DPIR is the Only Curriculum to Teach YOU How to Have Lasting, Powerful and Supportive Relationships with your Partner, Your Family, Your Friends and Your Colleagues, For Life
In 9 months from today, you can have unparalleled breakthrough in your relationships where you will no longer feel stuck, dis-empowered and not seen. This rite of passage will take you through pleasure and pain, intense ups and downs, but you’re going to transform the way you relate to others and it’s going to last a lifetime.
Dear Relational Warrior,
As you’ve heard me say countless times before, being seen and understood by others is a core need we all have. Successfully working out our differences is a core desire most of us have. But our educational and religious institutions, our elders and mainstream media have done nothing to teach us how to accomplish this.
Most adults are just aimless children, pretending they know how to be in a relationship. They bring with them baggage from their youth, generated by chronic superficial connections, trauma or neglect, either on purpose or by
That is why a few
And for a limited time, we’re opening the doors to this course just for you…
Stop struggling in your relationships. Learn how to create powerful, dynamic and supportive relationships, FOR GOOD
After over ten years as a psychotherapist, I got fed up with the same patterns… if you’ve gone to therapy before, I’m sure you’ve seen them…
A couple would come into my office, after weeks of waiting for an appointment, to discuss a relationship problem they were experiencing. I would spend the next 60 minutes helping them see what is causing their pain and try to help them address it, but it rarely worked.
You see, I had limited ability to follow-up with the couples, to ensure they did the work necessary… but more than that, the couples were rarely all-in and committed to improving the way they relate to others. They just wanted a quick fix to a systemic, life-long roadblock.
I would regularly come home from the office and complain to my wife Ellen that I just wasn’t making a difference.
Then, I decided something had to change.
If I was going to actualize the DECADES of training I received at the foot of my mentors, like Dawn Larsen (My first therapist) Duey Freeman & Duane Mullner (Master gestalt therapists), Reggie Ray (Vajrayana Buddhist teacher), Alberto (Columbian shaman), Dr John Demartini (Polymath human behavior specialist), Dr Gabor Mate (MD, author and integrative badass) Stan Tatkin (Couple therapist, author), and countless others, I knew I had to create a course… I knew I needed to build THE COURSE to solve the same problems I saw day-in and day-out… for good.
For months, I locked myself in my home office and started piecing together
Then, in the Spring of 2016, I offered enrollment into the class that I called:
Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships (DPIR) Professional Certification Program
DPIR is the course I needed when I was early in my partnership with Ellen. Fraught with my own shit, I wasn’t on track to build a lasting partnership, then marriage, and I decided to change that.
I’m excited to offer you this limited time opportunity to join DPIR so that you can become an expert in Interpersonal Intelligence™, relating to others, and being seen and understood by the most important people in your life.
Before we talk about what’s inside DPIR, I want to ask you to envision your life…
Let’s talk about YOU…
Reflecting on your relationships in your life, how do you think you’re doing?
How is your relationship with your partner, if you have one? Do you feel safe and secure, seen and understood, supported and loved on a daily basis? Do they have your back completely? Do you have theirs?
How do you relate to your friends? Do you have at least three friends who are your confidants, whom you can talk to about anything and they are there to support you, not judge you or try to fix you, and who are also willing to challenge you to be better?
Does your relationship with your parents, siblings and possibly children reflect your
Finally, how is your relationship with yourself? Can you honestly look in the mirror and deeply appreciate the person staring back at you?
My guess is… you’ve got some room for growth.
Maybe your partnership feels like they’re one-foot-out-the-door. If you’re dating or married, you might feel like you’re simply roommates and not in an intimate relationship. Sex aside, you don’t feel like they have your best interest in mind. They’re not committed to your relationship, they’re simply committed to their own needs and desires.
Or perhaps your relationship with your friends is bad. You have dozens of “friends” but when you really think about it, none of these so-called friends actually know the real you. They just know the mask you put on. You might be afraid that if they knew the real you, that they’d leave..
