How can you get back together with your partner after breaking up?
As you’ll discover in my podcast from this week with Mark and Kylie, the trick isn’t just getting back together after a breakup, it’s getting back together as a team.
Getting back together after a breakup is the easy part, getting back together as a team is more difficult but ultimately more rewarding. It might take more work, but when you get back together as a team, you’re much more likely to actually stay together.
Don’t get stuck in the cycle of breaking up and making up. Center your journey towards a stronger and ultimately more stable relationship.
Mark and Kylie learned that the key to staying together is being honest, having integrity, being compassionate, recognizing and acknowledging each other’s truths, and communicating. For example, if you get back together with your partner after a breakup without making any changes and continue to be dishonest and uncompassionate while refusing to acknowledge your partner’s truths, needs, and values, that relationship will fail again.
Why put yourself, your partner, or both through a tortuous cycle of breaking up, getting back together, and breaking up again? Each breakup inflicts pain and lasting trauma on both parties. By avoiding that cycle, you both need to make an effort to commit to renewing and strengthening your relationship by confronting and fixing all of the issues that led to your breakup in the first place.
Couples that get back together without dealing with the issues that caused the breakup are at a much higher risk of relapsing into old behaviors and breaking up again because no effort was made to change those behaviors.
When you listen to my podcast with Mark and Kylie, you’ll see that they represent a major success story as a couple. They broke up, got back together, and stayed together.
That’s huge, and if your goal is to get back together with your partner after breaking up and strengthen your relationship as a team, you’ll want to hear what Mark and Kylie had to say…
- 0:00 Introduction Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath
- 4:45: Explaining the reasons that caused their breakup.
- 12:45 Deciding to break up and how to do it.
- 18:00 Carrying issues from one relationship to another.
- 28:05 The evolution of their attachment dynamics
- 42:30 The process of reconciliation to get back together.
- 53:50 Final advice.
- 58:10 Action Step
- Accepted and connected event