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100% Responsibility Vs When To Leave The Relationship & Other Relationship Questions – SC 56

Your relationship questions are answered in this episode. We cover a lot of ground. One theme is how to deal with “value” differences in an intimate relationship. This one is really good because it can tear a relationship apart trying to fit each other into your respective boxes of how you prefer they be.

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How long to wait for your partner to blend your families and get married? [7:15]
How can partners adapt in a relationship when one partner has a chronic illness? [11:45]
Why do men lie? [14:00]
What’s the reason our relationship improves when my man hangs out with this guy friends? [17:30]
How to tell your guy about erectile dysfunction without making it worse? [20:00]
What skills are best to use when you’re highly triggered and avoid an argument? [21:45]
How to keep childhood issues from breaking up your relationship? [23:45]
How do you know when to take 100% responsibility and when to leave a partner who is not willing to do the work? [26:00]
What if your ex is creating challenges for me to blend families with my new partner? [30:00]
When you have different values, what’s the best way to deal with that? [33:30]
Does it make sense to avoid dating men whose taxi light isn’t on, like Miranda said in Sex & The City?
What about when partners have opposite views on how to handle money in a relationship? [40:45]
Long-distance relationships: how do I get my man to show me that he’s emotionally ready to commit? [42:45]
What should a woman do with her kids when their dad just walks out? [44:15]
How to deal with a man who is emotionally unavailable? [46:45]
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The Purpose Of Relationship Pain – SC 55

Relationship pain has a very clear purpose. If you are hip to it, you’ll thrive in relationships. If you are uneducated here, you’ll run away and play the victim. Direct and to the point, I suggest a very important daily practice for you to strengthen your mindset about long-term partnership. Pain hurts indeed. And, what if pain was your ally in disguise?

SHOWNOTES

Your only two choices you have about your relationship pain [4:30]
What is one of the harshest versions of relational pain [6:00]
The first thing to NOT do when in relationship pain. [11:00]
The good news about pain and stress [15:45]
What happens when you just bounce from relationship to relationship. [17:00]
The link between your emotional pain and your numbing habits. [21:45]
What makes someone really unattractive. [25:00]

Relationship Pain Daily Practice

I have two choices with my relationship pain:

1. Use it to make me weaker by whining, complaining, and blaming others (or myself).
2. Use it to make me stronger by seeing it as my ally to master the lesson it’s bringing me.

It’s 100% of the time up to me to choose.

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Marriage After Kids, Are You Doomed? – SC 52

Does having children ruin your marriage? The stats are against most of you who get married and choose children. But why is this, and what can you and your spouse do about it? Find out this and so much more as Jayson & Ellen use their own story as another example of what’s possible during the hardest of times.

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A powerful definition of a mature person. [2:20]
The gloomy article on parenting that got Ellen and Jayson fired up. [6:15]
The negative view of marriage. [7:50]
How women are impacted after having a baby. [9:20]
The defining moment that Ellen remembers, but Jayson blocked out. [11:30]
The biggest factor that will impact your overall happiness in life [17:30]
What Ellen said to Jayson that hit him in the gut like a truck and woke him up big time. [21:45]
Ellen shares what Jayson does consistently that helps her show up more fully in their marriage and their family. [24:45]
An important perspective that can help you deliver your truth more effectively. [28:00]

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How & Why My Wife And I Chose Marriage – SC 50

In this episode, I bring on my better half, my wife to rock it out with me. We had fun exploring the early stages of our relationship and what had us “choose” each other. There are some funny and not so funny shares in this one. I’m grateful Ellen is joining us here and here’s to more to come from the two of us.

SHOWNOTES

How did Jayson and Ellen first meet? [9:07]
What you must learn about your partner before you decide to spend your life together. [14:30]
What had Ellen ask Jayson out? [15:05]
Shitty advice Jayson got from a therapist and an astrologer. [18:45]
How did Jayson overcome his “grass is always greener” pattern? [24:40]
One of Jayson’s best accomplishments of his life. [28:00]
The simple yet powerful distinction that Ellen did that allowed Jayson to choose to commit. [30:15]
How do you know if your partner is “The One”? [33:45]
A huge thing that must happen before you should even consider marriage. [35:00]
Jayson’s challenge to the listener, both for those in a relationship and single. [43:15]
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How To Deal With Value Differences – SC 49

In this episode, a listener asks about making your partner wrong and how to deal with them when you have very differing values. It’s a common challenge that some couples “wake up” to after being together a few years. And, it’s super tricky if you have kids and need to find common ground.

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The difference between making a partner wrong to avoid intimacy and doing it because of different values? [1:37]
How to parent when your parenting values are different? [3:40]
What you must learn about your partner before you decide to spend your life together. [5:10]

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Men And Their Relationship Issues – SC 48

In this short episode, I cover why men are so locked up relationally and 3 steps to help a guy transform this so that, you both can have a great relationship.

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