Select Page

How to Deal With The Distancer-Pursuer Dynamic (Part 1) – SC 71

By Jayson
September 28, 2016

Apple Podcast buttonGoogle Podcast button

 

One of the most common issues in a partnership is the distancer/pursuer dynamic. What is going on here and how do you deal with a partner who needs a lot or one who is distancing. In the first of our two part series, Ellen and I help the pursuers (connectors) understand and deal with your distancing partner.

SHOWNOTES

  • What is the pursuer/distancer dynamic? [10:30]
  • What’s going on with the distancer when they are asking for time and space? [12:30]
  • What 2 things do you need to balance when dealing with someone who is distancing. [17:30]
  • The single focus trap that pursuers can fall into. [21:30]
  • How time agreements can make re-connecting easier. [25:30]
  • The positive side of being someone who is a distancer? [26:30]
  • Quick review of the 5 tips [28:00]
  • How this dynamic can be different in a marriage vs dating. [29:00]
  • Jayson’s action step for the listener [33:00]


HELPFUL LINKS

 

 

2 Comments

  1. Elena Sartore

    Very good. .. I am the distanced and i feel scared and very emotional .
    So I need some space to look at things from a different prospective. .. and heal myself.
    My pursuer is getting frustrated and angry.
    You are right I need to communicate in some way that I need some space. A good glance at him and he will understand…

    Reply
  2. Ashley

    Yes!!!!
    Totally me, and my situation

    Reply

Trackbacks/Pingbacks

  1. What I am learning about communication and relationships studying AI | Wenda aan het Werk - […] https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/how-to-deal-with-the-distancer-pursuer-dynamic-part-1-sc-71/https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/how-to-deal-with-the-distancer-pursuer-dynamic-part-2-sc-72/ […]

Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Listen more podcast episodes

Share This