Or family… maybe you’re like so many Relationship School® students who have relationships with their parents that are mired with drama, obligation, and resentment. You might have some baggage from your childhood that has left you astray from your parents and you might be unknowingly bringing that into other relationships.
How about your relationship with yourself? How is your self worth? Do you even like who you are? Be honest… It’s painful to reflect, but get a real pulse for where you are right now…
Something here hurts. You’ve tapped into some pain and hopefully some ownership of that pain.
Listen, we all have our shit. We all have our past, our scars and our painful experiences.
But they’re not your fault. You’re not alone in feeling this way.
Forces across the globe want you to feel like shit, so you can fill that sadness and despair with buying crap you don’t need. Consumerism encourages us that we need another new gadget to ease our pain, but we buy yet another thing, only to feel more disconnected and alone, again.
Now, I want you to think about . That’s about 9 months from now.
Imagine you’re waking up on that day with your current path in life, what is that morning going to look like?
Odds are, you’re going to have the same exact relationship with yourself, with your partner, your friends and parents.
What I want to do is offer you another route. An alternative future for you and your life.
What if, instead of waking up with an intimate relationship that wasn’t intimate, friendships that weren’t deep, and family members that walked all over you or kept you in your childhood role… what if your relationships were completely transformed?
DPIR Professional Certification Program is the only curriculum that will produce lasting, life-long changes in the ways you relate to people in your life
This is your chance to get the relationship training you need to level-up from hopeful, wandering lost soul to a courageous, committed love warrior who demands to be seen and treated in an empowering way.
Here’s what Julie G. said about her experience with DPIR:
“My experience as a student and apprentice in the Relationship School has been life-changing. The teachings that Jayson offers up have really expanded my knowledge. I love the live webinars and the content that he brings and the way he delivers it. Even more important to me is the strong community of other students with whom I practice the skills and who help keep me accountable. The tools that I have learned have helped me to step more into my power in my relationships.
They are practical and easy to digest and integrate into my life. I feel now a greater sense of connection to myself and others than I ever have before because I have learned how to step more into my own authentic expression without sacrificing connection. I wish I had learned these skills earlier since I am experiencing such growth and expansion in my life and in my capacity as a human. I am so excited about the mission of the Relationship School to teach people the class they never had in school. In fact, I’m excited to say that through my involvement in the school, I have changed my career path and I am now embarking on a path as a transformational life and relationship coach. Thank you Jayson Gaddis. I am truly grateful.”
If you enroll in DPIR, you’ll learn skills like…
- How relationships really work, and how to know if you’re living in a childish fantasy
- How to set the context for a meaningful conversation, so you can get to things that matter (instead of just talking about the weather!)
- Tools that help you connect to yourself, in a moment, in order to be more present and act from a place of intention and care (you’ll also have HOURS of practice with practice partners in the program so that this becomes a rehearsed skill and not just an academic education)
- The secrets of building rapport, connecting with anyone verbally and non-verbally (I use this with my wife all the time when life gets chaotic and I want to get grounded in our relationship). I even use this to connect with any stranger on the street or at a networking function.
- Understanding your top three priorities and sussing out colleagues, friends, family and your partners, as well, so you can serve them and appreciate them while getting your needs met
- How to set clear, protective boundaries so you can have more personal integrity (which is very attractive) instead of abandoning yourself and getting walked all over.
- The 6-step approach to getting into someone’s world and finding ways to support them (this will QUICKLY flip the switch between ‘casual friend’ to ‘committed friend,’ so use it carefully!)
- How to feel validated and how to validate others (this is the cornerstone to feeling heard, seen and understood)
- The most bulletproof, field-tested ways to listen to the people in your life, even if you’re in the middle of an emotional fight
- Identifying who you are (this is huuuuuge), and what you stand for (once you understand this, your actions start to fall into place and you feel in alignment, with a greater sense of purpose)
- How to apologize in a way that leaves both you and the other party empowered and grateful (and how to get your partner to do this, too!)
