame their hyperactive brains by listening to others using the tools he’s teaching.

“These tools are showing them what being present in a conversation looks like, what that feels like. It’s amazing to witness.”

The power that feeling understood holds is incredible.

These veterans are feeling understood by their partners for the first time, and vise versa for their partners, and it’s transforming their lives.

When was the last time you felt truly understood by someone? Do you remember what that felt like?

All our victim stories show their true colors when we feel understood and we get to recognize their limitation if we choose.

It may be the greatest gift you can give to another to listen to them until they feel understood. This understanding gives rise to the gifts of presence and connection for those involved.

If these traumatized veterans can lean into their fears of communication and use these tools to connect with their partners then so can you.

Are you ready to learn the tools you need to get into deeper connection with your partner and yourself?

Check out The Relationship School for podcasts, blogs, and products in all things relationship, and check out the coaching page to schedule a call with one of the fantastic Relationship Coaches to support and challenge you to be your best self while getting the connection you deserve.

If you want to get schooled in relationships like Warren did, check out DPIR (the Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships) to get the class you were never taught in school.

Wanna learn more about how you can get involved with your local vets center or how to connect with other resources available to vets in your area? Reach out to Warren at [email protected] and find out how.

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In the featured photo, from left to right, are veterans Steve Srotir, Levi Chettle, and Warren McKee at an event for The Relationship School.

Warren McKee served in Baghdad, Iraq from 2007-2008 in the 186th Military Police Company. He was honorably discharged from the Army National Guard. Find out more about him and his coaching services here.

Levi Chettle was stationed in Fort Benning and went on 3 deployments in support of Operation Enduring Freedom in Afghanistan. He was deployed to Kandahar and the Helmand Province, and served in the 75th Ranger Regiment, 3rd Ranger Battalion, A Company. Check out Levi’s Relationship Coaching services here.

Steve Srotir served as part of Operation Restore Hope in Somalia, Africa with the 7th Marines of 29 Palms, CA. He provided security for international care operations in Mogadishu, Bardera, and Baidoa. Here’s what he had to say, “there’s a beauty in what’s happening at The Relationship School. Everyone here is working together as a team, learning and practicing skills until they become second nature. There’s no fluff. It’s intense at times. We are training for real-life scenarios and all the moving parts involved. And like the Marines, it’s not for everyone. The Relationship School is for people who are dedicated, focused, and willing to do what it takes to develop real-world relational fitness.” – Steve Srotir, United States Marine Corps Veteran

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Spirituality & Relationships with Jeff Brown – SC 76

In this episode, we tackle spirituality and relationships with soulshaping mentor Jeff Brown. Jeff has a great knack for calling BS on the spiritual movement and instead offering grounded, practical, embodied suggestions and pathways to continue to deepen into our wholeness. This one may get uncomfortable depending on where you fall in this conversation. It is my wish that you feel challenged and grow from it.

SHOWNOTES

What is Soulshaping? [12:40]
What are the most common human struggles that Jeff sees in his work? [14:00]
Why most people meditate and so “solo spirituality” over relationships. [16:30]
Jeff’s personal definition of spirituality [18:00]
How are some teachings distorting the ideas of spirituality and emotions? [19:30]
What can men do to grow spiritually? [24:00]
The lesson Jeff learned from selling windows door-to-door. [27:00]
How can women help men awaken? [29:30]
How do Jeff and partner navigate conflict in their relationship? [32:45]
Jeff gives his opinion on polyamory. [38:00]
What are Jeff’s preferred practices for personal growth? [39:45]
Jeff’s twist on the New Age movement. [43:00]
Why are relationships so hard? [46:00]

HELPFUL LINKS

GUEST BIO

A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of 5 popular books- Soulshaping: A Journey of Self-Creation, Ascending with Both Feet on the Ground, Love it Forward, An Uncommon Bond, & Spiritual Graffiti. He is the producer and key journeyer in the award-winning spiritual documentary, Karmageddon, which also stars Ram Dass & Seane Corn. He is also the owner of Enrealment Press and an online school, Soulshaping Institute. A very popular presence in social media, Jeff lives in Toronto with his partner, poet Susan Frybort.

