Are you in an abusive relationship? In this episode we explore some of the hallmarks of an “abusive” relationship and what to do with any form of disrespect, neglect, or abuse. It’s actually harder than you think and there’s more work to do than to just “leave” the relationship. I answer loads of questions from listeners like you on abuse in your relationship life. I think there might be some confronting and helpful information in here for you. SHOWNOTES

• What is an abusive relationship? My definition might surprise you [9:00]
• How to know if you’re in an abusive adult relationship [11:00]
• The difference between fault and responsibility [13:00]
• How we heal trauma [14:00]
• Why ‘just leave’ is often the wrong advice [17:00]
• What to do if your physical safety is threatened [22:00]
• The definition of ‘gaslighting’ [24:00]
• Name calling [31:00]
• Discover your criteria for ‘abuse’ [34:00]
• The I, You and We of thriving partnerships [36:00]
• On ‘mutually abusive’ relationships [44:00]
• Dealing with Stonewalling [46:00]
• The ‘deer in headlights’ response – and how to use it to your advantage [49:00]
• If you’re a man in an abusive relationship [51:00]
• Learning the difference between real and perceived threats [56:00]
• Firmness vs Anger [1:04:00]
• Your action step [1:06:00]

HELPFUL LINKS

• SC 66 – Fault vs Responsibility
• The Myth of Male Power – Warren Farrell
• Relationship School
• Facebook – Jayson Gaddis Fan Page
• Monogamy & The Smart Couple – Facebook Group
• How to Leave A Podcast Review