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Listener Questions & My Direct Answers – SC 61

In this Q&A episode, there were so many great questions. See the show notes below for a detailed line-up.

SHOWNOTES

How can I train myself to not go to an extreme dark place when I’m triggered by my partner? [4:30]
A tool for calming yourself down. [6:00]
What’s the best way to balance individual freedom in a relationship to avoid power struggles? [6:45]
How to know when to stay in a relationship and when to leave? [9:30]
Why is my husband not desiring me and initiating physical intimacy and passion? [11:45]
My boyfriend surfs porn, a LOT. Is this normal? Should I break up with him? [17:30]
Should I move back in with my ex? How do I know if he’s forgiven me? [22:00]
My partner says he’s not sure if he still has feelings for his ex. What should I do? [25:00]
My old boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for eight years, currently off for a year. What’s the best way to get back together? [27:45]
The best way to date someone with a mental illness? When do you know if the struggle is too much if they’re not doing the work to get better? [29:45]
Someone challenges Jayson on saying “I’m sorry.” [32:15]
How do I get my boyfriend to communicate more often and more openly? [34:15]
What’s the best way to apply your communication tools with children? Is it the same as with a romantic partner? [35:15]
What do you think about when someone says “I’m sorry you feel that way”? [38:15]
Should our partner be our “best friend”? [39:30]
How do I navigate my fear of enmeshment with my partner’s fear of abandonment? [40:15]
Jayson’s powerful action step for this episode. [43:00]

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EPISODES MENTIONED

The One Class We Never Got In School But Should Have

Somewhere in my early 30’s I realized that I missed one of the most important classes I could have taken in school–a class on relationships.

It wasn’t until I broke 7 hearts, burned countless bridges, and ran away from conflict for about 20 years that I realized that I had missed something. (more…)

Keys To Mastering Relationships & Life With Dr. John Demartini – SC 60

Did I interview Yoda or just world renowned human behavior specialist Dr. John Demartini? Okay, buckle your seat belt for this one and be prepared to have some of your paradigms twisted and your feathers ruffled. I could have grilled this guy for hours, but I kept it to one hour to respect his time. Be sure to listen to this one twice and take notes. From no one being committed to you, to the fact that everyone is dishonest, I’m sure this episode will confront and serve you in many helpful ways. Enjoy!

SHOWNOTES

The one statement Dr. Demartini said that rocked Jayson’s world. [7:45]
How infatuation is an insight to ourselves. [10:30]
Dr. Demartini’s relationship status? [11:30]
Do long-distance relationships work? [12:30]
How to be true to yourself in relationships. [15:45]
Dr. Demartini’s date with a 95 year-old lady. [23:00]
How our values powerfully influence our lives. [24:45]
What about when two partners have opposite values? [27:00]
What’s the link between health, stress and values? [32:30]
What happens if we run from challenge? [35:00]
How to deal with someone who is lying to you. [43:15]
What about sexual polarity and passion in relationships? [45:15]
Is quantum entanglement a real phenomenon? [49:00]
Why do we tend to attract partners who mimic our parents? [55:45]
If you’ve been hurt in a relationship, do you need to heal through relationship? [58:30]

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GUEST BIO

Dr. John Demartini is a world renowned specialist in human behavior, a researcher, author and global educator. He has developed a series of solutions applicable across all markets, sectors and age groups. His education curriculum ranges from corporate empowerment programs, financial empowerment strategies, self-development programs, relationship solutions and social transformation programs. His teachings start at the core of the issue, addressing the human factor and range out to a multitude of powerful tools that have proven the test of time. He has studied over 29000 books across all the defined academic disciplines and has synthesized the wisdom of the ages which he shares on stage in over 60 countries. His presentations whether keynotes, seminars or workshops, leave clients with insights into their behavior and keys to their empowerment.

Dr. Demartini has addressed public and professional audiences up to 11000 people at a time across the world and shared the stage with some of the world’s most influential people such as Sir Richard Branson, Stephen Covey, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Donald Trump and many more. From the thousands of testimonials he receives annually, Dr Demartini’s work changes people’s lives forever.

How To Create Healthy Expectations In Your Relationship – SC 59

There are two kinds of expectations in a long-term relationship. Knowing the difference can help you sink or swim in your partnership. See if you can get honest about your expectations of yourself and your partner in this episode.

SHOWNOTES

The two kinds of expectations [5:45]
Why laying a trip on someone doesn’t work in a partnership [9:30]
Why trying to force someone to change never works. [11:45]
Monogamy as an example of how to set an expectation. [13:45]
Jayson’s challenge to the listener. [17:15]

This Week’s Listener Contest!

$100 Amazon Gift Certificate to one listener

Contest Instructions

You must leave a genuine 5-star review on iTunes. Instructions here.
Send us a screenshot of the review that clearly shows we know it’s from you.
Email to [email protected] with subject “Podcast Contest”
First listener to email Jayson meeting the above conditions will be selected.

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How To Say I’m Sorry Like A Pro – SC 58

Saying “I’m sorry” is one way to try to repair after a relationship challenge, but it’s exceptionally limited. Not learning a new way to repair is like driving your car without tires. It works and can even get you places, but you’ll go so much further if you learn this one. Roll up your sleeves as I have a good challenge for you in this episode.

SHOWNOTES

Why regular apologies are weak. [9:00]
What you need to do instead of just saying “I’m sorry.” [13:45]
A perspective that will empower you when you’re triggered by your partner. [16:00]
The secret to apologizing like a pro. [17:30]
Jayson’s challenge to the listener. [21:30]

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How Do I Know When It’s Too Hard? – SC 57

Relationships get hard. But how do you know when hard is too freakin’ hard? And, what do you do about it? In this episode my wife and I explore a very common complaint about long-term relationships, especially after the initial honeymoon phase wears off. Are you making your relationship hard or are you making it easy? Believe it or not, you are in the driver’s seat on this.

SHOWNOTES

How do you know when your relationship is too hard? [5:30]
The decision Jayson made that was crucial to his relationship. [15:00]
Does Ellen ever feel that motherhood is too hard? [17:00]
The perspective that matters most in a relationship [18:45]
How to work through conflict in a relationship? [20:15]
What about working through conflict on your own, without your partner or community? [22:30]
Why it’s not wise to “pick your battles”? [26:45]
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