Become a Certified Relationship School® Coach!
Help Others Effectively With Their Relationship Challenges & Finally Claim Your Dream Job.
Primarily you will learn The 5 Building Blocks Of Effective Relationship Coaching
Setting the context for the coaching experience
Become a Certified Relationship School® Coach!
Dear natural born helper,
This message is for you if you are a therapist, coach, or a natural born helper of some kind…
If your superpower is helping others, I’m looking for a small group of helpers that want to learn how to “coach” others more effectively and efficiently around their relationship challenges.
My guess is that you were the type of person as a boy or a girl, that had to help someone or you got really good at helping. Maybe it was helping a depressed parent, or a hurt sibling, or you were just the one tracking all the crazy family dynamics. Maybe you were the person your friends went to on the playground when they were hurt. And maybe you are still in this role in your friend circle, or even in your intimate relationship.
Maybe you chose a service-oriented career helping others.
If any of the above are true, congratulations, you are naturally set up to be good at helping others.
However, your skills are probably limited because you may be making the same mistake so many helpers make. You help from your childhood strategy to get approval/love and avoid losing connection. Or maybe you have a habit of helping someone when they are not asking for it. Or maybe, you think it’s your duty to rescue people.
But the truth is none of the above are truly helping people.
In fact, when you think you know how to help someone when they are not asking for help, you rob them of the opportunity to fail, fall down, make mistakes, and pick themselves back up, which is where transformation happens.
If you want to breakthrough these limited ways of helping others and sharpen that natural helping sword, I’d like to invite you to become a relationship coach. It will be an extraordinary transformational experience for you. Plus you can get paid to use your superpower and do what you love.
If you want to attend one of the best relationship coaches training on the planet, then I want you to consider training with The Relationship School® in our apprentice program.
After you apply, I will speak with you personally for as long as we need to help you take the leap with the other brave souls about to make this journey. It’s our 5th training, and I’m only accepting a small group of people while being very selective.
You are also welcome to speak with anyone from the program last year to hear about their experience. Just ask and we’ll put you in contact after you apply.
Regardless, if you’re feeling called because you are already a coach, therapist, or natural born helper, then apply now and we can get to your questions later.
I only have 20 slots total.
Will you join us?
Jayson, Founder | The Relationship School®
Are You A Natural Born Helper?
Ready to learn how to help others and get paid for doing what you love?
Hurry and get your application in now!
The Relationship School®’s coaches training program is a rigorous 9-month crucible where you not only learn how to guide someone through their relationship challenges, but you help yourself along the way.
Any good coach is relentless about his or her inner work. The smart coach knows your own “stuff” will impede the coaching process so in this training you will examine all the ways in which you have helped others in the past and get a serious upgrade on how to help people more effectively.
Most coaching programs are a few weeks long and are overly simplistic in nature. This training goes to the heart of the healing relationship and also pushes you to sharpen your helping skills and hone them toward more and more effective ways of truly helping someone.
Because Jayson was a psychotherapist for 10 years, he understands the healing and transformational process of human journey. So, this training also takes the best of psychotherapy and psychology and infuses the coaching process with a depth that is unparalleled in any other coaching program.
If you want to face yourself this year and get better tools to assist you in your own journey as well as helping others, this training is probably a good fit.
If you want to step into and claim your essence as a healer/helper/guide/coach, this training is the spot.
Are you ready to start getting paid well for your superpower?
Prerequisite to apply
Have taken the Relationship as a Path Foundations 8 week course
Have taken DPIR
Are a coach or therapist already
You are hungry to serve others and get more skilled at doing so
WHAT YOU GET
If you train hard, you will become a Level 1 Relationship Coach
You’ll get 3 live in-person training weekends here in Boulder Colorado
17 virtual training sessions
Real clients that you start coaching immediately.
The Level 1 Five building blocks of effective relationship coaching
Massive boost in your self- confidence, knowing you have completely transformed this part of your life
Belonging to a growth-development tribe that knows who you really are because you’ve been through this huge rite of passage together
Noticed. Because other people will be like “WTF happened to him/her? She/He is so solid.”
An opportunity to join our Certified Coaches community
What makes our coaching approach so effective and unique?
Please read the below sections as they answer some of the most common questions we get about this training.
What makes my work different than circling?
I’ve done a lot of circling and incorporate some of it’s principles in my work. However, circling’s primary focus seems to be about understanding someone in the present moment while continually dropping your agenda. To co-discover and co-explore connection, like a relational mediation. Circling is about exploring connection and helping one feeling deeply seen and understood. It does not offer a map for how to do a long-term relationship, dissolve trauma or emotional charges from the past. Circling offer little to no maps, education or training on long-term partnership or monogamy. It’s not what it’s about.
This type of circling is a small slice of what theThe Relationship School® offers and it falls under pillar 3 of my work.
My work is steeped in the context of romantic monogamous partnerships. It incorporates 4 pillars one must have to thrive in a long-term relationship.
1- Map- the indestructible view. Vajrayana buddhism meets neuroscience.
2-Compass- understanding values, your true north, what you stand for, and how to communicate them
3-Tools- Over 40 relational tools including boundary setting, the 180 (how to dissolve emotional charges and trauma from your past), 5 steps to listening, 3 steps to speaking, non-negotiable needs, how to work through conflict, etc.
4-Fuel- How to create a safe, secure adult relationship using principles from adult attachment and neurobiology. We study the brain and autonomic nervous system in the context of long-term partnership.
My map and model come from my own experience with countless couples and individuals in the context of relationship and partnership as well as I live and breathe this in my own successful marriage of 10 years (together 14) while co-parenting 2 young kids.
Our core class is the class is the 2-semester class your never got in college called The Deep Psychology Of Intimate Relationships and it basically explores how relationships really work and how to do them successfully.
