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How to Speak Up If You Are Unhappy With A Partner, Family, & Coworkers – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 455

How to Speak Up If You Are Unhappy With A Partner, Family, & Coworkers – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 455

 

 

Why do people hesitate to speak up in relationships? And how do you speak up  if you are unhappy and unfulfilled in a relationship?  Why do you even need to speak up at that point, right? Many of us fear conflict and believe that speaking up will only make things worse. But let’s challenge that notion. Is it a good enough reason to keep your thoughts and feelings hidden? The answer is a resounding no.

The truth is, when we don’t speak up, resentment builds. We start to feel a boundary being crossed, and instead of addressing it, we silently grow more and more frustrated. This is often seen in long-term partnerships and marriages, where uncomfortable topics are swept under the rug, creating a cage of unspoken truths. In the workplace, not speaking up can have its consequences too. You may find yourself seeking validation from others who share your frustrations, creating triangles that only reinforce your silence. It’s time to break free from this cycle.

In this episode Jayson and Ellen encourage you to find your voice, to share your truth, and to express your needs and desires. It’s about reclaiming your power in relationships and fostering an environment where both partners have equal say, share leadership, and value each other’s perspectives. It’s time to speak up and create a foundation of trust, understanding, and genuine connection. Join us and discover the freedom and fulfillment that comes with being true to yourself.

Timestamps:

  • 2:54 – Why don’t people in unhappy relationships speak up?
  • 8:43 – The cost of not speaking up at work
  • 13:47 – The self-betrayal of not speaking up
  • 23:08 – How to start the conversation about holding back
  • 30:00 – Setting boundaries with family
  • 32:52 – Setting boundaries in the workplace
  • 36:21 – Action steps

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Relationship As A Personal Development Path – Jayson Gaddis – 454

Relationship As A Personal Development Path – Jayson Gaddis – 454

 

 

Are you tired of feeling unfulfilled in your relationships or like something is missing from your life? Have you achieved success and acquired material possessions, yet still long for a deeper sense of happiness and purpose? It’s time to shift your perspective and embrace a new way of approaching relationships.

This episode explores Jayson’s journey of self-discovery after embracing Buddhism’s core teachings. He realized that relationships are about more than just happiness or meeting needs. Instead, they offer a path to wholeness and freedom. It is your relationships that can serve as catalysts for your personal growth and ultimate liberation.

Now it’s your turn to learn how to become a more authentic version of yourself by joining the transformational adventure. Imagine seeing your relationships as pathways to self-discovery and fulfillment, where every interaction is an opportunity for personal growth. Whether you are single, married, or have children, this episode will help you unlock the hidden potential within your most profound relationships. In addition to giving you an understanding of how life works, it will also teach you how to navigate its challenges gracefully and resiliently.

Are you ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and embrace your Relationships As A Personal Development Path?

Consider joining Jayson on his upcoming 2-day retreat and unlocking the transformative power of your most important connections. Your hero’s journey awaits.

To learn more and deepen your understanding of Relationship As A Personal Development Path visit relationshipschool.com/path and stay tuned for more information at the end of our episode.

Timestamps:

  • 3:45 – Do you like who you are?
  • 5:08 – Using high stakes relationships as a tool for personal development
  • 8:28 – Religion and other spiritual frameworks
  • 16:52 – Relationship as a spiritual path
  • 21:03 – Action step

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Healing Relational Trauma in the Body – Sharon Stanley – 453

Healing Relational Trauma in the Body – Sharon Stanley – 453

 

 

Unsure why certain interactions with loved ones get you so upset? Ever struggle to relate to the hardship of others?

Psychotherapist Sharon Stanley says the issue could be trauma, trauma you may not even be aware you have. Once we assess our own trauma we can begin exercising our senses and become more compassionate to others.

According to Sharon, we owe it to ourselves and to each other to consider the pain in our pasts, only then can we embody true empathy!

Timestamps:

  • 5:56 – How Sharon became interested in trauma
  • 9:16 – What is it like to work with trauma?
  • 14:08 – How does being present help treat trauma?
  • 23:34 – The cost of not dealing with trauma
  • 28:04 – Childhood neglect and trauma
  • 33:42 – Issues caused by trauma
  • 37:31 – Sharon’s advice for young people
  • 39:52 – Action step

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Codependent Relationships: Signs, Symptoms, and How to Change It – Jayson Gaddis – 452

Codependent Relationships: Signs, Symptoms, and How to Change It – Jayson Gaddis – 452

 

 

Most people have a little bit of codependency going on. However, if you have a relationship that is based on codependency, you’re probably feeling insecure and frustrated.

In this episode, Jayson covers the signs and symptoms of codependency, the history of the term, how it “works” and what to do about it. You’ll want to check this out! To sign up for our next Masterclass click HERE.

Timestamps:

  • 4:03 – What is codependency?
  • 11:36 – Signs you might be experiencing codependency
  • 16:21 – What are you getting out of hurtful relationship patterns?
  • 18:24 – Increasing your self worth
  • 20:00 – Other ways to do relationship
  • 22:04 – Take action

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Less Overthinking, Secure Functioning, and 2 Actions for Relationship Success – Stan Tatkin – 451

Less Overthinking, Secure Functioning, and 2 Actions for Relationship Success – Stan Tatkin – 451

 

Renowned relationship expert, Stan Tatkin, joins Jayson and Ellen in discussing the concept of secure functioning and how it can transform your partnership. Introducing “In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them” This is not your typical self-help book filled with abstract theories and jargon. Instead, it offers practical guidance and actionable steps to help you and your partner thrive.

Join us as we break down the complexities of couples therapy, emphasizing the importance of immediate action to stop the damage before delving into long-term growth. Witness the power of small agreements and the transformative potential of finding relief and care in each other. Gain insights into the mindset shift required to build a thriving relationship and move beyond self-centeredness towards genuine connection.

Don’t miss out on this enlightening episode that challenges conventional wisdom and offers practical strategies for building healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Timestamps:

  • 4:37 – In Each Other’s Care
  • 6:59 – Vertical learning
  • 12:56 – Building containers
  • 22:28 – Stop it or do it
  • 30:34 – What to do about threat buildup
  • 36:30 – Needing space vs. needing to talk
  • 43:09 – Couples therapy vs. individual therapy
  • 46:44 – Do attachment styles change over time?
  • 54:13 – Commitment
  • 59:01 – Stan’s advice for high school kids

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AMA- Angry Partner, Receiving Criticism, Not Asking Our Partner Questions – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 450

AMA- Angry Partner, Receiving Criticism, Not Asking Our Partner Questions – Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder – 450

 

On this AMA episode we tackle important questions from listeners. Inna is dealing with her boyfriend’s anger issues and wonders if breaking up is the only solution. Kendra seeks advice on how to handle criticism from her husband. Stay tuned as Jayson and Ellen answer more insightful questions and offer guidance on building healthy and fulfilling relationships.

Timestamps:

  • 1:37 – Dealing with an angry partner
  • 13:21 – Receiving criticism
  • 25:48 – Not asking our partner questions

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