- The “trick” to accepting praise and acknowledgment from others, without deflecting, dodging or hiding
- How to give heartfelt appreciations to others, so that they open up to explore a deeper bond and connection with you
- Challenging others skillfully (Grads use this tool to call out colleagues that aren’t pulling their weight, or getting their kids to rise-up and be helpful, without feeling icky or like a bitch or like a jerk)
- … and a whole lot more
The Interpersonal Intelligence™ skills you will learn are not just taught in an academic way, with scientific support. DPIR students get to learn and practice these skills every week over the 9-month course with optional practice partners so these skills become part of their natural behavior
As a student of DPIR, you’ll be enrolled in:
- Bi-weekly lectures taught by me on the core curriculum
- Optional weekly practice sessions with new and different practice partners (according to our students, this is one of the most beneficial parts of the course because practice translates into results in real life)
- A Small Group run by a Relationship Coach RC1 student, who will support the group in break-outs and exercises
- A Facebook group of committed students who are on your team, rooting for your success
- Regular homework (which will take about 1-2 hours each week)
- Reflection papers, where you share your experience reading and applying principles from a mighty tome of relationship strategies
- A Warrior Exam, which you’ll take at the end of each semester to test your knowledge of each skill
That means you’ll have:
119.5 Hours of Study, Practice, and Connection
- 25.5 hours of class time and Q and A
- 15 hours of study outside of class
- 18 hours of optional practice sessions with DPIR classmates
- 12+ homework assignments
- 9 hours – Small Group sessions – one per month (9 total)
As you can see, DPIR isn’t just a few tricks and tips, or a handful of therapy sessions…
DPIR will take you DEEPER into yourself, so you can relate to others in a skillful way, so you can enjoy more love, more connection, and more money
You might be thinking “Wait… more money?!” Hell yes.
In the DPIR course, you’ll have an experience similar to Susan’s:
“The tools are making their mark as I’m embodying them with each experience in and out of practice work. I find I am more likely to speak up; with my family, my friends close and distant. And with that my relationships have become a fertile ground for growth and love. In short, this course has taught me to dare to come back into relationship, with curiosity and a sense of the possibility of connecting in a whole and fulfilled way.”
And when you speak up more at work, you become a Relational Leader. You are walking around with more value. You demand excellence. People notice. You now have the opportunity to grow in your profession. Not only
Are you destined to become a Relationship Coach?
A number of DPIR graduates have stepped so strongly into being a Relational Leader, that they have gone on to take the Relationship Coach training (RC1). They fell in love with the support they received at DPIR and are building their life to pay-it-forward. DPIR is the prerequisite for the RC1 coaching, so if you’ve ever considered becoming a relationship coach, this investment will get you started!
DPIR is a great way to not only get your shit figured
The training in Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships has attracted the support of life-long advocates of healthy and safe relationships.
Experts Support Our Mission and YOU
The training in Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships has attracted the support of life-long advocates of healthy and safe relationships.
Here’s what our Ambassadors are saying about DPIR:
“We need to foster emotional competence in our children, as the best preventive medicine.”
DR. GABOR MATÉ
Ambassador – The Relationship School®
“The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. When we invest time and energy learning how to love and be loved, we heal pain from the past and we create the conditions for greater health in future generations.”
DR. ALEXANDRA SOLOMON
Ambassador – The Relationship School®
“I mean, none of us learned this stuff in school. We didn’t learn how to learn and we didn’t learn how to do relationships. Those are the two things that should be taught in schools.”
DR. STAN TATKIN
Ambassador – The Relationship School®
Alright, here’s a doozy for you… Back in 1938, scientists began studying the health of 268 Harvard sophomores. This study lasted for 80 years, which constitutes the longest study of happiness with any group of people, ever.
THEIR RESULTS WERE ASTOUNDING…
Harvard Study Finds
Close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives
But what do we do every day?
We wake up, brush our teeth, then head to work in order to “make us happy.”
We come home, greet our partner, roommate, or cat, then get lost in a hobby, Netflix or other work.
