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What To Do When Your Partner Triggers You – SC 34

By Jayson
February 3, 2016

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If you are in a long-term relationship, you’re going get triggered, period. And how you show up in those moments will define whether you grow together or grow apart. In this episode, we dive into an effective process for navigating upset when you’re triggered and how to rock it so you honor yourself and your partner.



  • What does it mean to be triggered? [1:50]
  • Are you normal if you get triggered by your partner? [3:40]
  • Better questions to ask when you’re triggered. [6:15]
  • What to do when you’re triggered [6:55]
  • The 4 step process for getting centered after a trigger [10:10]
  • The best way to share with your partner after you’ve calmed down [16:40]
  • Why you shouldn’t focus on getting them to change their behavior. [19:44]
  • Review [21:07]

[bctt tweet=”When you’re triggered by your partner, don’t distract yourself, sit in the fire of your experience. And see where it takes you.”]






  1. Lance

    Worth listening to over and over and over again, so dense with practices, behavioral cues and validations/rational for growing and healing. Love it!!

  2. LEANN

    Thank you Jason. I am learning so much. About my self. Please don’t stop. I need these tools for relationship.

    • meg@relationshipschool.com

      hi Leann, Thank you I appreciate it. Sorry we’re 6 years late in seeing your comment, but better late than never and now we have 6 years of podcasts that I hope you are listening to and benefitting from. Thanks for sharing and take good care =)

  3. Ana Greaves

    yes I needed to hear this right now

    Thanks Jayson

  4. RussellFeingold

    Awesome! Fundamental to cultivating healthy relationship … Period!

  5. Steve Potts

    Hi Jayson, I found your website the other day or maybe it found me and the time was right. ☺ I listened to “What to do when your partner triggers you” Thank you!, thank you!, thank you!. Sounds like excellent advise and dare I say……? ….cant wait to try it!! I will be in touch, ive needed this for the last 40yrs in my relationship with my wife. ??⭐⭐⭐

    • meg@relationshipschool.com

      hi Steve, this is so amazing to read. Very glad you found us! Thanks for sharing and listening

  6. Nick

    This is great. I love the sussinct delivery of such a helpful tool!




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