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1 Key To Get The Best Out Of Your Partner with Alison Armstrong – SC 45

In this episode I talk with Alison Armstrong about some major differences between men and women and how to use them to your advantage in your relationship. While I get that the labels of masculine and feminine or man/woman can be incredibly narrow, they are very effective for teaching basic relationship principles. Notice how Alison does this with some age old “labels” to help you see where you naturally orient and where your partner does. Also, notice when and where you feel you are at your “best” in your relationship. Check it!

SHOWNOTES

What caused Alison to become hungry to learn about men? [5:30]
Why do woman throw their husbands under the bus? [9:50]
The metaphor that helps explain why men and women see each other so differently. [12:05]
What one factor determines when a man or woman will act at his or her best. [16:30]
The best time to talk about a challenge in your relationship. [17:45]
How being more accurate about time can help women connect better with their man. [24:05]
The ideal perspective to thrive in changing life circumstances. [26:15]
The missing piece that women don’t get about a partner who is on his purpose. [32:45]
What is a “no-blow” date. [35:00]

HELPFUL LINKS

[bctt tweet=”Some women pay attention more to getting married at the right time rather than focusing on getting married to the right person. – Alison Armstrong”]

Guest Bio

Alison Armstrong, author, educator, and creator of the widely acclaimed “Queen’s Code” workshop series, asks the question: “What if no one is misbehaving — including you?” She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and women such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. She offers simple, partnership-based, solutions to improve our communication and intimacy by honoring ourselves and others. She’s known for her insight, sense of humor and ability to articulate the human experience and predicament of gender. More info at http://understandmen.com/

Long-Distance Relationships, Entitlement & Sex, Blended Families, Winning Him Back, & Much More – SC 44

In this episode I answer listeners’ questions on long-distance relationships, how to win him back, entitlement and sex, blended families, divorce, and much more. It’s a shorty but a goodie.

SHOWNOTES

What does an over-supportive relationship look like? [2:30]
What does it mean when a man says he “needs a break” from the relationship? [4:15]
How to win back a guy? [6:14]
What’s the best way to break through your triggers? [7:43]
How to make a 2nd or 3rd marriage work out? [9:07]
What to do when your partner only feels criticized? [11:33]
How to deal with a man who feels sexually entitled? [13:20]
What is the viability of long-distance relationships? [15:28]
Jayson’s one-question challenge to listeners [18:17]

HELPFUL LINKS

Revolutionary Sex for Men with Alex Allman – SC 43

In this juicy episode I talk with Alex Allman about men, orgasms and sex. Giving her an orgasm isn’t what you think. Alex helps us get more honest and more present with our sex lives and how crucial it is to have other men in your life to bust your balls when you need it. While this episode is for the men, if you are a woman, I know you’ll appreciate how our guest is trying to help the men dance with you in the bedroom.

SHOWNOTES

How Alex’s childhood impacted his view of masculinity [5:50]
The two types of change [11:10]
Why being beautiful and successful early on makes change harder [12:45]
What happened when Alex was 39 that forever woke him up. [17:55]
Why only loving your partner for their positive traits will make you disappointed. [23:30]
The most important thing for a man to get that is so simple yet so complicated. [32:15]
How the “doting husband” can be sexually repulsive. [34:15]
What to do when you have erection troubles in the bedroom. [43:00]

HELPFUL LINKS

[bctt tweet=”What gives a women an orgasm and what makes you great in bed aren’t the same thing. – Alex Allman”]

Guest Bio

Alex Allman is the author of the best selling Revolutionary Sex programs for enhancing sexual pleasure, creating deeper intimacy and communication, and deepening sexual confidence. Since 1993 he has been studying and refining his heart-centered theories on sexuality and relationships. Through his writing, lectures, videos, and public appearances, he has helped tens of thousands of men, women, and couples achieve greater confidence, intimacy, relationship health, and love. Website: AlexAllman.life

The Definition of True Love – SC 42

Love. This word is one of the most commonly misunderstood words in the English language. In this podcast I give my definition of what true love really is. Here I cover the 3 stages of love in a relationship. Before age 30, I never got past stage 1. I think by looking at your own experience you too, will see that it’s time to update your definition of love.

SHOWNOTES

The difference between love and infatuation. [3:30]
The truth about love songs on the radio. [5:45]
What are the three stages of love? [6:37]
The huge gifts and power in a long-term relationship. [10:50]
Two action steps to get started today [12:40]

HELPFUL LINKS

[bctt tweet=”True love is challenge and support. – Jayson Gaddis”]

Boundaries – Relationship Tool With Lisa Dion – SC 40

Boundaries are by far one of the most important tools in intimate relationships. How much do you struggle to say no says a lot about how much you value yourself. You must get boundaries if you want to go the distance in a relationship.

SHOWNOTES

The huge breakthrough insight about boundaries that Lisa shared with Jayson [5:13]
The four things our brain is always scanning for to determine there is a threat or challenge [7:24]
What is Lisa’s definition of a boundary? [13:20]
Jayson and Lisa demonstrate how to set a boundary [16:33]
The big fear we all carry in ourselves [20:05]
The weakness many of us have in receiving a boundary request [22:02]
What are the most common feedback signs our body tells us? [25:50]
The three types of boundaries [30:56]
Jayson issues a boundary challenge [43:04]

HELPFUL LINKS

http://lisa-dion.com
http://synergeticplaytherapy.com
Monogamy and The Smart Couple Facebook Group (and report how your boundary challenge went!)

[bctt tweet=”A boundary is the point at which I can no longer be myself or I’m about to lose myself. – Lisa Dion”]

PODCAST GUEST

Lisa Dion has provided consultation and counseling to children, adults, couples and businesses for over 15 years. Her training and understanding of how the mind and a person’s biology drives human behavior allows her to offer clients a unique perspective and understanding on how to maximize their potential and develop a greater appreciation for themselves and the people in their lives. Lisa is the only person in the world holding combined certifications as a Senior Certified Demartini Method Facilitator^® and a Registered Play Therapy Supervisor. Lisa’s cutting edge approach gifts her the ability to meet the needs of Fortune 500 Leaders and out of control 3 year-olds, all in the same day. Lisa is dedicated to awakening certainty, presence and purpose in her clients. Visit her website here: http://lisa-dion.com/

For Men Who Suck At Listening – SC 30

Do you know how to listen to an emotional woman? Yikes!

This one’s for the men out there (and yes, some women are not great listeners as well, I get that). If you’re anything like me you know it can be hard to listen to your woman. It’s probably in your best interest to sharpen your listening skills in a way that opens her up and softens her. How do you do that?

In 3 simple steps, which I outline in the podcast. I talk about what it means to FRACK your woman, and why you want to avoid it. Also I share 3 words to tell your woman so that she feels validated. Finally, I bring in a great rule of thumb I share with my wife when it comes to listening and understanding her. You’ll want to hear this one, as it was a game-changer for our whole relationship. Make sure to leave a comment or any questions you have below!

[bctt tweet=”You’re uncomfortable with your woman’s emotions because you’re uncomfortable with your own.”]

If you want to get her to calm down, or open up to you, download this:

Cheat Sheet: Less Drama