Jayson, Author at The Relationship School®

Why People Get Divorced In January & What To Do About It – Charles J. Orlando – SC 86

January is a big month for divorces. My guest Charles Orlando has a few gems to help you avoid a divorce or just level up your marriage. Charles shares a few challenging moments in his marriage as well as the hard reality so many couples must face when being together for more than 2 decades. Lean in to this one and I can assure you you will learn at least one thing that might make a big difference if you are feeling challenged right now.

SHOWNOTES

Charles’ relationship story. [9:50]
How we know if we’re ready for marriage. [13:00]
Why do you people get divorced in January? [15:00]
The #1 thing you can do to prevent a “January Divorce”. [17:00]
A micro step you can take to ratchet up the ‘honesty’ in your relationship. [19:00]
How to get real, raw and say the hard truths (and how NOT to say it). [21:00]
How Charles recently got through a super tough time in his relationship.[22:00]
How to know when a relationship has run its course. [25:00]
The pacts to make with yourself that help you take responsibility and take back control of your happiness in relationships. [28:00]
The reason great relationships take effort – and how to use that effort to create the best possible relationship. [34:00]
An unusual type of therapy that Charles uses to turn peoples marriages around. [38:00]

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Charles J. Orlando is a relationship expert and bestselling author of The Problem with Women… is Men book series and The Pact: Goodbye, Past. Hello, Love!, and the upcoming graphic novella Don’t Date A Dick, and he serves as expert host of the hit show Seven Year Switch on FYI (currently in its second season).

Referred to as “The Malcolm Gladwell of Relationships” by the media, and “Carrie Bradshaw-meets-Hitch” by his readers, Charles has built a 1,400,000+ person fanbase on Facebook—completely by word-of-mouth—where he offers free, street-smart love advice to men and women around the world. Charles has personally connected with tens of thousands of singles and couples to discover the answers to key questions that plague modern-day romance: What challenges plague romantic relationships in today’s technology-centric world; and what do women and men truly want from their significant others—and themselves—in a long-term relationship?

What sets Charles apart from other writers is his personal, ongoing connection with his readers and fans. According to a recent study by Social Media analyzer Visibli, “On average, [celebrities and] artists get 92 ‘Likes’ per post… which is almost twice what brands and media companies get.” With an average of 4,200 “likes” and 350 comments per post—and nearly 65% of his fanbase returning every month to his Facebook Page—Charles’ level of engagement is off the charts, rivaling media stars and first class brands alike, proving that the social nature of relationships is a natural match with the Facebook platform.

Charles has been working directly with thousands of men and women and indirectly with hundreds of thousands via social media. His approach is one of reality and balance, steering clear of techniques that might sound good in a clinical book/setting yet nearly impossible to apply when considering the organic reality of life (kids, bills, jobs, shifting dynamics, outside influences, interpersonal relationships external to the central relationship, etc.).

Charles’ approach to research is unique, as he frequently goes undercover in the worlds of dating, marriage and infidelity, and he is regularly tapped by the media for his insight into relationships and marriage. Most recently, Charles went undercover as a “cheating husband” on the cheater’s website AshleyMadison.com. His story has been read by millions, and has been optioned for a feature film. USA Network sought his expertise for their new show Satisfaction, a groundbreaking show that highlights the cracks and challenges of a long-term marriage, midlife, and infidelity.

Charles is an active member of Mensa (“the High IQ Society”), is a contributing expert for a variety of publications—including Self, Men’s Health, Shape, YourTango—and he writes a weekly column for Metro New York.

How Do I Let My Wall Down & Let Him In? – SC 85

We all have a wall in our most intimate relationships. Find out how to take down that wall in a way that works for you. I’ve got the first step laid out for you.

SHOWNOTES

Martina asks her question [5:00]
The first step in dealing with fear. [7:30]
How your parents influence your relationship with your partner. [8:00]
The truth about fear. [12:00]
Jayson gives an action step. [15:00]

HELPFUL LINKS

3 Advanced Techniques That Address Any Relationship Problem – January 11 at 12pm MT
Facebook – Jayson Gaddis Fan Page
Monogamy & The Smart Couple – Facebook Group
How to Leave A Podcast Review

Do You Want To Be A Victim Or Get Empowered? – Alexi & Preston – SC 84

Want to hear how two people move from victim consciousness to a place of empowerment? Alexi and Preston have some bold answers on how to get over your victim mindset when it comes to relationships and your past. If you want to be challenged in a good way, this episode will help you.

