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How & Why My Wife And I Chose Marriage – SC 50

By Jayson
May 3, 2016

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In this episode, I bring on my better half, my wife to rock it out with me. We had fun exploring the early stages of our relationship and what had us “choose” each other. There are some funny and not so funny shares in this one. I’m grateful Ellen is joining us here and here’s to more to come from the two of us.



  • How did Jayson and Ellen first meet? [9:07]
  • What you must learn about your partner before you decide to spend your life together. [14:30]
  • What had Ellen ask Jayson out? [15:05]
  • Shitty advice Jayson got from a therapist and an astrologer. [18:45]
  • How did Jayson overcome his “grass is always greener” pattern? [24:40]
  • One of Jayson’s best accomplishments of his life. [28:00]
  • The simple yet powerful distinction that Ellen did that allowed Jayson to choose to commit. [30:15]
  • How do you know if your partner is “The One”? [33:45]
  • A huge thing that must happen before you should even consider marriage. [35:00]
  • Jayson’s challenge to the listener, both for those in a relationship and single. [43:15]
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  1. Anita

    Inspiring and wise – finally the podcast I’ve been waiting for months! A great one Jayson and Ellen 🙂 I’ve been following http://rearrangedbymotherhood.com for a while now and I have to say, each post from Ellen makes me feel seen and sheds new light not only into the everyday struggles but also into the hard decisions a woman faces through her life. I’d be happy to know where can I get more from your valuable insights and advices Ellen, please keep me posted!
    Keep up the great work guys! The world needs more people like you – our life can be as good as the relationships we build… (don’t know who said that but they were so damn right! )

    • meg@relationshipschool.com

      hi Anita, thanks for sharing, very kind of you and so glad that you feel connected with Ellen in particular. Since you’re on her website already I’m sure you are aware of her other offerings, and she is regularly on the podcast with us. Thanks for listening =)

  2. Terri

    It’s all about timing and self-growth….and finding that someone who is willing to grow with you. The big thing is knowing who you are and what you want and not being afraid to ask for it (as Ellen so gently and clearly stated). Oh, there will be bumps in the road but the journey along with the resulting gifts and skillful knowledge of how to use the necessary tools to strengthen and enhance the relationship are what love and commitment are all about. Several studies indicate that having a partner that has your back and visa versa are what makes mankind/womankind happiest! It’s not money or possessions but love and connection with a significant other. Cheers! Nice podcast!

    • meg@relationshipschool.com

      Well said Terri =) Thanks for your support, glad the work is resonating with you =)

  3. Tonia M Fehrenbach

    Hello, is there any way you could caption this podcast for the hearing impaired? I would LOVE LOVE to hear Ellen’s side of the story. Anything that she could offer me would help tremendously.

    • meg@relationshipschool.com

      hi Tonia, apologies that we do not do this but will take your feedback and look into it. Thanks for speaking up and take care =) Meg

  4. Steven Boland

    Great podcast.

    However one thing I need to remark. Yes figthing can be a good thing. Figthing is actually about difference of opinion. So you need to find out … are you figthing to let one opinion win? Is one of you fighting to win? If so you are in the wrong fight.

    The result of a fight can be you eventually agree or come to some sort of compromise to the benefit of both. Or you disagree and there will be no compromise. But its not that important, so you live with it. If it is important. You will have to ask yourself if you can live with it or not. If not, there is no life there for you.

    Fighting can get very intense. Maybe because there seems to be so much at stake. Its better to start to learn to argue. To speak out, to be heard. To give space and listen. That way your differences will get clearer. Its what we teach children, so you know how this works.

    Life should be lived playful. Find someone nice to play and enjoy.

    • meg@relationshipschool.com

      hey Steven, thank you for taking the time to write out your thoughts, you make some excellent points and I’m grateful you shared. It can be so nuanced, and so simple. What a paradox. And thanks for sharing your values about how life ought to be lived, in your experience and perspective. I feel glad you spoke up, and thankful you’re out there listening and reflecting to the podcast. Take care, and stay tuned =) -Meg


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