Our next level class is the apprentice program and it trains you to become a certified level 1 relationship coach. Also a 9 month training that starts at $8500.
We also have a larger vision of reaching a million young adults with our work, teaching them how to create safe successful romantic relationships. Every day our mission is aligned with this.
So, there is a HUGE difference between what I’m doing and circling is. Is one better than the other? Not really. I think circling and The Relationship School® are just VERY different and it depends on what your goals are.
What makes our work different than traditional therapy trainings?
Most therapeutic trainings are done in graduate school, typically lasting 2-3 years and cover a wide range of psychology, human behavior, and mental illness. Primarily they are taught from a “medical model” perspective which assumes the client or patient is broken or there is something fundamentally wrong with them. Using the DSMV, you are taught to diagnose and treat symptoms of psychological problems.
Another paradigm that is reinforced is the notion that you stories from the past, particularly about your parents, are one-sided. For example, a therapist might probe into your past and help you see that your relationship issues are a result of your traumatic or neglectful childhood experiences. They reinforce the notion that you’re parents “were not there for you.” and further embed the “story” that you were abandoned or abused and thus colludes to blame your past for your present situation.
There are some excellent theraputic training programs that seek to resolve specific issues such as trauma. These training programs have a very niched focus and the best of them will help you work with that specific modality. For example, the PACT model of couples therapy is a deep dive into adult attachment, but most of the time you have to be a practicing therapist to join a training like this, which requires 2-3 year masters program beforehand. Another good training is Somatic Experiencing. This training is a “bottom up” training to help you work with trauma very specifically.
Here at The Relationship School®, we are holder a much wider, and deeper, perspective on the human condition. We don’t see anyone as broken, nor do we reinforce your stories. We challenge your stories and help you see that the greatest lessons in life are found in your pain and we help you see the wisdom in the adversity you experienced in your childhood so you can grow from it and become an empowered human being, especially in the context of an adult love relationship.
What makes our work different than traditional coaching programs?
Want to become a coach? Look online and you can find any number of 8 – 12 week coaching programs where you can become a coach, just by reading and studying material on life coaching.
Coaching is growing at an exponential rate because of short coaching programs are a dime a dozen, making it easy for you to “coach” people right away. These types of coaching programs produce very superficial results and do not get at the root issues that lead to lasting change. Instead they seek to change symptoms by helping you set goals and focus on the future, instead of the past.
We use the term “coach” because that’s what the market understands. But in reality, we are deeply soulful healers, helpers, and guides. By stepping onto a “coaching” path with The Relationship School®, you become a “Cultural Evolutionist” because you are evolving the culture through relationship. I’m pretty sure this is the deepest coaching program in the World because it’s run by a former therapist (of 10 years) who is relentless about personal growth and development and constantly working on himself. I’ve tried just about every modality and studied with masters from fields of Gestalt therapy, Sensori-motor psychotherapy, EMDR, Buddhist psychotherapy, Wilderness therapy, Family therapy, Integral, System theory, Men’s work, Interpersonal Neurobiology, Attachment therapy, & The Demartini Method to name a few. So, this training is getting infused with my over 15 years in the professional field working with just about every condition.
Should I go to graduate school instead of this training?
I get asked this a lot so I thought I’d speak to it here.
Graduate school takes time and is often good for people who want a very traditional, conventional approach to helping people suffering from “mental illness.” The main goal is to become a counselor or psychotherapist. See above.
Grad school is also for people who want an MA or they are after credentials such as MSW, LPC, or LCSW, etc. This is great for people that want to go work at a government agency that treats people for mental illness (mental health centers, public clinics, women’s shelters, homeless shelters, addiction centers, etc) or a private agency that works with specific populations (privileged therapeutic programs for teens or families, a private eating disorder agency, and addiction treatment centers). If you work for the public or private, you will most certainly be using diagnosis and labeling to treat the patients and clients.
That’s not to say, you cannot open your own private practice, but you will be taking longer than a coaching program to get that up and running. For example, I did a 3 year master’s degree and after graduation I worked for a year in a therapeutic wilderness program as a family therapist, then I slowly started my private practice a year later, while working for various agencies. So I wasn’t seeing private clients until 4 years after my grad program started.
The bottom line here is that graduate school is for people who want to take a traditional route, get credentials, study a wide variety of the human condition and mental health, and graduate as a counselor.
Julie did so many things well. She was really good with boundaries and time (starting on time, ending on time). Really good listening and holding. Structured. It felt like she created a really safe space for us to explore what we needed to and gave us tools when needed. Coming out of coaching I now feel much better communication with my partner. We were pretty good but she had us get more precise with our language and listening skills. I feel much more confident at navigating challenges together. She also helped us to do some really important work around needs. For me, it helped me to get clear and precise around my needs and in relationship with my partner. Cecilia
2019 Apprentice (RC1) Schedule
We will have Virtual Classes every other Tuesday. All of the dates are to the right.
These calls will all happen through Zoom. When we have the link to sign up for the calls, we will send it to you and post it here.
Virtual Classes 2019
February 5, 12:30pm
February 19, 12:30pm
March 5, 12:30pm
March 19, 12:30pm
April 2, 12:30pm
April 16, 12:30pm
April 30, 12:30pm
May 14, 12:30pm
Virtual Classes 2019
June 25, 12:30pm
August 13, 12:30pm
August 27, 12:30pm
September 10, 12:30pm
September 24, 12:30pm
October 8, 12:30pm
October 29, 12:30pm
Boulder Inn, 770 28th Access Rd.
June 12-14, 2019
Boulder Inn, 770 28th Access Rd.
October 22-25, 2019
Boulder Inn, 770 28th Access Rd.
(Subject to change)