Why do people get complacent in long-term relationships? Jayson and Ellen discuss a situation where a couple mutually decided to put their marriage on the back burner to avoid conflict. What are the drawbacks of using complacency as a coping mechanism? Is ignoring your relational needs in order to avoid conflict a sustainable long-term strategy? Tune in to learn how to break out of the complacency trap and get real with your partner today.
Timestamps:
2:22 – Using complacency to avoid conflict
5:30 – Is being complacent okay if it reduces conflict?
7:29 – The drawbacks of complacency as a conflict avoidance strategy
8:37 – When relationship feels like a demand instead of a gift
This is a pretty charged issue. On the one hand, some people really believe divorce is one of the major causes of problems in children. On the other hand, newer research suggests that kids are fine coming from divorced families, and in fact may even be more resilient and capable of handling life’s challenges. If you really think divorce is going to mess up your kids, think again…
Timestamps:
The erroneous assumption that comes along with divorce statistics [3:30]
What is the real issue here? [8:40]
The problem with divorce/marriage research [12:20]
What I suggest you do if you are in a dead marriage [15:40]
What can you learn from divorced people and what can you learn from people who have been married for a decade or two? What are the main differences? There are two and we cover them in this episode with author Mark Manson. We also explore how Mark navigated a big challenge with his now wife and why self-improvement and self-awareness are so essential to long-term partnership.
Timestamps:
1:03 – Episode introduction
4:36 – Mark Manson’s backstory
8:52 – Common issues and challenges
10:42 – Healthy boundaries
15:28 – How important is it for couples to have friends outside their relationship?
17:13 – Challenges in marriage and how to get through them
26:04 – Is respect more important than communication?
31:17 – How school ill prepares us for life
33:57 – What can we learn from people who have been divorced?
Explore the wilderness of Colorado with Jayson and Ellen in this upcoming episode. Their backpacking adventure takes an unexpected turn which leads to thought-provoking insights about human interactions, relationships, and the delicate balance between self-expression and consideration for others. Tune in to this discussion that will inspire you to reflect on your own interactions and the impact of your actions on those around you.
This week Jayson welcomes back a returning guest and good friend, Mark Divine. Together, they discuss the stages of human development, emphasizing the importance of maturing, resolving emotional issues, and achieving full integration as individuals. They cover diverse aspects, from self-connection to various spiritual paths, authentic leadership, and simplifying life for a more meaningful existence. Join Jayson and Mark for a journey into personal evolution and a reflection on the impact of technology on relationships.
Timestamps:
0:46 – Guest introduction
7:04 – Levels of development
9:33 – The five stages
17:12 – Relational development
20:41 – Four frameworks
25:28 – Working on yourself through relationship
27:34 – Spiritual development
30:56 – Doing relational work as a man
36:18 – Moving from doing to being
39:14 – Is distraction a defense mechanism?
41:56 – Being present with your kids
45:11 – Digital distractions
51:51 – Making Integral Theory digestible
54:59 – Dissolving polarity
58:46 – Escaping the maze of victimhood
1:02:17 – What are Mark and Jayson up to currently?
Join Jayson and Ellen as they discuss insights from a transformative two-day retreat. From conflict management to embracing the unknown, they uncover using relationships as a path to self-discovery. Tune in for an authentic journey of growth that reshapes your view on human connections.
Timestamps:
2:28 – What happens on a two day retreat with Jayson?
9:53 – Accepting challenges as learning experiences
13:20 – Don’t lose your relationship to yourself
16:31 – What does Buddhism have to say about ending the cycle of suffering?
21:06 – What is The Path?
23:37 – What makes relationships a good development path?
26:11 – How long does it take for someone to understand relationship as a development path?