SHOWNOTES

How did Preston & Alexi begin their journey of personal transformation? [14:00]
Why do people struggle in relationship? [21:30]
Preston & Alexi’s backpack metaphor that helps them thrive in their relationship struggles. [23:00]
Why Preston couldn’t last 20 minutes watching an HBO show with Alexi. [26:00]
The lessons from their last big fight. [30:00]
Preston shares the biggest tool a man can use during a fight with his partner. [36:00]
The deadly sins of love. [42:00]
The difference between victim and victim consciousness. [45:30]
Alexi shares a traumatic personal experience and how she empowered herself around it. [48:00]
Your action step. [57:00]

The 5 Deadly Sins of Love

Criticism
Contempt
Defensiveness
Shutting Down
Lying

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As the Co-Founders and Co-Creators of The Bridge Method, Alexi Panos and Preston Smiles have supported thousands of people who have dramatically changed their lives by participating in their various programs and workshops all over the world.

For the past 10 years, they’ve both dedicated their lives to learning as much as they could about Human Potential, Positive Psychology, NLP, Ontology of Language, Transformative Studies, Somatic Training, and Esoteric Wisdom to step into their own leadership and truly “walk the walk” of this work. They are insanely committed to leading others on this same path, and empowering them to step fully into their unique gifts to create a world that works for everyone.

Recently married, this couple is truly committed to transforming the way the world works, by transforming the lives of individuals. They currently speak and lead workshops all over the world (both together and separate), as well as run their own widely successful inspirational YouTube Channels. Both Preston + Alexi released their first solo books in June 2016 under the publishing house of Simon + Schuster; and will be releasing their first collaborative book with the same publisher in January 2017. http://alexiandpreston.com

If You Are Bored In Your Relationship – Ellen & Jayson – SC 83

Is your relationship boring or are you boring? Or, better yet, are you just stuck and unsure of how to deepen your relationship? Boredom is a sign that you are missing something, big. Human beings are not boring. Yes, they may have stunted their development, but behind that wall is a massive ocean to explore. Listen up and find out how to get beyond boring.

SHOWNOTES

The piece of chocolate that sparked this podcast episode. [9:00]
The common phrases we here about monogamy? [10:45]
What causes the initial boredom after we get married? [12:00]
The traps you might fall into when feeling bored in your relationship. [17:00]
The 5 steps to take as soon as you notice you’re feeling bored in your relationship. [19:00]
The power of the uncomfortable conversation. [21:00]
Your action step. [31:30]

HELPFUL RESOURCES

Product: The Difference Between An Insecure Relationship & A Secure Relationship
The Smart Couple Show – Every Wednesday at 10am MT
Facebook – Jayson Gaddis Fan Page
Monogamy & The Smart Couple – Facebook Group
How to Leave A Podcast Review

How He Got His Wife Back with Ryan Michler – SC 82

Want to hear how one man got his wife back after a separation on the brink of divorce? It’s actually quite simple but requires a certain kind of man to be able to follow through with it and execute. If you are a man, this is essential information if your marriage is on the rocks.

SHOWNOTES

How & why did Ryan start Order of Man? [6:00]
What is the current state of men in general? [7:30]
What was the impact of not growing up with a father? [9:00]
When did Ryan realize the “honeymoon” phase of marriage was over? [12:00]
The two big things that Ryan did to get his wife back. [18:00]
Did therapy help Ryan and his wife? [21:30]
The huge trap that many men fall into in a marriage. [28:00]
The trick to not fall into blame or victimhood. [35:00]
Your action step. [42:00]

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Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraqi Combat Veteran, and the Founder of Order of Man. Ryan grew up without a permanent father figure and has seen first-hand how a lack of strong, ambitious, self-sufficient men has impacted society today. He believes many of the world’s most complicated problems could be solved if men everywhere learned how to be better husbands, fathers, businessmen, and community leaders. It has now become his life’s mission to help men across the planet step more fully into their roles as protectors, providers, and presiders over themselves, their families, their businesses, and their communities. You can find him blogging and podcasting at Order of Man where he is working to help men become all they were meant to be. http://www.orderofman.com