Jayson, Author at The Relationship School®

87 Year-Old Pro-Sex Feminist Discusses The Female Orgasm – Betty Dodson – SC 81

Is the female orgasm that complicated and powerful? It can be for some of us, but in this episode, women’s sexuality pioneer and sexologist Betty Dodson offers some extremely practical, no-nonsense advice for women (and men) around the orgasm. Hear some enlightening and very intimate details of what a woman can do to dissolve the shame and step into true enjoyment of an orgasm. From group sex to being witnessed masturbating, this episode is sure to confront you and lift you up.

SHOWNOTES

How did Betty get first started in teaching sex and orgasm? [8:30]
What’s the current state of feminism and sexuality? [11:00]
What does a bodysex group do? [12:00]
Why is this kind of bodysex work important for women? [16:30]
How often should a woman orgasm to give her vitality? [18:00]
Have they figured out where the fluid of a G-spot orgasm comes from? [19:00]
What does Betty think about Orgasmic Meditation (OMing)? [20:00]
Betty’s suggestions on how to experience your first female orgasm. [24:00]
Does feeling safe with a partner matter affect the quality of the orgasm? [26:00]
How to create a sex-positive world? [27:30]
Betty’s thoughts on using sex toys for orgasm. [32:00]
Is monogamy realistic? [34:00]
Best way to heal from sexual shame & trauma? [36:00]
Betty’s best advice for married couples to revive their sex life. [39:00]
Your action step. [43:00]

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Betty Dodson, artist, author, and PhD sexologist has been one of the principal voices for women’s sexual pleasure and health for over three decades. Betty continues her private practice as a sex coach in New York City (click here for details).

Her first book, Liberating Masturbation: A Meditation on Selflove (’74) became a feminist classic. Sex for One (’87) sold over a million copies. Orgasms for Two (’02) embraces partner sex. Most recently she released My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir that details her experiences with America’s Sexual Revolution, the women’s movement and her feminist sexual activism.

In 2011, Betty received the public service award from SSSS (Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality) and the MASTERS AND JOHNSON AWARD presented by SSTAR (Society for Sex Therapy and Research). Betty was recently named one of the top ten sexual revolutionaries by Cosmopolitan magazine and number 43 of the 100 most important people in sex by Playboy Magazine.

A Couple’s Vulnerable Story of Falling Apart & Getting Stronger Together with Tripp & Alyson Lanier – SC 80

A brave smart couple shares their “dark period” and how they got through it. Anyone who has been married for a few years, and then adds in a child to the mix, will pretty much get rocked. Tripp and Alyson share what happened and how they got through it. From their day to day check-ins, emotional distance and meltdowns, to transforming their sex life after kids, you are going to love how this couple rocked it out. And hopefully, you can take a few tips home to your relationship.

SHOWNOTES

The story of how Tripp & Alyson met. [10:00]
Tripp and Alyson’s wild first few dates. [16:00]
How reclaim their connection when it’s off. [21:30]
How did Tripp learn to be curious? [30:00]
One period that challenged their relationship. [31:00]
What Tripp had to face in himself to get out of his comfort zone. [38:00]
Who did they each reach out to for support during their challenging times? [50:00]
Why you can’t rely on your partner to fulfill all your needs. [55:00]
How to keep your sex life alive after kids. [58:00]
Tripp shares his own evolution of his relationship to sex. [1:08:00]
The framework they both set in their wedding vows [1:15:00]
Your action step. [1:23:00]

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GUEST BIO Tripp Lanier is host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which has been listened to millions of times by men all around the world. He coaches entrepreneurs around the world to get out of the shallow end of the pool, redefine success, and align their work with what they were put on this Earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, and fun. As a host, he’s interviewed experts and authors from all walks of life including Tim Ferris, Ken Wilbur and Neil Strauss. The New Man Podcast reaches tens of thousands of people in over 110 countries and regularly finds its home on the iTunes Self Help Top 10 list. Tripp is married to therapist/relationship coach Alyson Lanier and has the best daughter in the whole wide world. He lives near the ocean and spends much of his time surfing, playing music really loud, and laughing his ass off. http://tripplanier.com.