But we’re not working on our relationships.
Very few of us have the understanding of what the curriculum should be for improving relationships.
I just searched Amazon for “Relationship Advice” and 30,000 books are written on the subject.
Let me tell you a little secret… they’re mostly garbage!
There are only a few books worth reading, and if you read them in the wrong order, you’re going to set yourself up for long-term frustration. You’ll learn tools that depend on a foundation you haven’t learned.
Why? Because those books lack partner practice. Those books lack Interpersonal Intelligence™. Those books don’t come with an experienced Relationship Coach who will help you work through your issues and answer your questions one-on-one.
I know because I tried that. For years, I read and studied. It didn’t work. In fact, in my 3
That’s why I created DPIR – So you can earn your way to personal empowerment and fulfillment faster.
DPIR is your opportunity to get a Master’s Degree in Interpersonal Intelligence™ and relating to others, without wasting your time with unproven theories, short-sighted approaches or archaic, debunked processes.
WATCH THIS VIDEO AND SEE…
Knowing that the Harvard study found that relationships and community lead to long-term happiness, are you willing to invest in yourself to demand the relationships you deserve?
Having a powerful intimate relationship, friendships and community is your birthright. Are you going to claim it?
If you’re committed to yourself and to building a lifetime of strong, supportive and sexy relationships, I want to challenge you to join DPIR right now.
The cost of tuition: $2,500
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Corrine was a broke college student, but knew DPIR would help her grow and become the person knew she could be:
Let’s talk about the price. It’s the biggest objection I hear to DPIR, and it’s a good objection.
$2,500 isn’t cheap.
But if you’ve ever been in therapy, you know that the good therapists are never in-network, and you have to pay out of pocket. That’ll run you upwards of $200/hour, with an average of 4-6 sessions a month. Over the course of 9 months, you’ll have spent over $10,000… but what will you have to show for it?
In my experience as a psychotherapist and relationship coach, couples might feel more clear about why they’re triggered in a certain situation, but will they have lasting resolution and a framework to ensure the problem never happens again?
Look, therapy can be awesome. But if you don’t learn a framework, and practice with new tools consistently, you’ll keep repeating the same patterns, over and over.
If you haven’t been to therapy because of the social stigma around it, or maybe because your partner won’t attend, or even because you don’t think it’s necessary for you, you’re still walking around with baggage. Trust me.
In your friendships, in the way you relate to your parents, siblings
And that’s got to be a drag, huh?
To exist in the world as someone who is inauthentic and dis-empowered.
It’s exhausting to parade around as someone else all day, just so you can feel
On , you’ll be 9 months older than you are today. If you join DPIR right now and commit to yourself, you’ll not only be older, but you’ll be wiser. You’ll have a deep understanding of who you are, what you need, how you relate to others, and how to create community. You will be THE person at the party that knows how to work through interpersonal differences and conflicts (because you did the work and learned Interpersonal Intelligence™). You’ll feel more fulfilled, mature, and empowered. You’ll probably sleep better too.
Are you ready to commit?
100% Money Back Guarantee
When you enroll into DPIR, you are eligible for a 60-day, unconditional refund of any payments made, minus your non-refundable deposit. This policy begins on the first day of class, and includes any payments made prior to then (excluding your deposit). You will have 60 days from then to exit the course and provide us with a written request for a refund. We require that you take part in an exit interview with a member of our student development team, prior to releasing your funds. After 60 days, you are no longer eligible for a refund, and any requests made for one will not be honored, under any circumstances.
60 days allows you time to attend the live event (required), do the homework, participate in partner calls, attend growth sessions and listen to the course content for approximately 3-4 classes. You will have a good taste of what we are doing. It’s also a time for us to evaluate your ability to do the work. We expect students to abide by the student agreement outlined in your student handbook. We reserve the right to remove you from the course, at any point, if we determine you are not ready for the program or are not abiding by the student agreements. Should this occur within the first 60 days, your full payment minus the non-refundable deposit will be refunded, provided it is within the first 60 days. If this occurs after the first 60 days, your right to a refund will be forfeited and you will remain obligated to any remaining payments.
