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How To Deal With A Partner That Talks Too Much – SC 75

How To Deal With A Partner That Talks Too Much – SC 75

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You’ve been a with a friend or partner who rambles on right? And, you check out or stop listening, but you let them talk right? We’ve all been there. Well, in this episode, we discuss how important it is to interrupt them and take command of the conversation. Wait, Am I suggesting you get aggressive? No way. I’m asking that you show your “care” for them by listening in an entirely different way.

SHOWNOTES

  • What is “captive audience”? [7:30]
  • Who is responsible when someone talks too much in an interaction? [10:30]
  • What is active listening? [12:15]
  • The gift that you might be giving the “over-talker”. [14:00]
  • Jayson gives some examples on how to interrupt. [15:30]
  • Jayson shares a personal story of a dude that talked WAY too much and what Jayson did about it. [21:30]
  • Jayson’s action steps for the listener [25:00]

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8 Steps To Reconnect After Disconnection – SC 74

8 Steps To Reconnect After Disconnection – SC 74

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Feeling disconnected is a common experience in long-term relationships. The question is how to get reconnected? Well, first you’ll want to start to identify the ways in which you disconnect and locate the source. After some self-inquiry there, you can learn how to reconnect to you, and your partner. Listen to this one to learn how.

 

SHOWNOTES

  • Should you expect that your marriage will last forever? [4:00]
  • Do you need to love yourself first before you get into a relationship? [5:30]
  • The 10 signs that you’re disconnected from yourself. [9:30]
  • The 8 steps to reconnect. [15:00]
  • Jayson’s action step for the listener [24:00]

You can also read this blog post: 10 Signs I’m Disconnected From Myself

8 Steps to Reconnect With Self & Partner

  1. When did these feelings start?
  2. What caused it?
  3. Isolate the incident.
  4. Get into your body and heart.
  5. Dive in and feel it.
  6. Get in relationship with your partner or a close friend. “Will you connect with me?”
  7. Own up to what you’ve been up to.
  8. Commit to taking care of the root issue.

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  1. Join the Monogamy & The Smart Couple – Facebook Group
  2. Leave review of the podcast
  3. Take a screenshot of your submitted review and email it to [email protected]
  4. Submission Deadline: 9pm Mountain Time on Monday, October 24th.

 

The Grass Is Greener Syndrome in Relationships – SC 69

The Grass Is Greener Syndrome in Relationships – SC 69

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The grass is greener with that other person! I used to think this quietly in my mind all the time, no matter who I was with. In this episode, I share my personal drama with this mentality and what it’s really about. Not only that, I offer something to help you get through it. It might just make you more likely to commit to the one you’re with.

SHOWNOTES

  • Jayson shares his personal story about leaving relationships when the going got tough. [8:45]
  • The kinds of partners who will more likely have a “grass is greener” mentality. [11:00]
  • How closeness and space impact ambivalence. [13:00]
  • Will a new partner solve the current problem or bad feelings I’m having? [16:15]
  • Jayson’s recommendation if you’re wanting to jump from relationship to relationship. [18:00]
  • When the grass really is greener over there and it might be time to exit. [21:15]
  • Jayson’s action steps for the listener. [ 24:45]

 

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Your Relationship Q’s – Anger, Jealousy, Depression, Honesty, Premature Ejaculation & More – SC 68

Your Relationship Q’s – Anger, Jealousy, Depression, Honesty, Premature Ejaculation & More – SC 68

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It’s really normal to experience jealousy, depression, anger, intense attraction and so much more when you find yourself in a good relationship. Our relationships trigger the deepest of human emotions and experiences. In this episode, I answer some fun, very painful, and challenging questions from you the listener. Notice how all of these questions may bring up stuff from your past or present relationship and see if you can find the nugget in each question that you can learn something from.

 

SHOWNOTES

  • What’s really happening when someone says “you make me feel X”. [6:45]
  • Is it a mistake to stay with my husband who is a functioning alcoholic? [9:30]
  • How to deal with premature ejaculation after you’re married? [12:15]
  • One factor that will guarantee your relationship is doomed. [15:30]
  • How to get your boyfriend to talk more when all he wants is occasional texting? [16:30]
  • Can a guy be emotionally mature if he doesn’t like to talk about his feelings five months into a relationship? [18:15]
  • When a partner struggles with depression, how do deal with a big transition when moving to a new country? [21:45]
  • A partner goes MIA after his mother dies, does this mean the relationship over? [25:45]
  • Is there a limit to being too open and honest with your partner? [30:30]
  • Jealousy when your boyfriend has a lot of interaction with other women on Facebook? [34:00]
  • The best way to eliminate anger? [37:00]
  • Best approach for a couple that is going to be long-distance for two years? [40:30]
  • Personality disorders and loving yourself? [42:45]
  • How to regain trust when a partner refuses to open up? [47:15]
  • Jayson’s action step for the listener. [50:00]


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3 Steps To Become More Resilient Before, During & After A Fight with Dr. Rick Hanson – SC 67

3 Steps To Become More Resilient Before, During & After A Fight with Dr. Rick Hanson – SC 67

 

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It is possible to rewire your brain in relationships and build inner strength. In fact, if you don’t work toward this, you’ll be in trouble down the road when the allostatic load catches up to you later in life. In this episode I interview Dr. Rick Hanson. He’s a passionate expert on mindfulness, the brain, neuroscience and relationships. We geek out on the intricacies of the brain but he also brings some very practical tools and insights on how we can improve our relationships by using the natural genius of our mind. Lots of notes to take on this one! Hang in there. It can get dense. 

 

SHOWNOTES

  • Why Jayson was anti-marriage until age 34 [2:00]
  • How did Dr. Hanson get so passionate about brain science and relationships? [11:00]
  • A Native American story about love and hate [13:00]
  • Why is so difficult for couples to work their shit out? [17:30]
  • What are two lessons from the wiring of our ancestors’ nervous systems? [19:30]
  • Two practices to rewire your brain to build your inner psychological strength [22:00]
  • How to stop the negativity train of our mind when we’re already triggered [25:00]
  • Tips for developing ourselves before we get into a fight with our partners [32:30]
  • What happens in our brains when we are triggered by our partner? [46:00]
  • How being chronically frustrated, lonely, let down, disconnected impacts the brain and body. [51:30]
  • The ratio between positive interactions and negative interactions [60:00]
  • A 10-day challenge to the listener on how to radically shift the dynamic in your relationship. [65:00]

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Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, and New York Times best-selling author. His books are available in 26 languages and include Hardwiring Happiness, Buddha’s Brain, Just One Thing, and Mother Nurture. He edits the Wise Brain Bulletin and has numerous audio programs. A summa cum laude graduate of UCLA and founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, he’s been an invited speaker at Oxford, Stanford, Harvard, and other major universities, and taught in meditation centers worldwide. His work has been featured on the BBC, CBS, and NPR, and he offers the free Just One Thing newsletter with over 120,000 subscribers, plus the online Foundations of Well-Being program in positive neuroplasticity that anyone with financial need can do for free.