Alyson Lanier spent the last 20 years training and educating herself in the psychology of attachment and relationship. As a counselor, mentor, teacher, coach, old world midwife, and mother, she helps men and women get out of their own way and create the amazing relationships, families, and sex lives they truly want. Alyson’s background includes a BA and MA in psychology, an advanced certification in Gestalt therapy, leadership positions with Ken Wilber’s Integral Institute, The Integral Center, and Authentic World, and a teaching position at Naropa University’s graduate school of psychology. She’s been published in Natural Health Magazine, North Denver News, Longmont Health magazine, the Daily Times Call, and Natural Solutions Magazine. Alyson has appeared multiple times on TheNewManPodcast and has been a featured guest on Smart Couples Podcast, The Consciously Parenting Project’s Heart of Healing Conference, and the Institute for the Psychology of Eating’s Conscious Sexuality + Relationship Conference as well. For over twelve years, Alyson has been married to Tripp Lanier (who is also a coach and the host of TheNewManPodcast.com (make this a link) which has been downloaded millions of times by men and women all around the world.) They raise their daughter together and live fully on the coast of North Carolina. You can learn more about Alyson at alysonlanier.com

7 Tips On How To Deal With Holiday Family Drama – SC 79

Family drama will show you exactly where you and your partner are or are not aligned. Not knowing how to navigate your own triggers around your family can lead to some strange and even painful “gifts” over the holidays. That’s why I’m spending an episode on how to deal with the likely family drama that will occur this holiday season. This will help you and your partner (or future partner) know what to do to reduce the stress and be more of a team. That way you can actually enjoy yourself during the holidays!

SHOWNOTES

Jayson shares his initial stumbles in trying to “fix” his family dynamic. [7:00]
What a typical holiday dinner looks like. [9:15]
What is your role in your family dynamic? [11:45]
7 tips to better navigate your upcoming family gathering. [13:30]
The responsibility of the most emotionally mature person in the room. [15:00]
The surprising benefit of having your partner’s back. [20:00]
How to flip your expectation of wanting your family to be curious about you. [22:00]
The truth about judgment. [24:30]
Jayson gives you an action step. [32:00]

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The Secret Weapon For Men To Deepen Their Relationships With Women – John Wineland – SC 78

Why do men need more solid men around them? In this episode, we explore the power of getting very honest with other men and how that can benefit your relationships to women. Our guest John Wineland shares his personal story and offers practical yet embodied tips for how a man can learn how to do relationships in a much more powerful and sustainable way.

SHOWNOTES

How did John get into men’s work? [9:30]
The massive opportunity and lessons in fatherhood. [12:30]
How death has been one of John’s biggest teachers. [18:00]
Why just having guy friends is sometimes not enough. [21:00]
Does every man need a men’s group? [24:30]
What is the most powerful spiritual work that John now does? [35:00]
What can a woman do to help her man get into men’s work? [38:00]
The game-changing move that a man can do to transform his relationship. [45:00]
Jayson gives an action step. [58:00]

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Check out this powerful and insightful video from John Wineland on what men crave the most.

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For the better part of a decade, John Wineland, an LA-based speaker, teacher and workshop facilitator has been guiding both men and women in the realms of life purpose, relational communication, sexual intimacy and embodiment. Known for his groundbreaking work with men, and his vision to create 1000 men’s groups in the next five years, John travels world-wide teaching his vision of embodied men’s work and deep relational practice. John’s embodiment driven teaching draws from not only over 30 years experience of his own Buddhist meditative practice, but from the deep lineages of Vajrayana, Tantra, Kundalini yoga; as well as the Taoist traditions of Iron Shirt, to create a profound experience for men and women looking to create depth, passion and boldness in their relationships and their lives.

How To Work With Personality Differences – Joel & Antonia – SC 77

In this episode, personality hackers and smart couple Joel and Antonia share their personal experiences of working through differences by understanding their partner’s personality type. These two use Myers-Briggs, the enneagram, and other personality tests to understand themselves and each other better. I think you’ll get a couple of new insights from Joel and Antonia’s story that can help you right now in your own relationship. Pay special attention to what they do well and how they work through challenges in a collaborative way.

SHOWNOTES

What is a “social technology”? [8:30]
Why do you need to understand your partner’s personality style? [14:00]
How did Joel and Antonia start studying personality? [15:15]
The unique history of the Myers-Briggs typing system. [17:00]
How thinkers and feelers can work well in relationships. [22:00]
Can your learn from your partner’s personality style? [32:00]
The impact of masculine or feminine personality types. [35:00]
The two kinds of thinking styles. [38:30]
The best place to start to figure out you & your partner’s personality type? [42:00]
The traps of personality tests. [44:00]
One thing to never do with your partner. [47:30]
What caused Joel and Antonia to dive into personal growth? [49:00]

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PersonalityHacker.com
Jayson Gaddis – Products
How to Deal With Family Drama Before The Holidays (Part 1) – Monday, November 14
Facebook – Jayson Gaddis Fan Page
Monogamy & The Smart Couple – Facebook Group
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Joel Mark Witt & Antonia Dodge are a married couple and creators of Personality Hacker – a new kind of publishing company that merges digital media with emerging models of human development. They focus on helping people create more happiness in their lives by understanding themselves and others.