I feel like I’m doing my part setting boundaries, communicating my needs and asking for what I want. What else can I try?
I’ve done the work to learn how to express and articulate my needs, how I want to be treated, what’s not ok with me, behaviour that’s hurtful (very clearly with specific behaviours) and setting clear boundaries. Some of the behaviours continue even though I’ve clearly told him I won’t tolerate it anymore. When I tell him how this specific behaviour impacts me, I often get a sarcastic “I’m sorry you feel this way” and he just doesn’t listen to me.
- This episode’s question [1:00]
- How does it feel to get ‘I’m sorry you feel that way’ from your partner? [2:00]
- How to diffuse the anger in a heated conversation [4:00]
- Training your partner to really listen to you [5:00]