Your investment into DPIR does not end with your financial payment. An investment of time and energy are required, and if you are selected to enroll in our program, you are expected to play full out! We will lean into challenges together and you will not only learn how to have a successful relationship, you will learn what it feels like, because you will be a part of one with our School. It takes hard work, commitment and a willingness to apply consistent, steady practice. If you will engage in the process and take risks, you will leave here with the kind of lifelong results that can never be learned in a textbook.
These are some of the most commonly asked questions about DPIR that we get. Check them out, along with the provided answers, and if you have another question, make sure to contact us: [email protected].
What will be taught in DPIR?
In addition to being THE person in your family, circle of friends, and relationships that knows how to work through interpersonal differences and conflicts, you’ll gain specific tools and skills you can use immediately – and for the rest of your life.
Check out the course syllabus here.
What if I start with DPIR and then discover it's not right for me?
We offer a 100% money back guarantee. When you enroll into DPIR, you are eligible for a 60-day refund of any payments made, minus your non-refundable deposit. This policy begins on the first day of class. We require a written request and that you take part in an exit interview with a member of our student development team, prior to releasing your funds. After 60 days, you are no longer eligible for a refund, and any requests made for one will not be honored, under any circumstances.
Read about the complete policy here.
There may be other options may be available or a better fit that can be discussed on an individual, case by case basis.
Do I have to live in Boulder in order to take this course?
No, not at all. We have students from all over the world, including Switzerland, Brazil, and even Tanzania! This is a completely virtual event.
Do you offer any scholarships or discounts?
Starting in 2019 we’re offering a select number of scholarships to students who identify as Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC) and Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning and Intersex (LGBTQIA+) into DPIR who are committed to the program and all it entails.
We also a Super Early Bird discount equivalent to $1000 off and an Early Bird discount equivalent to $500 off for folks who are ready to register. The Super Early Bird discount expiration date is listed on this page.
What happens if I miss a class?
You can check the recorded classes in the sutdent portal many times as you want.
Do you offer any payment plans?
Yes. We offer 6- and 9-month payment plans. Details here
How does the class work look from week to week?
You can take this course on your own pace, you can take it in 9 months or 9 weeks, it’s up to you.
How much time will I need each week for the course?
DPIR Self Study takes most students between 2-4 hours per week, depending on your pace.
Can I partice with other people taking the course with me?
It depends. Sometimes there are other students taking the DPIR Self Study Class at the same time that you are and you can find them in the Facebook group. Remeber: you’re pretty much on your own with this course.
I believe that, and that’s why I started The Relationship School®. I’m building an army of Love Warriors who are changing our society.
I want my kids to grow up in a world where they feel heard and understood. I’m teaching my kids to work out their differences effectively and efficiently. I want them to feel safe to be exactly who they are.
But I can’t do that alone.
So aside from you changing your life and your relationships, you’re also changing the world for my kids. Your commitment to yourself raises my commitment to our community; I will stand and fight for you, so you can clear your shit and get to your open hearted self, so that you can transform the world.
By graduating DPIR, you’ll have a profound sense of achievement and you’ll be deeply connected to this growing mob of Love Warriors.
I’m changing the world but I need your help. I commit to be here with you through the highs and lows, but I need your commitment.
Are you ready to join DPIR and get the relationships you deserve?
Sign up right now. We start Wednesday, February 5th. Do this for yourself, do this for your own happiness, do this for our society. Just fucking do it.
In support of YOU,
Harville Hendrix, the founder of the Imago Method, said this about relationships:
“The best thing a society can do for itself is to promote and support healthy couples, and the best thing partners can do for themselves, for their children, and for society is to have a healthy relationship!”