Cock Talk – 4 Men Getting Really Honest – SC 22

In this episode, I’m joined by a panel of courageous men: Booster Blake, Jeffrey Platts, Adrial Dale, and Christopher Sunyata. These men have all done work on themselves, and so are able to get honest and talk openly about their sexuality, their victories and challenges with intimacy, with relationship, and with their bodies in the bedroom. I think you’ll appreciate the transparency of these men.

SHOWNOTES:

Beginning of interview [6:45]
Adrial introduces himself [6:50]
Jeffrey introduces himself [7:35]
Booster Blake introduces himself [8:45]
Christopher introduces himself [10:10]
The men briefly describe their relationships to their cock [13:00]
When did you first learn to masturbate, and what was it like? [17:30]
Did you ever have a sexual experience with a boy? [24:00]
If you played with other boys when you were young, did you ever have any doubts that you were gay because you enjoyed it? [27:05]
How has porn negatively or positively affected your sex life? [29:45]

You don’t get your time back. So the time I was spending investing in these pixels, these women on a screen, I could have been investing in actual relationships. — Jeffrey

Where do these men draw the line when it comes to fantasizing about other women? [37:30]
What’s a victory, or celebratory moment, you’ve had with your cock? [42:00]
What are your thoughts on working to transcend pornography? [48:00]
A listening woman asks: What is the best segue to bring up sexual topics when there is shame around the topic? [52:45]

It’s so ironic…whenever shame comes up, it’s an opportunity for much deeper intimacy. – Adrial

What kind of shame have men experienced that have been put on their cocks or their sexuality by women? [58:30]
If the woman asks for something different in the bedroom, does a man take this personally and feel like he is not a good enough lover? [1:05:30]
Final comments [1:12:45]

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Cock Talk Sign-Up

Cock Talk Episode – With David Cates

ABOUT:

Christopher:

Vast physical pleasure, deep love, and even union with divine source can be experienced through sex. Sexual energy is the source of all life in this world. Christopher Sunyata teaches people how to embrace their sexual power and artfully conduct it through their body and intimate relationships, integrating this power into their whole life. Drawing upon decades of practice and study under masters of sexual yoga, Taoist exercises, and Buddhist meditation, he teaches ancient body-centered practices without dogma or esoteric language, leading people to discover the secret wisdom already present within their own body. By learning to trust this wisdom within their body, people can reclaim passion and life energy that is their birthright, and create intimate relationships that deepen in love and chemistry over the years.

Prior to teaching he was a successful international project manager responsible for over a billion dollars in revenue, a medical device engineer with seven patents, and a ceramic artist. He has raised four children, two of his own, including one who has significant disabilities. He lives in Boulder, Colorado with his beloved wife Karlene.

http://christophersunyata.com/

Jeffrey:

Jeffrey Platts is a love & life coach for men. With over 20 years of personal study and transformational training, his superpower is helping men clear out the “noise” so they can choose and create an amazing life that they maybe didn’t even know was on the menu. There is no secret “code” or “formula” to hack, only three necessary ingredients: awareness, choice and action. He brings a rich toolbox of insights and experiences, integrating his adventures as a DJ, amateur stand-up comedian, salsa dancer, yoga teacher and world traveler.

Jeffrey Platts website

Booster Blake:

Blake is a transformational life coach helping people align their lives with their authentic desires. He works with couples, men, and women in areas of non-violent communication, sexual empowerment, conscious parenting, and personal transformation. His success with clients emerges from a foundation of loving presence and no bullshit reflection. He can be reached on Facebook at Booster Blake or by email at [email protected]

Adrial:

Here’s the deal: I LOVE supporting people in dropping anything that doesn’t make them feel totally and fully ALIVE in the world. It’s all of our birthrights to fully live. So whether you’re 1) struggling with intimacy, sexuality or shame from having an STD (I’m a resiliency coach) or 2) a struggling business owner and want to build an audience and an awesome online presence (I’m a community leader/graphic designer/marketer/visionary) or 3) wanting to unleash your aliveness through meditative movement and dance (I’m a movement flow junkie and co-creator of SlowFlow dance), then I got news for you: We need to talk…Like, Now. Love, Adrial.