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Embracing Gender Differences & Hormones – John Gray – SC 175

Embracing Gender Differences & Hormones – John Gray – SC 175

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According to John Gray, women are embracing their masculine side and men their feminine side more than ever before and our new behavior is significantly influencing our biology and the new challenges that we face in our most intimate relationships.

John Gray, author of Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus, says that as gender roles change, so are our hormones, making many relationships … well, complicated.

As Jayson finds out in this episode, John Gray is willing to stir up controversy to prove traditional gender roles and behavior shouldn’t be abandoned completely if we want to be physically healthy and happy in our relationships.

Here are a few of the highlights:

SHOWNOTES

      • Who is John Gray? [9:00]
      • Stop the blame game [17:00]
      • Putting on your masculine or feminine “hat” [20:00]
      • Relationships in the era of gender neutrality [23:00]
      • The science behind “male” vs “female” qualities [34:00]
      • Is the angry man a feminized man? [39:00]
      • Pesticides and hormones [43:00]
      • Balancing our male and female sides [54:00]
      • Ladies, venting is good for you [57:00]
      • Changing diet to correct hormonal imbalance [1:09:00]

 

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John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the #1 bestselling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.

Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.

John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance.

His many books, blogs and free online workshops at MarsVenus.com provide practical insights to improve relationships at all stages of life and love. An advocate of health and optimal brain function, he also provides natural solutions for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress to support increased energy, libido, hormonal balance and better sleep.

He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.

John Gray lives in Northern California with his wife, Bonnie. They have been happily married for over 30 years and have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice.

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3 Questions To Get To The Bottom of A Hurtful Relationship Pattern

3 Questions To Get To The Bottom of A Hurtful Relationship Pattern

Ever wondered why something as simple as your partner’s tone of voice can send you into a tailspin? How something seemingly small feel like an inferno inside, sending you off the charts? Do you judge yourself for this? Or justify your reaction?

What (the hell) is going on here?!

Most likely it has to do with safety. How safe or unsafe you feel in a certain situation – and how you perceive threat in your relationship.

The nervous system has a way of constantly assessing your level of safety that’s happening all the time.

Because a situation felt scary to you when you were young – or because you actually experienced a real fear or life-threatening situation – you may react as if it’s a actually happening again. Your partner triggers you, and you behave like your 5-year-old self did then.

Sometimes all it takes is a gesture, or a look, and our system gets tripped, just like a switch going off, instantly.

Yikes!

When we feel threatened, we go into survival mode.

Our brain shuts off, reasoning goes offline, and we react instead of thinking.

If not addressed, these patterns can deteriorate safety and connection in your relationship over time.

So what do we do?

Relationship expert and psychotherapist Terri Cole lays down 3 questions to help you get to the bottom of the relationship pattern:

According to Terri, we need to ask ourselves:

  1. Who does this person remind me of?
  2. Where have I felt like this before?
  3. Why is this behavioral dynamic familiar to me?

And then see if you can get clear about what’s really going on. Why are you so upset? Or scared? Why is this such a big deal?

Recognize that you are feeling threatened and remember that the person in front of you is not mom or dad or whoever the scary person was back then.

When you’re ready, share what you’ve discovered with your partner.

Owning and understanding our reactions gets us resourced and better able to deal with the real time, real life issues that show up.

Breaking down a hurtful relationship pattern opens the door to building your way back into safety and connection!

How To Work With Personality Differences – Joel & Antonia – SC 77

How To Work With Personality Differences – Joel & Antonia – SC 77

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In this episode, personality hackers and smart couple Joel and Antonia share their personal experiences of working through differences by understanding their partner’s personality type. These two use Myers-Briggs, the enneagram, and other personality tests to understand themselves and each other better. I think you’ll get a couple of new insights from Joel and Antonia’s story that can help you right now in your own relationship. Pay special attention to what they do well and how they work through challenges in a collaborative way. 

SHOWNOTES

  • What is a “social technology”? [8:30]
  • Why do you need to understand your partner’s personality style? [14:00]
  • How did Joel and Antonia start studying personality? [15:15]
  • The unique history of the Myers-Briggs typing system. [17:00]
  • How thinkers and feelers can work well in relationships. [22:00]
  • Can your learn from your partner’s personality style? [32:00]
  • The impact of masculine or feminine personality types. [35:00]
  • The two kinds of thinking styles. [38:30]
  • The best place to start to figure out you & your partner’s personality type? [42:00]
  • The traps of personality tests. [44:00]
  • One thing to never do with your partner. [47:30]
  • What caused Joel and Antonia to dive into personal growth? [49:00]

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personalityhacker-com-joel-mark-witt-antonia-dodge-headshotJoel Mark Witt & Antonia Dodge are a married couple and creators of Personality Hacker – a new kind of publishing company that merges digital media with emerging models of human development. They focus on helping people create more happiness in their lives by understanding themselves and others.