Boundary & Leadership Tips For Parents – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 402

What do you do as a parent when your child won’t do what you want/need them to do? Are you evoking healthy boundaries as part of your parenting practice? If being honest, have you ever heard yourself pathologizing your child as a means of justifying your parenting choices (i.e. my kid is strong-willed…)?

Does your kid call the shots, and you feel you need some direction on how to take the leadership reins back? 

Join Ellen and I to discuss the types of challenges parents face today and pick up some tips to up your parenting game.

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Prenups and Divorce – Imperative Info To Consider – Evan Schein – 401

Have your thoughts been circling around prenups before you get married? Or, are you on the edge of a separation or divorce Want to learn a bit more about meditation, child support, spousal support, alimony, asset division and schedule collaboration? Take a listen to my recent conversation with family lawyer Evan Schein.

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Family Check-In – Jayson and Ellen – 400

This week we celebrate our 400th episode with a special “Fam Jam” episode. Join Ellen and I as we chat with our kids, about what it’s like in our family and what they notice about other families. 

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AMA: Societal Trauma, Sacrificing Everything For Someone, & Shared Values

What do you do if you and your partner don’t have a baseline (a place of ease and security to which you can return post-conflict)? Have you ever felt you’ve ‘given up everything’ for a partner? Do you and your partner have shared values? Have you made a fierce, deep commitment to one another? 

Jayson and Ellen tackle some of your questions in this AMA episode, drawing on their knowledge and experiences of ups, downs, and reconnects that go hand in hand with long-term relationships. 

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Navigating “You Make Me Feel” and “I” Statements To Build Trust, Resilience, and Security – Jayson and Ellen – 398

Do you ever feel defensive, blamed, angry, or hurt when someone says, “you make me feel….”? Have you heard of “spiritual cock-blocking?”

This week Ellen and I talk about the potent and simple “I feel” statements and howwe impact one another and influence each other’s feelings and experiences by simply co-existing in the same space, both positively and negatively.

Learn how to navigate these difficult conversations by sharing ‘Impact Statements’ (a communication technique that leads with empathy while advocating for your experience) instead of pointing the finger and blaming/shaming someone for making you feel a certain way or using an impact statement if you’re on the receiving end of such a statement. Try to remember that conflict is essential in any healthy relationship because it offers the opportunity to repair, to get to know each other better, to be collaborative, all key elements in building security, resilience and trust.

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School Shootings & How To Raise Your Kids – EP. 397

Here are my thoughts on the latest school shootings. This one hit me hard.