Have you ever felt rejected? Like really rejected? Perhaps many times over and over again?!
Do any of these messages sounds familiar to you, “wipe that frown off your face”, “you’re acting like such a crybaby”, “I’ll give you something to cry about”, “oh my god, you’re acting like such a girl right now”, “What a sissy”. Ouch! Very misogynistic right?
These, and countless messages like these, are what I grew up with as a little boy. And, because I valued connection it had me reject a really important part of myself, my sensitivity.
I rejected my sensitivity, which includes my empathy and my emotions, because I wanted you to like me. I wanted my parents to not be mad at me. I didn’t want to get in trouble. I didn’t want to get bullied. I didn’t want to get picked on. I didn’t want to get beat up on the playground.
Can you relate?
Check out my 20 min Talk I did at Mark Grove’s Masters Of The Universe Summit in 2018. Be sure to listen to the very end to get the 2 ways to overcome rejection.
Leave a comment below about what you have learned from your own rejections. Seriously. Go for it. I just laid mine out! And, if you dig deep can you see that you might be rejecting a part of yourself?
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I have a traumatic brain injury and have no confidence in myself because of it. I just want to be loved and accepted. I know I have to love myself before I find a man that will love me. I need help.
Hi Kristie, thanks for sharing and listening. Nice owning your wants and needs.
What have I learned from my rejections? If I dig deep, i would have to say, that the only thing holding me back is the story I am telling myself about what I perceive is happening to me. The rejection is the story….. Which, is only a story. A hurtful story. I have learned to quiet the chatter in my mind. The chatter that accuses others, and even my own self of being “wrong” whats next I’m not sure, but this feels pretty good.
hi Rabiah, nice ownership. Thanks for listening =)