In this episode, I’m joined by a panel of courageous men: Booster Blake, Jeffrey Platts, Adrial Dale, and Christopher Sunyata. These men have all done work on themselves, and so are able to get honest and talk openly about their sexuality, their victories and challenges with intimacy, with relationship, and with their bodies in the bedroom. I think you’ll appreciate the transparency of these men.
SHOWNOTES:
- Beginning of interview [6:45]
- Adrial introduces himself [6:50]
- Jeffrey introduces himself [7:35]
- Booster Blake introduces himself [8:45]
- Christopher introduces himself [10:10]
- The men briefly describe their relationships to their cock [13:00]
- When did you first learn to masturbate, and what was it like? [17:30]
- Did you ever have a sexual experience with a boy? [24:00]
- If you played with other boys when you were young, did you ever have any doubts that you were gay because you enjoyed it? [27:05]
- How has porn negatively or positively affected your sex life? [29:45]
You don’t get your time back. So the time I was spending investing in these pixels, these women on a screen, I could have been investing in actual relationships. — Jeffrey
- Where do these men draw the line when it comes to fantasizing about other women? [37:30]
- What’s a victory, or celebratory moment, you’ve had with your cock? [42:00]
- What are your thoughts on working to transcend pornography? [48:00]
- A listening woman asks: What is the best segue to bring up sexual topics when there is shame around the topic? [52:45]
It’s so ironic…whenever shame comes up, it’s an opportunity for much deeper intimacy. – Adrial
- What kind of shame have men experienced that have been put on their cocks or their sexuality by women? [58:30]
- If the woman asks for something different in the bedroom, does a man take this personally and feel like he is not a good enough lover? [1:05:30]
- Final comments [1:12:45]
HELPFUL LINKS:
Cock Talk Episode – With David Cates
ABOUT:
Christopher:
Vast physical pleasure, deep love, and even union with divine source can be experienced through sex. Sexual energy is the source of all life in this world. Christopher Sunyata teaches people how to embrace their sexual power and artfully conduct it through their body and intimate relationships, integrating this power into their whole life. Drawing upon decades of practice and study under masters of sexual yoga, Taoist exercises, and Buddhist meditation, he teaches ancient body-centered practices without dogma or esoteric language, leading people to discover the secret wisdom already present within their own body. By learning to trust this wisdom within their body, people can reclaim passion and life energy that is their birthright, and create intimate relationships that deepen in love and chemistry over the years.
Prior to teaching he was a successful international project manager responsible for over a billion dollars in revenue, a medical device engineer with seven patents, and a ceramic artist. He has raised four children, two of his own, including one who has significant disabilities. He lives in Boulder, Colorado with his beloved wife Karlene.
Jeffrey:
Jeffrey Platts is a love & life coach for men. With over 20 years of personal study and transformational training, his superpower is helping men clear out the “noise” so they can choose and create an amazing life that they maybe didn’t even know was on the menu. There is no secret “code” or “formula” to hack, only three necessary ingredients: awareness, choice and action. He brings a rich toolbox of insights and experiences, integrating his adventures as a DJ, amateur stand-up comedian, salsa dancer, yoga teacher and world traveler.
Booster Blake:
Blake is a transformational life coach helping people align their lives with their authentic desires. He works with couples, men, and women in areas of non-violent communication, sexual empowerment, conscious parenting, and personal transformation. His success with clients emerges from a foundation of loving presence and no bullshit reflection. He can be reached on Facebook at Booster Blake or by email at [email protected]
Adrial:
Here’s the deal: I LOVE supporting people in dropping anything that doesn’t make them feel totally and fully ALIVE in the world. It’s all of our birthrights to fully live. So whether you’re 1) struggling with intimacy, sexuality or shame from having an STD (I’m a resiliency coach) or 2) a struggling business owner and want to build an audience and an awesome online presence (I’m a community leader/graphic designer/marketer/visionary) or 3) wanting to unleash your aliveness through meditative movement and dance (I’m a movement flow junkie and co-creator of SlowFlow dance), then I got news for you: We need to talk…Like, Now. Love, Adrial.
This was great, I would really like to go to a Men’s Group, or even just have some more male friends to talk too, but this was the next best thing… I would like to hear more about how?
When we know there is a problem (ie: erectile dysfunction or anything else), like you say, “we need to listen to our body”.. But how? I tried to focus to see whats going on it my head, i’ve been meditating daily for years now, i’ve seen a therapist for years, been to my doctor and physically I’m fine, but psychologically and emotionally feel lost and confused.
Anyway, thank you this was helpful. And a download link would be great so my girlfriend could listen as well.
hi Mark,
Our school periodically runs a Men’s Group, we are just wrapping up a session now but if you haven’t joined the mailing list already do so ASAP so that you can be sure to sign up for the next round (just go to our website and take the conflict quiz to add your email, or I’m sure there’s a place on the site to simply subscribe). Hopefully having other men to speak to will help you feel less emotionally lost and confused. You might even take it upon yourself to research some local men’s groups in your neighbourhood or search around on the internet a bit, maybe even research how to start one yourself and empower yourself to get what you need. Here is the link to the episode for your girlfriend: https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/sc-22-cock-talk-4-men-getting-really-honest/. She can watch on youtube or download on spotify, apple music, google podcasts, etc. Apologies for the late reply -Meg
This was so incredible~invaluable really!! I stepped into the podcast thinking I could get some juicy bits to share with my husband about what he could gain from listening. I exited the podcast feeling so empowered as a women to cultivate more understanding and love towards my husbands… cock!!! Thank you Jayson!!! <3
Amazing! I am inspired to listen to this one now, thanks Kristin =)
Great! The world feels less hostile.