Personal growth isn’t the end all be all. But it does make a massive difference if you want a thriving partnership over time…

QUESTION:
“My question is in relation to Podcast #34, Triggers.
I’ve heard you say in numerous podcasts what’s required to have growth oriented people – that it requires 100% commitment of “I’m in” to the path of personal development, and responsibility and interest in myself for this work to be effective. What do you do if a person is 50% in? What do you do if they’re interested in taking responsibility and owning themselves about half the time? The rest of the time is still blaming, dealing with upsets, resentment and disconnection. The latter is tremendously difficult for me and brings up a lot for me. I can continue to work with my end of it, but also notice 50% is not good enough for me. I want more. Do you come up to this a lot in your work and if so, what are your solutions to dealing with it?”
– Max, Boulder, CO – 3/29/17

SHOWNOTES

• Why you both need to be all-in [3:00]
• Can a man who has sexual addiction to escorts because of anger overcome his addiction, and how do I stand by him while he’s working on this? [6:00]
• Would a man cuddle with a female he doesn’t like or interested in? [7:00]
• What causes a man to cheat when the woman helps with just about everything and will do anything for him? [9:00]
• How do you know then you’re ready to take the next step in a relationship? [10:00]
• How can I get him to understand that I don’t want it all the time and it doesn’t mean I’m not attracted to him? [11:00]
• When you and your partner are under stress [12:00]

HELPFUL LINKS

• The Neuroscience & Power of Safe Relationships – Stephen W. Porges – SC 117
• What to Do When Your Partner Triggers You – SC 34
• Roots Community
• Facebook – Jayson Gaddis Fan Page
• Monogamy & The Smart Couple – Facebook Group
• How to Leave A Podcast Review