I get this question a lot. Is it okay to have expectations in relationships?
My answer is nuanced. It’s a YES, and it’s a No.
Listen to this short podcast and discover the six expectations that I think are totally reasonable to have in a relationship, especially a partnership.
Here are a few of the highlights:
Shownotes:
- (2:35) 6 reasonable expectations in relationships
- (4:50) Fairness
- (5:50) Feeling emotionally safe
- (7:35) Respect
- (8:50) Mutual Contribution
- (10:00) Solving problems together
- (11:05) Knowing and understanding each other
- (13:35) Action step
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That was great Jayson. Thank you! Always something to learn and apply. I’m going to work on this. I am a stickler on agreements, and behind them is expectations as you say. I’ve been learning that some of my expectations should be non negotiable. If they are not met then comes resentment. Thank you for pointing that out. So much around needs, & that we all need. And it’s just a free for all with out basic expectations being met. Free for alls work for individuals, but not relationships. I believe that the relationship connection bridges are built on agreements originating from mutually agreed expectations, One partner or both partners can heavily or not value the expectation requesting to be fulfilled. The agreement bridges are consistent places to connect, without having to build a new bridge every time. Without them, we stand on opposite sides of the river with no bridge between us connecting us, fantasizing about a bridge. Thanx again for your unconditional free gifts helping us to learn more and share thoughts in a safe place.. Awesome.
thanks for sharing your feelings and experience Tommy =)