It is our hope that you understand the content of this number of the Relationship School.

This time it is about a simple but challenging perspective that can change even the most problematic relationships.

With love,

The difference between being understood or understanding!

Are you a person that in your relationships with other people most often strive to be understood or to understand others? Which you choose, especially when you get into conflicts or quarrels, will be very crucial for whether you and the other person grow closer or apart, whether you become happier or unhappier together.

The first time we were confronted with this perspective on relationships was through a good friend, Bo. We were completely blown away by how simple and yet fundamentally profound these two focuses are in our relationships.

We would argue that in all discussions and conflicts that are in a downward spiral of negativity, where the parties feel constrained or where the heat of the confrontation grows stronger, it comes down to that too much focus is on making themselves understood, instead of engaging in understanding the other party.

To create understanding there is a golden tool in being able to ask questions. Ask with the starting point of understanding the other person's worldview. Embark on a shared journey through each other's internal paradigms and visions of the world. To understand another human being, you have to walk a number of miles in their moccasins.

Article: Have you understood that it's not about being understood?

This class's article is about trying to be understood or to seek to understand and the difference this can make in our relationships. The article can be found as usual on the link below. If you can not click on the link, you can also copy and paste it into your favourite browser.


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"Peace can not be sustained by force, it can only be attained through understanding."

(Albert Einstein)

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