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Agreeing to a Mediocre Relationship – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 468

Agreeing to a Mediocre Relationship – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 468

 

Why do people get complacent in long-term relationships? Jayson and Ellen discuss a situation where a couple mutually decided to put their marriage on the back burner to avoid conflict. What are the drawbacks of using complacency as a coping mechanism? Is ignoring your relational needs in order to avoid conflict a sustainable long-term strategy? Tune in to learn how to break out of the complacency trap and get real with your partner today.

Timestamps:

  • 2:22 – Using complacency to avoid conflict
  • 5:30 – Is being complacent okay if it reduces conflict?
  • 7:29 – The drawbacks of complacency as a conflict avoidance strategy
  • 8:37 – When relationship feels like a demand instead of a gift
  • 12:38 – Complacency doesn’t solve underlying issues
  • 17:55 – Avoidant people need relationship too
  • 20:22 – Is ignoring your emotional needs sustainable?
  • 23:04 – Standing for three

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Staying in a Dead Marriage for the Kids – Jayson Gaddis – 467

Staying in a Dead Marriage for the Kids – Jayson Gaddis – 467

 

This is a pretty charged issue. On the one hand, some people really believe divorce is one of the major causes of problems in children. On the other hand, newer research suggests that kids are fine coming from divorced families, and in fact may even be more resilient and capable of handling life’s challenges. If you really think divorce is going to mess up your kids, think again…

Timestamps:

  • The erroneous assumption that comes along with divorce statistics [3:30]
  • What is the real issue here? [8:40]
  • The problem with divorce/marriage research [12:20]
  • What I suggest you do if you are in a dead marriage [15:40]

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The Surprising Difference Between Divorced People and Married People – Mark Manson – #466

The Surprising Difference Between Divorced People and Married People – Mark Manson – #466

 

What can you learn from divorced people and what can you learn from people who have been married for a decade or two? What are the main differences? There are two and we cover them in this episode with author Mark Manson. We also explore how Mark navigated a big challenge with his now wife and why self-improvement and self-awareness are so essential to long-term partnership.

Timestamps:

  • 1:03 – Episode introduction
  • 4:36 – Mark Manson’s backstory
  • 8:52 – Common issues and challenges
  • 10:42 – Healthy boundaries
  • 15:28 – How important is it for couples to have friends outside their relationship?
  • 17:13 – Challenges in marriage and how to get through them
  • 26:04 – Is respect more important than communication?
  • 31:17 – How school ill prepares us for life
  • 33:57 – What can we learn from people who have been divorced?
  • 36:50 – Cultivating self-awareness
  • 40:38 – Mark’s preferred methods of introspection
  • 42:54 – The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
  • 46:24 – Action Steps

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The Misattuned Camper & Not Getting The Impact of Our Behavior on Others – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 465

The Misattuned Camper & Not Getting The Impact of Our Behavior on Others – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 465

 

Explore the wilderness of Colorado with Jayson and Ellen in this upcoming episode. Their backpacking adventure takes an unexpected turn which leads to thought-provoking insights about human interactions, relationships, and the delicate balance between self-expression and consideration for others. Tune in to this discussion that will inspire you to reflect on your own interactions and the impact of your actions on those around you.

Timestamps:

  • 4:04 – The story of the misattuned camper
  • 11:38 – How our behavior impacts others
  • 17:32 – Why our relationship to others matters
  • 20:34 – Standing for three
  • 21:48 – Keeping each other in mind

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Human Development, Spiritual Growth, & Consciousness – Mark Divine – 464

Human Development, Spiritual Growth, & Consciousness – Mark Divine – 464

 

This week Jayson welcomes back a returning guest and good friend, Mark Divine. Together, they discuss the stages of human development, emphasizing the importance of maturing, resolving emotional issues, and achieving full integration as individuals. They cover diverse aspects, from self-connection to various spiritual paths, authentic leadership, and simplifying life for a more meaningful existence. Join Jayson and Mark for a journey into personal evolution and a reflection on the impact of technology on relationships.

Timestamps:

  • 0:46 – Guest introduction
  • 7:04 – Levels of development
  • 9:33 – The five stages
  • 17:12 – Relational development
  •  20:41 – Four frameworks
  • 25:28 – Working on yourself through relationship
  • 27:34 – Spiritual development
  • 30:56 – Doing relational work as a man
  • 36:18 – Moving from doing to being
  • 39:14 – Is distraction a defense mechanism?
  • 41:56 – Being present with your kids
  • 45:11 – Digital distractions
  • 51:51 – Making Integral Theory digestible
  • 54:59 – Dissolving polarity
  • 58:46 – Escaping the maze of victimhood
  • 1:02:17 – What are Mark and Jayson up to currently?
  • 1:05:54 – Action steps

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Thoughts About Your Human Journey – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 463

Thoughts About Your Human Journey – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 463

 

Join Jayson and Ellen as they discuss insights from a transformative two-day retreat. From conflict management to embracing the unknown, they uncover using relationships as a path to self-discovery. Tune in for an authentic journey of growth that reshapes your view on human connections.

Timestamps:

  • 2:28 – What happens on a two day retreat with Jayson?
  • 9:53 – Accepting challenges as learning experiences
  • 13:20 – Don’t lose your relationship to yourself
  • 16:31 – What does Buddhism have to say about ending the cycle of suffering?
  • 21:06 – What is The Path?
  • 23:37 – What makes relationships a good development path?
  • 26:11 – How long does it take for someone to understand relationship as a development path?
  • 28:33 – Action steps

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