QUESTION
My husband’s parents have told me in the past (to them it’s funny) about how harsh they were with him as a baby and as a young child. This might explain why when our newborn has meltdowns he sometimes gets frustrated to the point of telling her to ‘shut up’ and at times handling her a little rougher than I feel comfortable with. I understand where my husband is coming from, given his past, but I refuse to allow my daughter to grow up with that kind of treatment or to allow her to be his experiment as he learns how to manage his hurt and frustration.
How can I approach my husband with concerns about how he treats our child?
– Christina in South Florida
SHOWNOTES
When your partner crosses the ‘safety’ line with your child [1:00]
The tricky game of setting boundaries in parenting [3:00]
If your partner is unwilling to change their parenting style [5:00]
What to do when you’ve reached your emotional limit with persistent tantrums [6:00]
This episode is for the male entrepreneur, a guy who is likely to have a hard time in romantic relationships. If you are dating or married to an entrepreneur, this podcast will help you. My guest Jordan Gray covers some of the main reasons why high-achieving male entrepreneurs struggle to find the same success in partnership as they might find in their businesses. From sexual dysfunction to relationships ending, Jordan will challenge you to take a few simple steps to earn your way into a great intimate partnership and it’s not about accomplishing more. You’ll have to think differently on this one…
SHOWNOTES
Jordan’s story [10:00]
The connection between sensitivity and self-awareness 21:00]
Can too much ‘self-reflection’ time cause depression and anxiety? [16:00]
The hidden reason we use the excuse that ‘there are no good men left’ [18:00]
‘Maximizing’ vs ‘Satisficing’ in relationship (and which one is better) [20:00]
How success-driven guys can develop sexual dysfunctions… and what to do about it [21:00]
Can you work 70 hours/week and still have a good relationship? [22:00]
How performance and achievement mindsets can block intimacy [24:00]
Overcoming limiting beliefs that kill your connection [28:00]
What to do if you’re feeling neglected by a busy, career-driven man [33:00]
How to get a super-busy man to unplug, reconnect and spend time together [34:00]
Why our libido is the first thing to shut down when we’re stressed [39:00]
Jordan Gray is a personal development author, and sex and relationship coach with nearly a decade of practice behind him. Jordan’s work has been featured in The Huffington Post, BBC, Self, Psychology Today, Business Insider, Yahoo!, Forbes, Elephant Journal, and countless other publications around the globe. Jordan has made it his life’s mission to make thriving relationships attainable to everyone.
Within two years of starting his website, Jordan had five #1 best-selling e-books on Amazon and, since launching, has reached an engaged audience of over 20 million people from around the world with his writing.
How do we not burn out our partner with our problems? Is it okay to have them be the only support system for us? What is a better set up? In this episode you’ll hear some feedback on why it’s important to c0-support each other and not just have it be one way.
Erica’s question:
Can you speak about dealing with a partner’s emotions during high stress and emotional times so that we can be both fulfilled?
SHOWNOTES
Erica’s question [2:00]
How to help your partner in a way that works for you [5:00]
Should you be seeking support outside of the relationship? [5:00]
How to avoid burning your partner out with your problems [6:00]
What you can do to take the pressure off the relationship in high-stress times [7:00]
Are you aware how your past negative experiences are shaping your current relationship reality? Well, they are and until you deal with those, it will be harder to get what you claim you want. In this episode my guest Mark Groves takes us on a deeper exploration about how negative beliefs can block your relationship potential. And some of those negative beliefs might be buried below your awareness. I’m so grateful for Mark’s gifts here and I think you’ll get a lot out of this episode. Especially if you like working your inner psychology. SHOWNOTES
How Mark got to being a “Human Connection Specialist” [7:00]
How do you know if they’re ‘The One’? [12:30]
A quick tip for when you need to make a difficult decision [18:00]
Finding the underlying core beliefs that keep you stuck in unconscious patterns [20:00]
How we sell ourselves out for security and safety [21:00]
Why people get married when they don’t really want to [24:00]
The power of subconscious narratives [25:00]
Redefining marriage to suit your relationship [28:00]
The difference between choosing marriage out of fear vs love [31:00]
How you can re-frame your internal narrative to dis-identify from negative thought patterns [42:00]
A powerful exercise to take ownership and responsibility for your life [44:00]
GUEST BIOHi, I’m Mark.I’m a Human Connection Specialist – an emotional translator, writer, speaker and coach.Learning how to connect with others is the single greatest predictor of success in every facet of our lives. So I set out to discover the secrets of those who thrive in love and life so I could become one. My research became my life, and I live everything I learn and write about.Through my work I help people understand their emotional matrix and how to master themselves and their words. I take what you think you want, find out what you really want, and give you the tools to achieve your goals.
How can a couple grow together and be truly happy if one of the parties has some underlying personal issues?
I dive into this question and offer Jeff some basic feedback that all of us need to hear about “issues.” If you think your partner has issues, this is going to help both of you, a lot!
SHOWNOTES
Whose ‘issues’ you need to beware of [3:00]
Do you have to be happy with yourself before you get into a relationship? [5:00]
The two decisions you need to make to deal with dysfunctional behaviour [8:00]
Feeling insecure in relationships is par for the course. So, wouldn’t it make sense to learn how to increase your confidence in a relationship? If you expect yourself to be “good” at relationship, your partner will show you over time where you are insecure and weak. So, listen to this episode as I interview 5 graduates of The Relationship School® and notice how they turned their confidence issues around.
SHOWNOTES
When insecurity leads to blaming your partner [2:00]
Why confidence needs to be earned [4:00]
Meet the Relationship School® coaches [6:00]
How confidence can change as you work on yourself [11:00]
Learning the skills to deal with fear in conflict instead of hiding out [12:00]
Owning sensitivity and vulnerability [13:00]
What sharing impact in relationship can do for you [14:00]
Knowing where you stand so you can build connection with others [21:00]