Whatever you choose, consciously or unconsciously, to value most in life will have a dominant influence on the shape of your life and your relationships. It will affect your choices, it will affect who you choose to share your life with and it will affect how happy you will be.
Note that we write that this is what you choose to value most. That is, you have the opportunity to influence your choice. It presupposes that you make the choice consciously instead of unconsciously.
We constantly encounter situations in our lives that makes us think, act and make decisions. Our actions and decisions are largely based on our values. Values help us to take a position on various issues and many of these values, we have taken over from people who meant and mean a lot to us, but look at them as if they were our own.
Two main categories of values
A valuation is ultimately a condition which we strive to achieve. We can divide the values into two main categories; states and instruments. State values are often feelings, emotional states, which I value most in life and that I strive to achieve. Instrument values, we can also call means, they are things I value, but if we dig a little deeper they are means or instruments on the way to my state values.
An example of an instrument value is money. Maybe I value money very highly, it is important to me in life and this affects my choices. In reality though, money is only an instrument to achieve a feeling or condition, such as joy. In this case, I probably associate that when I have a lot of money, then I will feel happy.
Examples of values
Examples of state values are love, joy, abandonment, health etc. Examples of instrument values are nature, money, career, success etc. It can differ from person to person what we define as a state value or a instrument value. You may want to ask yourself if the current valuation is a ends value, meaing a state value, or if it really is a tool to experience a deeper state, which would classify it as an instrument value.