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How To Deal With Emotional Triggers In An Intimate Partnership – Stan Tatkin – 220

By Jayson
November 28, 2018

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Understanding the science behind adult attachment, pair bonding, and just how the nervous system works is INCREDIBLY helpful in day-to-day interactions. Stan Tatkin is a well-known clinician, teacher, and total pro when it comes to human behavior and biology. He’s got a knack for taking really dense research and making it easy to understand. There’s so much practical knowledge in this one. Pay attention, and you’ll have social experiments to try and things to ponder for weeks!  

Here are a few of the highlights: SHOWNOTES

      • Who Is Stan Tatkin? [1:00]
      • Info On Stan’s New Book ‘We Do’ [4:00]
      • Going From Me To We Is Not About Codependency [6:00]
      • What is PACT & Psychobiology? [10:00]
      • Questions You Need To Ask Yourself If You Had a “Great” Childhood [19:00]
      • Allostatic Load And The Intersection Between Health and Security [24:00]
      • How To Start Hard A Conversation [34:00]
      • A Psychobiological Look At Emotions & Hormones [41:00]
      • Listener Question: How Responsible Are We For Our Partner’s Feelings? [49:00]
      • Listener Question: How Does Stan Address Sexual Desire Discrepancies? [55:00]

    HELPFUL LINKS

 

A Special Lunchtime Webinar On Sex & Interactive Regulation
With Stan Tatkin, PysD
– Wednesday, December 5th at Noon MT, 2pm ET – 

We’re going to be talking about:

• Sex! What’s normal, expected, and how to have a great sex life • Creating a shared vision for your relationship (which is the key to a solid foundation) • Tools to prevent blowouts and problems with miscommunication • Examples of healthy and unhealthy interactions (sometimes the nuance can be very small, but the impact can be huge) • A few exercises you can bring into your partnership to develop a greater sense of intimacy and security • How to create a win-win outcome from conflict (stop playing win-lose!) Plus…

• Jayson will ask Stan YOUR questions about YOUR unique situation live

  GUEST BIO

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy®(PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice.

   

 

 

   

1 Comment

  1. Rich Featherly

    I didn’t get Stan at first when I started hearing his interviews with his publisher, Sounds True. Now I realize that he’s talking about safety of having all our needs met in our relationship, including autonomy. As one of you said, If you are trapped, that’s not safe.
    You were talking about safety in childhood as if it always depends on the family. My family was above average, so I had more resiliency factors than any trauma caused by family. I did however, have some very early experiences, strengthened by others later caused by medical procedures. First I was born with forceps, which was traumatic enough to leave bruises on my newborn head. Then I was circumcised. I saw a baby being circumcised when I was in nursing school. It is very traumatizing. Then at tree months old, I had a hernia operation, which might have something to do with the forceps delivery. Back then, doctors didn’t think infants could feel pain so only a paralytic is used with no other anesthesia. That had to be extremely traumatizing. Because of that trauma, I was a sickly kid and ended up with hospital stays at a time when family was not allowed to stay with their kids.. How about that for lack of safety. Once a kid is traumatized, he finds himself getting in trouble for things he doesn’t even know he did because of dissociation.and doesn’t hear what adults say to him because his brain is not tuned to the human voice in that state.
    Awesome show. Thanks and Happy holidays.

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