In times like these when a lot is written in the media about conflicts in different parts of the world, it can be a good idea to carefully consider how we can learn to communicate better in our most intimate relationships.
Or rather, the relationships we wish would be the most intimate!
This class of the Relationship School is about one of the tools that has meant the most for our own relationship...
Once upon a time there was a bridge across the river of love!
A relationship consists of three parts, you, your partner and the actual relationship. Imagine that relationship as a bridge between you and your partner. Then imagine two people living together in a relationship.
They originally met in some context, a feeling is awoken inside each of them, they take a liking to each other, love arises along with a series of expectations, both conscious and unconscious that we believe and hope that the other person will fulfill.
Then time passes, the two have become a couple and spend much of their everyday life together. After that time, some of the expectations and hope are slowly starting to fade away. It turns out that your partner did not have some of those qualities that you were hoping for. Maybe he or she failed to meet some of your expectations.
Unconsciously, we'll stop to listen. We believe that we have listened. However, we have not listened with enough presence to understand the other person's ways of thinking, feeling and behaving. We have only listened well enough to be able to formulate our own arguments in a way that we think will protects us, or to make a decision about whether we want to remain in the relationship or not.
This is the time and place when we instead need to leave our own baggage behind and make a conscious choice to stand on the middle of the bridge and curiously study our partners world.
Listening and reflecting that which we hear, without interpreting or judging. Only from this position can we lay the foundation for a love that is conscious, sustained and filled with life.
Article: The bridge over the river of love!
This class's article is about this particular bridge across the river of love and how we can learn to use it in a way that allows us to finally get the love we want. The article can be found as usual on the link below. If you can not click on the link, you can also copy and paste it into your favourite browser.
As always, you can also download the text so that you can print it or read it in the comfort of your own computer.
'I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.'
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