Founder, Relationship School®
DPIR Self Study Syllabus
CLASS 1 - CONTEXT & LOGISTICS
- NESTr Meditation
- Mission of RS
- Context – purpose of this training
- Why context matters (2 parts)
- How we learn
- Agreements for 9 months
- Class Recordings
- Growth Sessions
- Small Groups
- Role of Small Group Leaders
- Missing class
- Requirements to graduate
- Live Weekend info
CLASS 2 - HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK - RESPONSIBILITY & ATTACHMENT
- Good news/bad news: What happens when you commit to this work and yourself
- What you are up against
- Shiny object syndrome
- Permission to be messy and why this is hard for us…
- Tool: Relational Self-awareness
- Tool: Personal Responsibility
- Core human injury or fundamental split
- The work: repair the rupture
- How adult relationships work
- Tool: LUFU
CLASS 3 - SELF-CONNECTION - HOW TO NOT GET LOST OR STUCK ON THIS JOURNEY
- Blocks to getting what you want
- Review live event
- 4 Pillars
- 7 Commitments
- Law of the Farm & Farming
- How to reconnect fast
CLASS 4 - THE VALUE OF FEEDBACK & HOW TO DO IT WELL
- Trying to change people
- How humans make decisions
- The difference between acknowledgment and compliment
- Personhood vs. Behavior
- Staying in relationship
- Feedback – How to do it well
CLASS 5 - HOW HUMAN BEINGS DEVELOP OVER TIME
- Stages Of Group Development
- Human Development
CLASS 6 - NEEDS PART 1
- Human Development Continued
- Hero’s journey
- 2 basic needs
- 4 sub needs
- 2 questions to ask yourself
- How many needs should I have?
CLASS 7 - NEEDS PART 2
- Cost of not speaking your needs
- How to speak your needs
- Steps to speaking needs
CLASS 8 - THE FAMILY SYSTEM
- Family Systems
- Differentiation & Why it matters
- Emotional Cut offs
- Parental projection
- Family Roles
- Passing the buck
- Co Dependency
- A Challenge
- 7 Tips for Holidays or Family Vacations
CLASS 9 - CONFLICT & INTERPERSONAL STRESS
- 6 stages of partnership
- Challenging stage
- 5 types of conflict
- Context on conflict
- Your brain on relationships
- Window of presence and availability
- Relational stress – The 2 kinds of stress
- Compass & Stress
- Bad news/Good news
CLASS 10 - REPAIRING RUPTURES
- Conflict review
- How this culture does repair
- A key skill in repairing
- Attachment styles
- Rules of Thumb
- 3 Speeds of repair
CLASS 11 - CLEARING RESENTMENTS & JUDGMENTS & THE 180
- Limitations of traditional therapy and coaching
- Effective Healing
- The most effective healing I’ve found
- More context on helping people and the 180
- 180 in 2 parts
- Disclaimer using the 180
- More context for the 180
- Resentments & How to Clear them
CLASS 12 - COMPARISON, SELF-JUDGMENT & SELF-WORTH
- The nature of low self-worth
- Judging yourself
- How you Compensate
- What is low self-worth?
- Working with your self-worth in 9 steps
- New age BS around just love yourself
- Paradox of Personal Development
CLASS 13 - FEELINGS, EMOTIONS, SHAME & GUILT
- Emotions & Feelings
- Appreciation vs. Expectations
- Shame & Guilt
- 7 felt experiences that will empower your life
CLASS 14 - FEAR IN RELATIONSHIPS
- 180 on self
- Core human fear
- Fear in Relationships
- 6 steps to work with fear
CLASS 15 - BOUNDARIES
- Fear and Boundaries
- 2 Type of Boundaries
- 3 Styles of Boundaries
- 2 Ways to Set Boundaries
CLASS 16 - COMPASS & ADULT ATTACHMENT
- How values shape your behavior in partnership
- Secure Attachment
- Interpersonal Intelligence – 6 core DPIR skills and 14 subskills
CLASS 17 - SEX
- Barriers to sex
- Sexual “dysfunction”
- Sex as a crucible and path
- Sex frequency